Blowjob mistake

[Anonymous]

I am embarrassed to say this but I'm not very good at giving blowjobs. I have a new boyfriend now, and I'm trying very hard to make it good for him. There are a lot of questions about giving better blowjobs on here and I've tried, and I also get him to tell me what to do to make it feel better, but he gets frustrated with me easily and makes me stop. The other day, I was trying really hard and I seemed to be doing better. He didn't need to tell me what to do and actually moaned a few times. I was so excited I was actually pleasing him. I was so thrilled I thought I was finally making him happy, I got extremely wet myself. Well, after going for twice as long as I normally do because he normally makes me stop, he was trying to go a little deeper. I had been practicing getting rid of my gag reflex, and was doing alright. Though at one point, it was there for a little too long, and I accidentally threw up. He was obviously very displeased. After cleaning up his thing, we switched to sex. (it was missionary where he holds my legs up). So I never find I can do much in the position. After sex, I asked him if it was better. I was trying to figure out if I was on the right track minus the puking. He said he had no idea what I was talking about yea you did a great job just lying there. I was kinda devastated. I managed not to cry though. Didn't want to embarrass myself further. He asked me what had gotten me wetter than ever before. Well I was too embarrassed to tell him it was because I thought I had been pleasing him for once, because I obviously hadn't. Will he dump me if I can't get better? Is puking on him even forgivable? How will I know I'm doing it right, I'm too embarrassed to ever ask again? Also, once I accidentally brushed him with my teeth. I put my lips over my teeth now to make sure that doesn't happen again. But now, sometimes when its rougher, the inside of my lips will bleed. How can I prevent that?

[beckysue]

Wow. I'm sure he'll forgive you for throwing up, if he wasn't forcing it so far into the back of your throat it wouldn't have happened anyway. You should try to make sure he's also pleasing you as well though. Be really honest with him. Tell him you think you give a crappy blow job, and if he doesn't like it, you won't do it. Done. I'm sure it will be fine. As far as sex goes, try to toss it up a little, try new positions, new places are exciting, too. For the oral sex, try using a flavored lubricant. When you go deep into your throat just enough to gag a little it gives that really good slimy spit that guys love, like the porn star spit. Cracks me up but they love it. Also, it's important to play with his balls, with your hand, put them in your mouth, suck, lick that kind of thing. I know a few guys who really enjoy their taints licked as well, but I think that varies based on the guy.

There are things you can buy, either by Kama Sutra or a newer one by a brand called Shunga, they're basically the same thing, they kind of numb your mouth and throat and make you drooley. They're great for blowjobs but also work well as a prolonger when used on the penis, or an aid to numb things up for anal sex. They can be purchased at a sex toy store or online.

I don't think he'll dump you, and if he does, he's an asshole. A good man will make you feel as amazing in the bedroom as you want to make him feel, and he WON'T put you down or embarass you.

[luciaa]

oh girl. I hope this guy appreciates how hard you are trying, if he doesn't he is a total, total idiot. Men can seriously be insensitive, and by that I mean say things that hurt your feelings without meaning to. I hope this is what happened about the you just lying there thing.

Many of us, try so hard to be sexy and give the guy what will make him happy, that can make us just as turned on as the man trying to please us.

Brush off the worries, it happens. Learn from it. If this guy sticks around that is a good sign, that he is kind and good. If he dumps you for this, he is a jerk and you deserve a better partner. By the way, if you do happen to have sex with him again, see if he initiates the bj. If he doesn't, take that as a clue that you might want to give that a rest for a while.

[blah52]

I don't really see why he would be mad about the puking thing,depending on how she was feeling about it I'd probably laugh if it happened to me, not in a mean way, but in a body functions are funny way.

As far as his comment, it may have been a lapse of judgment or a joke that came out wrong. Most guys are happy to have a girl that's trying to make sex better.

[ArizonaRX]

This guy sounds like a total d***. No wonder why girls come on here all bent out of shape to give a BJ. Good god.

"He was trying to go a little deeper".. Well it's his fault not yours. He pushed too deep and it gagged you. Oh well, may-be next time he'll learn to let you do it and not force you to go deeper.

You should have just bit his nut sack off.

[Iamyourgirl]

Hun I know a few tricks just send me a pm if ya need any help

[imwatcinu]

I need help want to help me

[wierdfetish15]

Puking can be forgiven but for me it would have turn me on especially in the moment but if someone can say u did a good job layin the there says a lot anout that person... Just sayin

[gringoloveslatinas89]

silly girl, men love it when you puke on their dick!!! keep doing it!!