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Do guys really get too tired for sex?

I always assume guys are ready to do the deed anytime. We were both exhausted after a long day so I promised morning sex. So morning comes, I try to be sexy, rip his clothes off and get on top. After awhike of doing that, I wanted to switch positions to doggy. He went at it for a couple minutes and felt tired. I offered a blowjob and he told me no, that that probably wouldn't happen either, before rolling back down to lay down. I feel ugly, hurt, and disgusted. I don't feel sexy nor am I keeping him happy, even though he insists it wasn't me but we don't see each other much due to his job, so I feel like he should have been ready, like is too tored an excuse not to want to have sex or cum? I'm feeling super low about myself.
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  • How do you think HE feels? Too damn tired to accept a blowjob? Man I'll bet he's kickin' himself right now. I'm sure he'll make it up to you. You feeling low and ugly as a result probably isn't helping his guilt about it either... (I'm not giving you a hard time here with that last sentence... just explaining how a guy would feel in that situation)

    If you don't see each other much due to his job, he's likely just tired as hell. I had a friend of mine who worked two jobs have the exact same thing happen to him... He was getting a blowjob and had to tell her to stop because he was falling asleep... Felt terrible about it.

    So no, guys aren't willing to do the deed anytime.

    I think this'll probably be a wakeup call that maybe his job is interfering a bit too much with his personal life and he needs to change soon...

    But cheer up. You're not ugly to him, and you're still always a turn on for him. Wait for him to have a longer period of time off before you try again, and see if that has better results... play some music you haven't heard since the time you met too ;)

  • >I always assume guys are ready to do the deed anytime.

    Then you're an idiot.

    >Do guys really get too tired for sex?
    Of course we do.

    >I feel ugly, hurt, and disgusted.
    I refer to you the whole idiot thing. His tiredness has nothing to do with you.

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  • I'm sure it's not you girl. Guys get tired just like girls get tired and contrary to popular belief they aren't ALWAYS thinking or wanting sex.

    I also think that I agree with some other people here. You definitely should've started with a blowjob first to get him going and wake him up.

    But if he's really just tired, don't worry about it.

  • Men are human-beings just like you. Of course they get tired from time to time. They are not horny beasts who think about sex all day and all night long.

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  • You have any idea how many muscles a guy puts into thrusting? Most times girls just lay there like a dead animal. We NOT only use them for thrusting, but also to keep our weight off. We also need time to let our love stick and love sacks to get "steam" back into them. Women... You're draining the poor guy dry and all you can do is complain about how you don't feel sexy and stuff.

  • unlike what you may have been told men aren't horny dogs always ready to fuck quite the oposite in fact our sex drive is no different than a womans

  • No, we do not, but if there is no excitement, then we can be distracted, if not turned off, or have lost interest in the moment.

  • If he was too tired for a bj, he was really, really too tired.

    Sounds like a physical issue imho. Somethings up, not his penis. And the issue isn't you.

    • It's like everytime he complains about his work, he doesn't cum to me and it's really making me feel horrible about myself, like I'm having a hard time not taking it personal.

  • yes, of course a guy can be too tired for sex. he can also be too stressed, or just not interested.

    • But I shouldn't take it personal?

    • No, not at all.

  • there's thar$750 bill he's thinking about.

  • Maybe he's stressed

  • We get too tired for anything.

  • What job doea he have?

  • Some do some don't a lot of other things can affect it though

  • how much does he work? if he works like 60 hours a week of physically demanding work its valid but if he works like 40 hours in an office he should have no excuses. I'm always down for morning sex unless i'm late for work and no guy should be too tired for a bj ever lol. if it keeps being a problem, i know it doesn't sound sexy or spontaneous, but i've had gf's where we've made schedules for sex when we've been super busy with work. Its not fair to u if he's not pleasing u as much as u'd like but u gotta be realistic if he works a ton. hope this helps : )

  • It's possible to be too tired for anything, no matter how much a person wants to do it.

  • Sex takes a lot of energy

  • Of course

  • Yes happens often. That stupid stuff that men are always ready to have sex and horny is stupid stuff put out by the media and TV and movies and women believe it. We are humans too.

  • so morning sex must always be started with a blowjob. no matter whAt. that hopefully gets him hard spikes the adrenaline that wakes him up and boom. sex.

    but if not good chance this will reoccur. it's nothing against you. just he was probably in a deep sleep cycle.

    • No. I was on top first and he clearly wasn't cumming to me because he got too tired during doggy so I offered the bj, so literally all he had to do was lay there. I feel super rejected and ugly.

    • exactly. you can't get on top first. cause he doesn't have to do anything. so he'll fall back to sleep. you have to start with a blowjob

    • Hmmm I may try that next time. Perhaps it would actually wake him up.

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  • Of course it is. Sex for a man costs a lot of energy.

  • Not sure about that

  • Yes, ejaculation causes fatigue and physical weakness in men. Sadly

  • Duh... we're not monkeys

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