Is my boyfriend a pedophile??

Last night my seven year old niece was going to spend the night at our house and my boyfriend seemed a little too excited to have her stay. We have been together for nearly two years and this is the first time that I've ever suspected anything. He is 24 and I can't tell if he's just ready to have children or if there's something wrong with this picture?

 

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  • Did anything peculiar unusual happen? Besides the fact that he may really like her or kids what made you think this? Just his eagerness to have her sleep overnight?

    I know I really liked my friends nieces, (for some reason they always though that I was like a ride at an amusement park) but I was always careful on how, when or where I touched them. Meaning I would only tickle them with people around & then usually on their back or arms. In the pool I would throw them but usually I would have them curl up like a ball rather then throw them by their butt.

    Same thing for hand holding. The little one always wanted to hold my hand but again I made sure that if we were walking their mother or others were around me.

    Next time ask him, "It's nice that you like her but why do you want her around so much?"

    • Thanks.

      Just kind of throw that question in, something like how come you like her so much? Do you love kids that much. Tread lightly but just be watchful.

    • Well not really, I guess it just caught me off gaurd yesterday...but I will ask him. Thanks!!!

What Guys Said 6

  • Have you and your Boyfriend been sexually active most of your relationship? I assume he likes sex with you. If you are happy to have your niece spend time perhaps he is happy to have her so you will be happy.

    Perhaps he just enjoys having her around because she is fun and affectionate and he likes her...it can make a guy feel like he has a "family" and perhaps he sees her visit like having a child of his own with you two.

  • The sad thing is that people are now wondering this too much. News media and politicians eager to win votes have made such an issue about this relatively rare situation that people are becoming fearful of contact with their own family members. Grandparents don't want to touch their own grand children and so on.

    Not that this does not happen but we are developing too much fear about so many things it is interfering with normal lives and normal contact with those we love of all ages.

    If you and he are having good sex than why would he want a kid? Pedophiles are typically not in stable relationships with adult women.

  • he could just be ready for a kid though just keep an eye on him and if she says anything about him touching her in bad places believe her and go from there

  • Here's the latest story in my country about real pedophile: link and link

    (since he confessed and resigned, another victim came known.)

    No-one suspected it, course, but his nephews, the victims.

  • I would assume he likes children and likes you. I think you would have to have other reasons to suspect he is a pedophile. You can look up pedophile profiles. here is one.

    link

    i am sure you can find more on the Web.

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  • oh come on.. you should be thrilled that he's excited to have your niece stay with you guys. if he was a pedophile, then you would have probably figured that out by now. He probably really likes you and wants you to know that he likes being around your family, especially if it makes you happy.

What Girls Said 2

  • What do you mean when you say "excited to have her stay"? He could just like kids. Unless he was behaving in a specifically sexual way I don't think it's any indication that he is a pedophile.

  • why do you suspect him?

    • Did you ask him about it? What did he say? It seems like a stretch to say he is a pediphile because he wanted your niece to spend the night.

    • When her mom was asking me if my niece was going to stay or not, he kept saying "tell her yes, tell her yes" and even before her mom called and asked he was telling me to call her and tell her that my niece was going to spend the night. I just don't get why he was soo anxious to have me convince her to let her daughter to spend the night.

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