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I deserve blowjobs don't I?, what am I doing wrong?

I have been married 12yrs and been with my wife 14yrs. I love her more than Life. I love eating her pussy, I love the taste, smell, and look of her pussy it's like heroin to me I'm fucking addicted to it. She loves when I finger her in the pussy and ass at the same time while I eat her out for upwards of an hr till she is holding my head so I can't breath against her pussy while she cums.
But why can't she return the favor she has sucked me to climax once in the 14 years (the only woman to do so in my life) we have been together. once! I love her like no other but that was 13 years ago and any blowjob she has given has lasted no more than 2-5 mins but zero chance of finishing me. Let's say maybe 25 times she has sucked me in 13 years.
during the one time she has gotten me off I was clean (I'm always clean before sex). I told her I was about to cum even tried moving her but, she keep going. You know when someone makes u laugh while drinking that's what happened. out the nose, choking, coughing, and spitting for like 5 mins she spit on my dick. I'm a very big shooter she knew I was and I warned her before hand. i would never cum in any girls mouth that didn't want it or like it. y cause I love getting blow jobs. I'm of avg. size, big in girth 6.5"x6". she absolutely loves every kind of sex there is (eaten out, vag, and anal) except giving blow jobs.
What would any of u do in this situation? How would u fix this? In simple words help!
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i get the "I almost blew you tonight" wtf was that supposed to make me feel good or my jaw hurts, or I don't know, I don't like doing it but, will u lick my pussy. ill ask for it and get a maybe but it never happens. I fucking love this woman. But, I find myself mad all the time about it now. how do I fix this I don't want this feeling anymore I feel rejected and a bit used. I have talked to her but always the same I get 2 mins of it then she says put it in or is just done.
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Most Helpful Girls

  • First -- no, you don't "deserve" anything of the sort. Sexual stuff doesn't have to be kind for kind. If you enjoy doing it for her. Great... but there could be a very good reason she doesn't. Have you ASKED her why she isn't interested? I would love to for my husband... if I could... but I can't. See, I have severe TMJ and have a very limited jaw opening. Sometimes I can barely eat food - I have to cut things up to small pieces before I even try to eat. Fellatio is a definite NO WAY. My jaw can dislocate and that... that is super painful. SUPER painful. I'm not kidding, I've dislocated my jaw by yawning too much. It can hurt, badly... and blow jobs? That's incredible stressful on a person's jaw. It's very possible it hurts her. It could also make her dizzy and disoriented - so if she's prone to migraines or something, gets car sick, etc... it very possible that give a BJ could make her sick or uncomfortable.

    A woman's mouth and jaw are not as accommodating and flexible as her vagina. You could really be hurting her. And if you act is if you aren't... well, you are calling her a liar which means you don't trust her. So, why would she let a man who doesn't trust her stick his penis in her mouth?
    (to be continued...)

    • (continued) I don't care how badly my husband wants it... if I'm in pain, I'm not doing it. I am not a masochist... and my husband isn't a sadist. He knows it's painful, and it's never been an issue. It's just something we don't do. No big deal. That doesn't mean he can't do it for me, though... we both enjoy it and he never feel as if he 'deserves' it back. There are things he won't do... that I wish he would... but I respect that he won't. Because I love him, I respect his decisions. That's called communication, trust and compromise. It's not all about you. With my husband, he doesn't demand something I can't give him... and he certainly doesn't act like a prick telling me he's entitled to it because he does it for me. We talk and we compromise. If one of us feels the other is unreasonable, we talk about it. However, we also have some hard limits, and we respect them. If giving a BJ is a hard limit for her -- respect it and look for things she enjoys instead.

    • I will admit I began to rant a bit. I was a bit drunk last night (I barely ever drink). I respect my wife I have never demanded blowjobs from her, not once. I love her and would never hurt her or force her. WE have a wonderful life together a beautiful daughter also. I would never want to fuck this up. She trusts me implicitly. I'm sorry for ur medical issue. But what have I done to not have her trust.

    • Okay... but have you asked her why she's not comfortable with it? Even when one is drunk, they tend to rant on about issues that are bothering them.

  • I don't know if she's being honest when she says her jaw hurting is a reason she doesn't want to or not, but personally, I have TMJ and can only give head for a few minutes at a time. I have never been able to get a guy off that way. Thankfully, I've always had understanding partners who were okay with that.
    Some women just don't like giving blow jobs. You love eating her pussy, but that doesn't mean she has to love sucking your dick. However, if she just doesn't like doing it, it's not really right of her to ask you to eat her right after refusing to give you head.
    Either way, I think you may have to just deal with it. If she's willing to suck you for a few minutes, enjoy them. It might not be all that you're look for, but it is what it is. You can't make her do it.

    • We have a wonderful life together and a beautiful daughter. I would never try and force her to do something. I mean look I get I probably just have to deal with it. this question is ment to be therapeutic and helpful. Plus it's been nearly 2 yr since I've gotten anything close to 2 mins.

  • Maybe you should tell her how you feel. If she's only done it once and you've been together for 14 years, something isn't right there if you ask me. Tell her your frustrations.

Most Helpful Guys

  • I feel bad for you, brother. But I know how you feel. It is something that every man should be able to know: The feeling of unloading in a woman's mouth and watching her eat your sperm. You said you were a big cummer? How many spurts of cum do you shoot? Is your sperm thick and white and clumpy? I'm interested to know.

  • You're doing better than most married guys.

    I had sex twice in 2016.

    • Sorry to hear that. I can't complain about lack of sex I just want get a few bjs in b4 the next 36 years of my life are over. But that prospect is not looking good.

    • Check doublelist. Lots of gay guys totally willing to slob your knob and eat your loads.

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  • Please contact me privately.

    • Sorry I am not lvl 2xper yet and cannot send messages.

    • What's with all the down votes? Am I encouraging a known troll or something?

  • It is your wife communicate... and u should have known she isn't into it

    • When we first got together that happened all the time almost every time we had sex, for at least a couple or three minutes sometimes more but never to the end. we even did 69 from time to time I can't tell you the last time I remember us doing it though. And I have communicated with her about it we talk until we're blue in the face. And I never really get an answer. Or anything changes.

    • Sorry to hear that .. i think in a couple u have to make at times efforts... try again

  • Blow jobs are earned not given.

    • Did u read the post how have I not earned any?

  • If she doesn't like doing it , it won't be good. As simple as that.
    You an not force her to like it.

  • Gratitude is better than expecting more. Be thankful for what you do get. This is a non-issue.

  • Well I think you should stop going down on her too... She is just selfish... You do deserve bjs... Why should you go down on her if she doesn't send do it?

  • I am so sorry bro

  • She may not be open to it. But sometimes having a taste down there helps. Her juices, favor of food, something.

  • Try talking to her again, but tell her how much it bothers you, mention that you feel rejected.

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