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Why Are Guys Disgusted By Oral Sex?

My boyfriend and I have sex everyday and for me to receive oral sex,I have to do a few things,like I have to shower with warm water and an Anti-Bacterial body wash such as Dial or Softsoap and I have to clean myself downtown and all over my body duh,with the soap,then I have to douche and since I spend A LOT of $$$ on douches,I've been using cheap versions lol,no longer Summers Eve,then I have to get in the shower again and clean myself again but just with water but he prefers with soap again. Of course,he doesn't shower beforehand and he prefers random BJ's throughout the day,but I'm curious why guys are so disgusted by oral sex and why it's such a process to get them to go down? I mean,I have to do this everyday,either that or not get oral sex which is cool but that's how I orgasm
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Most Helpful Guys

  • it doesn't gross me out I like doing it

    it used to but a girl I was in loved with asked me to do it and her reactionof pleasure meade me happy so now I do it just so I can witnesss the reactions of the girls and its not disgusting and to me p**** taste pretty good I mean its nice ice cream but its not raw wet catfish eitheir

    i understand hygeine should be considered but its unfair for him to expect you to do this prep work and he doesn't when his genitals aren't cleaner than yours from you being a girl and steryotipically speaking you guys spend more time showering and washing than us guys do anyway your proably the clean one

    he is just immature or really germophobic you should really bring up this argument with him

    • Corection I meant to say its" not ice cream" did any of these answers help? which helped the most? who gets best answer?

  • I have read about treaties signed more nonchalantly . All this preparation surely makes the anticipation wane , if not die alltogether . I have never found myself disgusted by one of the more amazing bosy parts . If one comes to think of it , that is where life begins , or at least that's where life comes out of , and I , for one , am of the opinion that it should be treated like the amazing , unique thing it is . not as if it were something disgusting . (this kind of attitude is that makes some girls even feel bad to the point of crying about masturbation for the love of god . )

Most Helpful Girls

  • wow it is ridiculous that he makes you do all of that before he goes down on you. Not all guys are like that, my boyfriend will randomly go down on me just like I'll randomly go down on him at any time. Every guy I've talked to say that they don't necessarily love it but they don't think it's disgusting either. They usually sau they'll do it whenver to make their girl feel good. But maybe your guy is just a clean freak or something lol It sounds like he's OCD. If you don't want to keep doing all of that then just tell him how you feel. Ask him why you have to get really clean but he doesnt. Or just say that from now on you have to take two showers before I give you a BJ and see what he says. Hope I helped:)

  • Not all guys are disgusted,but I'm sure most don't love it or hate it.If you're fine with doing what he wants(the routine) then by all means continue,I'm not going to sit here and say he's a "douches,scumbag or idiot"

    I think it's funny a few guys are defending him.He has a "hang up" but if it were a chick making a guy do all of this minus the douching,she'd just be an uptight prude.I'm not a feminist but double standards are ridiculous

  • I think your boyfriend sounds very selfish I have been there before with the same thing in the end I got fed up and left him, do whatever you feel is right but he's not going to change, just know that, so if you don't want that and you want fairness, or near to it, then discuss it with him lay down how you feel if he doesn't listen and your not happy then leave and find someone who is worth while, as life is too short.

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  • WHY, would you even touch his d*** after all that bs double standard .. Just curious.?

  • We are not, at all. Check on your boyfriend, you might want to move on.

  • Douches are actually dangerous. You shouldn't use them unless directed by a doctor. It's ridiculous that he expects you to go to such extreme measures, especially when he doesn't do it in return. I don't think all guys are like that.

  • Guys aren't disgusted at all by oral sex. I will go down on my woman anytime she wants. I love the taste of her as well as the scent she has before, after or during sex.

    I will go down on her after I come inside her. She loves my lips all over her body. I think your Boyfriend might just have a hang up about it.

  • Yet again, a woman stereotypes all guys to be the same because of the actions of her boyfriend. No offense, but it's getting annoying.

    Seriously though, I don't think most guys have anything against going down. I know I don't, and I really can't understand why your boyfriend wants you to go through all that.

    Not all guys are like him. Take up the subject with him, talk it through.

