If you pop your cherry are you still considered a virgin ?

[Missz--X-Desired]

Well my boyfriend just fingered me today for the first time. And he popped my cherry. But I don't know if I'm still considered a virgin.

[Snows]

Ok the fact is that you had a little sexual experimentation and well, good for you. But here is the deal. I think that since you didn't actually fornicate well you are still a virgin. Virginity for me is only lost after sex, oral, anal, whatever. Foreplay ain't really the deal cause again it ain't sex, just experimenting with sensuality. Because he only fingered you I still think your a virgin, because if you were not, then every girl who ever used a way to big tampon are no longer virgins. Do I'm Christian I do believe that we should experiment sexually and that virginity is only title that you give up willingly but its not something you retain after sex. Oh yeah and for thee record I do believe in sex after marriage but also believe that it should happen when both people have a strong understanding of each other and carring, plus the passion and readyness.

[lefthand]

Fornicate? believe in sex after marriage... wow.... how liberal of you. Fornication is a sin in some religions... but she might not be a member of your religion, so is such a term appropriate?

[Snows]

Hey I might seem like I'm mixing things here, and yes your rigth. Because I don't like to think within the boundaries of my religion. I like to look at my religion more as an idea, a way to live better and not cut our heads off. An idea can change, it can mold, it can adapt, it can merge with another idea and it can be debated. Not beliefs. People die for beliefs, they don't die for ideas. I have a pretty good idea of what my religion wants me to do, but I myself know its inperfect.

[Snows]

That why I merge with other ideas that fit the way I invition what's rigth. I'm christian, but I think the religion should change its aspects and discrimination of gay people. I think they should get married because I've seen more love amongst themselves, real true love, then I'm many marriages that I've meet over time. I also believe we should change our approuch towards sexuallity. So you tell me know, this is my idea of life, why can't I share it with this young girl? Who are you to say I cant?

[Snows]

After all, its only an idea. Loosen up a bit dude.

[lefthand]

Cherry is kind of an arcane idea and one that needs to go away. I know a lot of women who kept their hymen intact but had lots of oral and anal sex before they got married, were they virgins? My answer is: why should anyone care? It's their body and their choice what they do with it. You are sexually active currently, are you ok with it? If so, let the question go and enjoy what you're doing. For the most part people who care about virginity are people you don't want to sleep with in the first place. One of my requirements for marriage is that my wife had other lovers and other experience before me (I shine by comparison) so she had a good idea about her own sexual interests and abilities. I think this is good advice for anyone.

[HaggardDiva]

Virginity isn't the "cherry," it's the sexual intercourse. Like NaeHaeHasHeart said, when there is actual penetration from the penis into the vagina.

[NaeNaeHasHeart]

You're technically still a virgin. You'll lose your V-card when there is actual penetration from a penis in your vagina.

[ilovelegs]

I'd say you're definitely still a virgin because you didn't have sex. There was no penetration by the guy's di*k. He was just stimulating you sexually and that's like one of the first things a couple does when they start getting sexual. So you have no worries because you are still a virgin until you start having intercourse.

[TexMex]

This is all in perspective really if you read some biblical views you will see that you have given into a man when he penetrates you. But even as a Christian I think that it is right to explore but fingering is something that can be viewed as a negative gateway if you believe in waiting for marriage because it leads to temptations for more penetration. Now before everyone freaks I realize your not all of the same beliefs as me so I will say do what you feel is right but make wise choices and educate yourself don't rush in. But no breaking your Hyman with a finger is not losing your virginity.

[Nick1220]

NO not at all because sometimes whe the girl is young a physical activity can pop it so you never had intercourse.