Oh geez. Reading these things just p*ss me off to no end. I am sorry, but WHY when you are in the sexual prime of your life, would you waste your time with a smelly deadbeat who has no trouble jacking off, but has to be convinced to have sex?
I will admit, I was with him at first, sometimes going down on a girl is just straight nasty if they ate something like asparagus within the last week. But this can be combated with Pineapple. Remember, pineapples are your FRIEND. Eat them to change your ... taste. Ok I will get off this topic because that last sentence made me cringe.
But aside from that, you shower before hand, that is more than enough for me usually. Sounds like there is nothing wrong with you, and that he is just not sexually into you anymore. A selfish lover is how I would describe him in your story. It takes two to tango, and he isn't doing his part. I would die for a girlfriend to try to spice things up or to really want to have an orgasm. My last girlfriend was sooooooo intent on fulfilling my needs that she didn't care if she came or not. That in itself was a huge turnoff for me because that is half the fun!
Anyway, my advice, BREAK UP!
Seriously, you have tried more than any girl I know to spice it up, and it isn't working, so chances are it can't be fixed. Let me use a car analogy. You just dragged in a 1980's ford Tarus to the mechanic. You complain that you can't take it around the race track anymore and you tried new tires, new gas, new paint but the real problem is IT IS A TARUS. So go swap out your Tarus and get something that is at least exciting! At this point a 1995 Civic would be an upgrade.5 0 1 0If he'd always rather jack off than have sex, he's gay, unless your terribly unattractive.
0 0 0 0Oh I'm gorgeous aside from the oozing boils and floppy fat rolls. ;) I've actually talked to him about the gay thing, and he was p*ssed, lol. Like I said, everything else about him is very "normal' except when we get alone in the bedroom. He's a hot, weight-lifting, sport-loving, beer-drinking guy who's also creative and extremely intelligent with goals and aspirations, and in every other way is extremely loving, caring, supportive, affectionate, and fun. He wants to marry me for godsakes! Wtf?
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My boyfriend and I was reading your issue. When I came acrooss the fact that either theirs is something going onn he don't want to tell you or not to b disrespectful he's gay...bring him around a sexy gay guy that you might know. Annd c how he acts around him try to leave them alone in some occations Alone but watchin his every move . Check how he looks and acts around him if he acts normal than he's not gay unless he's hidding it..but seriously a guy that don't get turned on when their girl is role playing has to be gay..or else sex is wack for him but not bcuz off you is he's jus too lazy to please his own girl. If that's the case and you tired move onn.
But ma boyfriend has his own opinion here it is
Hey how's going, I notice there a bit of a problem dnt worry at some point in people life it happeens so dnt give up just yet by and chance have you asked what he is in to? Maybe throw on a little porn and I cnt lie there is a thought in my head he just miight be gay I belive you 2 cz come on a guy not wanting to fck ? That's like asking if he can have some air lol just try to make him want it pay himm noo mind no mind what so ever go 3 or 2 with do ntn no signs or anything 4 to 5 try spicing it show how sexyy you can be nice sexy dress never this should and he should be all over you if not I'm sorry he GAY!0 0 0 0Haha- thank you for the responses! Yes I've suggested porn, yes I've dressed up (waste of time), yes I've asked him many times if there's something I can do or something he's into that we can try that would turn him on more. I've encouraged him to be open with me and share his fantasies, etc. I've asked if there's something wrong, if there's someone else, if it's medical, if it's psychological, etc. He just gets annoyed, says everything is fine and asks why I always have a problem with it. Ugh!
If he says is nothing than he's preobably one of those rare types off guys that in a serious relationship they jus get bored and lazy for sex all the time they jus want it wen they feel lykk it. If you want it better btween you two get relation counseling theirs have to be something that's is stopping him and if he gerts madd ... you gta let him know you need to be sexually pleased!
Hey this her boyfriend jsut act as if you dnt want. Stay busy it'll work or maybe its time to come out .
there are a few possibilities here:
1) he's depressed~ people who are depressed or suicidal typically stop caring about their personal hygiene;
2) childhood abuse or trauma; if he was abused by a woman in a position of power, he may perceive certain acts or body parts as "dirty", in which case he needs therapy;
3) he's using drugs or alcohol regularly or is on medication that suppresses his sex drive (just because you don't know about it doesn't mean he's not doing it);
4) he's either in the closet or genuinely not into you.
at this point, you've done all you can. don't force him to talk about it, but tell him that you're concerned for his health and that you're there if he needs you (even if it's just as a friend).3 0 0 0I have the exact same problem. I am in my thirties and gorgeous we've also been in a relationship for 3+ years and are recently engaged. My fiancee too is a pretty all around decent guy in regards to everything else. But ask yourself is he selfish in other areas? Probably, i've noticed a pattern of serving self. He wants what is easy, comfortable and is lazy. Believe me It doesn't get better just the same or worse. Don't waste your time. If your in your 20's leave. I am leaving now... I've given two years and not a moment more.
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1 5How about you turn him on by wearing hot clothes or doing hot stuff.Then he`ll become a crazy pussy-seeking-bull
0 0 3 1Try one last thing. Ok tie him up slap him and rape him
0 0 1 0hahaha thats so dead. dump him. there is no cure. i hope that breakup wakes him up so he doesn't fuck up like that with the next girl
0 0 0 0Having the same probs and its been over a year now. I'm about to fucking give up.
0 0 0 0You need to be honest and tell him you need a man not a boy. Tell him to step up and if he can't make you feel like a woman than you need a man that can. Life is short...get rode hard.
0 0 0 0Don't lead him and yourself on...
If he plans to keep it like this forever, then it's better for you to leave him and for him to learn the hard way to get his act together...5 1 0 0
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