Is it considered sexual crime that my brother used to grab and sucked my boobs?

[Anonymous]

My brother is 5year younger than me
and i was raised in one of East Asia country where people really didn't have idea of what's sexual crime to be honest.
my brother is youngest and my parents really wanted to have a son because my society extreamly prefered having son rather than a daughter back in 90'
that does mean he could do anything he wanted and never be punished.
I don't remember everything clearly but when i was 14-15 and my brother was 9-10 he used to try to take my clothes off or just put his hands into my clothes and grabbed or even sucked my boobs. I always screamed.
I knew it was wrong to do things like that with brother and it felt like i was used as a sex object. I told it my mom and she didn't think it did matter.
My son had breast milk till i guess 3? And he touched my mom's breasts everytime. She thought that's why he touched mine.
i was very embarrassed and wants to stop him but he never stopped. When i slept in my bed my brother suddenly came to my bed and started to touch my boobs. That happened almost everyday.
I had bigger boobs (C-Dcup (american size) when i was 14) and my mom thought he did that because my boobs were different to her.
Anyways my brother really made me feel that i was sexually abused.
I couldn't even tell it to my dad because my dad was just sexist asshole and domestic abuser. I was afraid to tell anything to him.
And i had too many guilts that one seconds i felt something when he touched my nipple and it makes me still feel that i am gross myself.
Now i am 26 and he is 21. We don't talk about what happened in the past but i really can't be closed with him and feel that he harrased me.
My mom would probably not remember it or think it as just nothing.
My cousin touched my boobs when he was young and all my relatives considered it just play
Was it sexual harassment? If it was what should i do. It happened more than 10years ago and I can't forget it everytime i see my brother

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't put it past him. He doesn't know what he's doing at that age, and I really doubt he has sexual urgs at that age either. It's natural for kids to be curious, and the first thing they will try it on is on their siblings.

I've experimented kissing my older siblings naked with no sexual desire/drive at all. Hell my older sister came on to me and kissed me. She was experimenting, and I didn't really know what was going on but was fascinated about the human body at the time, and I was like 8-11 also.

And you don't have to talk to him about it. I would never with my siblings, and we know we didn't know any better.

[Opinion Owner]

I mean some siblings are close enough to talk about it and laugh it off, or they make some weird comments about it to make me feel awkward as fuck. But I know they're just playing.

[masterkamasutra]

He was child and i think you thinking it too much deeply, why you thinking after so many years? there are many acts which we done in child is childhood which later we feel quite sexual. i think there is no issue, you can't say harassment when a 10 years old boy suck your boobs.

[Asker]

if it had happened just few times and I didn't know what i was doing or if he had been 4-5year old, it would have been better. But i really hated and felt embarrassed and said him stop and told my mother but nobody stoped him. And he actually did that things aginst my will for a year. Almost everyday. That's why i really can't not forget what happened. think about at the school there is a 10year old boy who touches girls boobs even though girls feels harrased but teachers even never stop him.

[Asker]

In so many culture boys watching inside girls skirts or something like that is considered just playing but they should know it is not okay.

[masterkamasutra]

i get you but why this after many years? why not you raise this years ago? when he stop doing this? or still he do that?

[Davey88]

It's definitely sexual abused.. those stories make me feel sooo soo sad. Consents is the most fundamental thing of all.. regardless of your beliefs if anyone can't have the right to speak up.. well u know there is something wrong.. i saw my son grabbing his mom's boobs many times but she never been obligated and she does speak up when it enough and he doesn't push it farther

[laxta]

forget it, unless anything now happens

[Anonymous]

He was 9/10 years old at that time. He was a little child. He knew it was wrong so he afterward. It is best to discuss with him about this issue.

[Asker]

I don't wanna talk about it with him to be hoenst. Thinking that makes me really uncomfortable.

[Opinion Owner]

At what age did he stop touching you? Did you say stop? What did he say to you? Do you love him as a sibling?

[Asker]

I think he did that almost 1year. So i think he stopped when he was 11-12. I always said stop but he never listened. He didn't say much. Just kept doing it. I couldn't always stopped him because he moved very fast to touch my boobs before i stopped him. I love my family but I don't love my brother as much as i love my sister. Actually there's more story. He didn't help me when the father wanted to hit me and said he wanted to kill me. I asked my brother to call the cop but he didn't and said whatever. So the reason i don't like him is not all from what happened when he was 10