    • I've asked other guys about it like guy friends and even they find it disgusting.And you're from Europe?Haha,I'm in America,,home of the prudes where girls are expected to give oral sex and guys should never be expected or forced to even put their lips on a female down there,whether showered or not

    • Ah... Cultural thing, eh? I don't think that's afiar, to be honest. Truth be told, I've gone down on my girl way more times that she has gone down on me.

    • Yea,people here are kinda close minded...compared to people from around the world.

  • Just because your boyfriend is a dumbass doesn't mean guys are disgusted by oral sex. A better question might be why would a woman put up with that kind of BS?

    • AGREED.

  • He sounds like a hypochondriac to me.

  • Just another example of why the good guy always finishes last, girls will sleep on a bed of spikes for pricks who use them and manipulate them but when a guy opens the door for her, holy sh*t she runs like hell because he's automatically boring and can't keep her interested.

    • When did I ever say he wasn't nice or didn't treat me right?

    • I was generalizing.

  • if he doesn't want to go down on you then don't go down on him

  • he sounds like a HUGE asshole and nerd...hes waisting your time I can understand him wanting you to be clean...but putting you through a routine? that's rediculous!

  • I'm not at all disgusted by it and actually love going down on my girlfriend. I don't ask her to shower just beforehand. As long as a girl has good hygiene, I like the smell and taste and get turned-on by both. I actually like her to smell natural rather than like soap, so I'd prefer that she hasn't just gotten out of the shower.

  • I will never perform oral sex.

    Listen to this song, "I Never by Vybz Kartel". When you come from a Jamaican background, no matter if your white asian or black, its absolutely forbidden!

    • Uh,do you expect it to be done to you?

    • But I would never want my girlfriend to perform Oral sex on me. I only receive oral sex from girls I will never kiss, and never have a romantic relationship with. If a girl offers Oral Sex then it obviously means she has done it to plenty of other guys, and I'm only a 17, so I shouldn't want to have a romantic relationship with that kind of girl.

    • Just because a girl offers oral sex, doesn't mean that she's done it a lot. It doesn't even mean that she's done it before. I've recieved oral sex twice in my life, both from my girlfriend. Both times, she was the one offering it. I never asked for it. She had never done it before, and we were both kinda nervous, but we were so heated up and wanted to please each other so badly. But she was on her period.

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  • I'm not

  • Because it's gross

  • dump ur boyfriend! Oral sex is the best and surest way to make a woman orgasm that's for sure, and if he cares about you he should always trying to get what you need in bed, not only what he wants. I think this whole "cleansing" process he makes you go through is a real shame...how can you take it?

    I personally love to pleasure a women in any way, the hotter and more turned on she is...the better and more enjoyable sex becomes for both of us. I really think your boyfriend is a very selfish guy, he only wnats to recieve and not give any thing in exchange.

    Good Luck

  • no I would never do that I heard you can get herpes from that stuff.

    • You can get herpes from regular sex.do you expect oral sex from her?

  • Well, women have a lot more places for bacteria to build up I think... Also guys have an ego so it might seem that your boyfriend thinks he can get what he wants whenever he wants it, you know... btw, using douches too often is not healthy. It dries you out and you need some moisture there to keep yourself clean. Maybe you could ask him for the money for all the stuff you have to buy.

  • wow! first of all, you shouldn't be using soap INSIDE your vagina... and douching isn't healthy! so you are probably making your hygiene worse down there by doing those things. If you are healthy, you should be able to just use lots of warm water to clean inside and then scent shouldn't be an issue... maybe just skip the oral sex altogether if he is that put off by it!

    • ... and by inside I mean inside the lips! I don't think its a good idea to put things up your vagina except tampons or a penis! lol

  • Probably has to do with the fact that the male genital is on the OUTSIDE of the body, and female is on the INSIDE.

    PPL find inside more disgusting than outside for some odd reason.

    • What does being "inside" or "outside" have to do with finding oral sex disgusting.It's kind of immature to try to have sex when you find the female or male anatomy disgusting

    • Some people are disgusted by a wet pussy.. I dunno, I'm not one of them but I know people who are inside = wetter/more gooey outside = doesnt..

  • I'm not disgusted by it in the least. I enjoy it quite alot. I don't even request that my girlfriend do half of what you do.

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