How soon do you expect to get to second base with someone you RESPECT?

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& might want a relationship with as apposed to someone you just want sexually ?

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enlightenment Yoda
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Oui...those are hard questions because there are so many factors involved. I say hold out for the 4th-5th date. But I usually make guys wait a while before they get ANYTHING from me. If a guy can stick around without any action it usually means he is in it for you.
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- Asker
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  What if you have known him for 3 years & you guys have been spending lots of time together for a couple of months & you like him enough for a relationship but you are not planning on getting into one - you will be traveling soon- lol do not want I to think I am easy but I am not here for very long. Like I kissed him - which I would not usually do... BUT I am leaving soon. I wanted to remember what it felt like.. So I worried that if it escalated he would think I am ALWAYS like that.
- enlightenment
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  Hmmmm...ESPECIALLY if you are leaving soon I would not do anything like that. Trust me, kissing is great, its romantic and sweet, but unless you are going to be here after the 2nd base then I would just not do it. ALso, if you guys have been friends for so long and just started dating, then I would still make him wait. You never know, really, you will be happy you held out just a bit longer.
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  No we didn't ever become friends.. We started dating as soon as we met. He had liked me for a long time- I guess I never noticed him, one day I noticed him, we started talking & two weeks later we were 'together' -I was leaving soon then too - lol I travel a lot it isn't that I'm running away. So anyways w are not quite friends - there is too much tension - I think. We get weird around each other . I kissed-I wanted to because I'm leaving, but I think he thought it meant more & I don't know what 2 do
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- Asker
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  Also I do ont know if I will be back before he leaves for a few months & then I might be gone again - I really do not know when the next time I will see him will be & even IF I will... Oh, & I wasn't sure what you meant by this : " unless you are going to be here after the 2nd base then I would just not do it" here as in in the city or the room - what? lol
- enlightenment
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  So you are only going away for a short time? Then I would hang out with him, kiss him lots...and then tell him you hope your paths will cross again soon someday. Don't try and make something now when you don't know when you'll see him next. But let him know you like him and are willing to go a little ways, but not more than that with you leaving soon! Kiss him, hang out and have a good time, but let him know that is it for now and you will have to see what happens in the future
- Asker
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  Thank you. I agree, I never planned on doing anything more than kiss him I actually planned on just ONE KISS He thought it meant I wanted a relationship sex or both lol Anyways I do ont think he fully believed when I explained things to him He started worrying about us starting something Finally we agreed to just kiss nothing more -great idea lol Things escalated & he ended up putting my hand near his penis lol I was too surperised tothink about it I just stopped it all & 'left' 4 work.
- Asker
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  (I'm asking you cause your name is enlightenment ^ ^) I not sure what to think- I do not intend to have sex with him, Idid not explain that because he said he didn't want to So I figured it was unecessary & I did not want to explain that I have never had sex before. I do not know if a guy can 'accidentally' do that- hand/penis:( but I was hoping I do not want to think he was lying aboutnot wanting sex:( I do not want him to assume it ws ok- Cause he thnks I just go round making 'house calls'
- enlightenment
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  You really confused me at the end...accidently did what? can you explain more.
- Asker
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  Oh lol, sorry,umm... When you are kissing someone & things get heated, could a guy guide your hand to his crotch w/out INTENDING to? I felt really weird - it isn't really anything that he has ever done be. Soo I just stopped everything cause I didn't want to give him the wrong idea- BUT also felt weird cause he wouldn't have done that if he really wanted to kiss me - cause he risks it creeping me out - which it did lol But I never said I didn't want sex- so MABYE it was not that creepy?

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Blackkid Xper 3
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I do not place chronological limits on these things; how fast things should move is not the same for any two people. Some won't even go to that point for years until they are married, some wish to be there before you do, but mutual understanding is the key.
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  So you do not have a point at which you think she is too fast - like she doesn't respect herself? & How would you know, I mean would you have a conversation about it?
ArizonaRX Xper 6
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After we exchange names and pleasantries.
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  Lol Seriously. Do you really do that & you feel ok about that? It isn't too quick?

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soccerrun1 Xper 3
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I would probably say third makeout session. But it depends on the girl and how physical she acts. I don't really go for the hookups anyway
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  Sooo, if you guys got that far third time, You wouldn't think she didn't have a lot of self respect ? I mean I know you would be in it too, so it would be hypocritical, but I have heard guys say they will test limits but if she actual goes with it - he thinks less of her, even tho he wanted it. What about f you only made out once ,but youknew her for 3 years & you used to date- you had been spending every day together for 2 months? & Why do you wait? Are you trying to respect her , or you?
- soccerrun1
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  I wouldn't respect her less, but I don't get anywhere with girls I don't respect. And if I knew her well I would probably still wait until it seemed like a good idea. I just wait because I don't like to rush things, if she wanted it to happen sooner I'm sure it would.
- Asker
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  Soo you wouldn't think LESS of her if it DID happen sooner? & Do you mean you do not become physical with girls you do not respect?
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- soccerrun1
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  Yeah I would still respect her, and no I don't become physical with girls I don't want to date
- Asker
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  Cool *
thenorthern Xper 3
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5 minutes.
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  Lol... northern.
Anonymous
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As soon as they respect you...
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  :) lol cool - I agree actually ...how do you determine that they do respect you.