Why do my friends always pressure me to lose my virginity ?

I am over 25 and I want to stay a virgin till I get the girl of my dreams. So, why are my friends concerned about my virginity ? They say that guys should not stay virgins and laugh at me all the time.
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  • Good for you to sticking with what you think is important.

    You're friends are pushing you to lose it because they feel like that is their job. Your friends are supposed to be your wingmen. They are supposed to get your back. Normally that translates into making sure you get laid. They interpret your holding back as something other than what it is. Either fear, nerves, embarrassment, lack of confidence, poor timing, naivity, etc. They are just trying to do right by you.

    Even if they understand your desire to wait, they will still harrass you about being a virgin, because that's what friends do.

  • If you're waiting that's great. Your mates should respect you for the decision and deep down they might. But with all the cliche'd stereotypes of how you're supposed to be on the outside - they won't come right about and admit it. Congratulations for being different, for letting it last, and for doing something you believe in!

    • Thanks red :-)

  • there's a double standard...men are expected to lose their virginity asap, yet women should not be "giving it up." you should be sooooooooo proud of yourself, it's hard to find a guy who makes such an honorable decision. don't let your friends get to you, eventually they'll realize your serious about your decision.

    • Thanks baby girl :-)

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  • Bro, my rule of thumb is there is no bigger diamond you can give a girl than the ability to know she was first. You're fine in your beliefs and your friends are a combination of evolution and hormones.

    At the same time, its difficult to live like that in the modern day with socialization at what it is. Virginity is a specific thing and at a point in time being a virgin is not only looked down upon but you obviously loose a lot of the benefits.

    In a less scientific answer, my opinion is that at 25 you're just on the border of it, loose it sooner than later but nothing wrong with holding off till now.

  • Because

    1. They don't like you having something that makes you different

    2. They feel its their job to "help" you

    3. They can't understand that this "help" is misguided. They don't think you can really mean that you want to wait.

    waiting is not bad

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  • Guys are usually more experienced than girls in most cases. And they just want to to fit in. I am not saying that losing your v card is a good thing, you should wait, but that is how I think they may feel. It is just usually girls are the virgin. So, they are either A just jealous or B want you to be more like them. Choose your own path and wait.

    • Why can't guys save their virginity then ? If girls are expected to, why not boys ?

  • Sounds like typical male ego BS. Wait until you are comfortable and do what you want to do. You shouldn't let other people dictate your "schedule" and make you feel like you should have sex just because they have. It's nice, but there are other more important qualities and aspects of a relationship than sex.

  • wait for the right girl... trust me ..from a girls perspective... whose also a virgin... its something special.. and most girls would appreciate that. you are a good man ...remain that way.. don't let your friends sh*t talking mess with your mind. take care

  • i think its cool that a guy would stay a virgin untill you find the right girl caus I would want to know that my man hasint had sex with another girl so DONT listen to them and loose your virginity, I haven't started puberty myself yet.

  • With divorce rates the way they are and with statistics on people who were virgins and waited and still ended up cheating or divorcing anyway. Do you really think you're that super special tiny percentage who will end up that super happy ever after? If you do, hey I'm all about being open minded and I wish you luck.

    They're probably just looking out for you. Buddies like sharing chic stories and also putting each other down for kicks. And you never have any so they put you down.

  • I think you can never tell if a girl is the girl of your dreams until after you sleep with her.

    Women act different after sex, very different. If you do not sleep with them you will never see what they are like when their guard is down.

    How could you ever know some one well enough to marry them without sleeping together first? it is part of the sorting process.

    Furthermore, women tend to be shy. They like it when you make the first move. When you see the girl of your dreams you will have to charm her, get to know her, turn her on and have sex with her.

    It will be your job to move the relationship forward. How can you do that if you do not know how? You need to practice and search.

  • Guess because guys are generally assholes! Tell them it is none of there f**kin business and to each his own.

  • i think waiting for the right personm is a very sweet thing to do. Don't be pressured but toher people and your friends. I think what your doing will show the girl that you really are serios about her and not just looking for a one night stand

    • Thanks Alioup :-)

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  • Because having lots of intercourse is seen as "manly". It's not great, but that's the way it is. Other guys will respect you for it and some girls might like that you have experience because they will be comfortable knowing that you can take charge.

  • Hurry up and lose it. It seems unmanly for you to have no sexual experience at such an age in a time when most people first get some in their teens.

  • Well they mostly do it mayb because they are insicure about something in their lives and they feel they have to make up for it with sex. When ur ready ur ready and when you want to you want to.

  • i'm gonna have to agree with the guys on this one... I think staying a virgin is like a barrier in your mind. unless you have strong reasons to stay a virgin, you should be exploring your life for fun things. but if ur hooking up and just not having sex, then I think ur ok.

  • dont do anything that doesn't make you happy with yourself. I've been with 14 women. I wish I was a virgine. I've turned down more women since I stop having sex then when I was having sex. born again virgins unite. I'm not a virgin just selebite for now. till I meet the one

  • I'm glad I know I am not the only virgin, because society and culture, the media make fun of male virgins, but not female virgins, a male virgin is viewed as weak, pathethic, and a loser. I know that Adriana Lima claims she was a virgin until age 27.

  • in the words of Marty Mcfly. "He's An Asshole, I don't care what (he) says, and I don't give a damn what anyone else says either." - When called a coward.

    I present the same Idea to you, most guys want a girl whose a Saint (Virgin) And a Sinner (knows what she's doing) you can't have both, so why should women? they would appreciate that you've held off for so long, just to keep it special for them. all you gotta do is read on the tactics to give her a good time, and she wouldn't even know you were a Virgin.

    Good luck, and God bless,

    -another saint.

  • let me tell you something. it is rare to find a guy that saves himself for marriage. just beacause it's the thing today,doesn't mean you have to do it. they laugh at you because ur different. don't pay them any mind. you are making the right choice. when I find "my" guy I want him to save himself fro me till marriage.stand up for what you believe in.

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  • don't listen to them. stick with what you believe

  • i think it's great your a virgin, and I love your reasons for it, in my opinion they're just being jerks, and I wold recommend not listening to them, my brother was pressured into sex by his friends and he still regrets it. just stick to your morals and ignore them, if it really bugs you then try to change the conversation, make fun of some of the girls they've had it with perhaps? I hope it helps.

  • U better move a dream world than! It is the only place that you will find your dream girl!