If a guy says 'I like you as a person, I think you're intelligent, you're interesting, & I'm attracted to you'.

[Anonymous]

Whats he saying - Is it like trying to get sex, or fwb? Does person mean just friends or does it mean like ' I respect you I don;t just want to bang you, tho I think you 're hot?' & Do guys say they like you as a person, so they don't sound sex- crazed - to get sex ? & If a guy says he thinks you're intelligent & interesting & attractive & she ism how do you know if he is just saying that to get sex...I mean it isn't a lie, so how do you know if he s trying to get sex from it?

[Bruce]

It could be all of those things...guys propose marriage to get sex at times.

One very open girlfriend that I had told me ..."If I was a guy and I thought I could get a piece of ass by proposing, I'd propose too " ! She was 23, and made that statement to me and in front of her mother...( I said she was open)

I don't think many women are niave in that regard, and I don't know why you are surprised...What he says to you about intellect, respect, etc...is 'small talk' ...and whether he thinks he needs to say that to seperate you from your underpants...is something you should not spend a lot of time thinking about.

"Actions" is the operative word here...how he treats you and DO YOU WANT him to seperate you from your thong or bikini is your decision.

Bruce

[Asker]

Well I guess I'm surprised because I am not used to guys in general. I'm used to people being attracted to me, but from a distance. I don't realy flirt & I don't present myself as someone who is into sex. Plus I've known him for a while & he never talked that way-so I guess he could have become more of a player idk. Anyways I'm not WORRIED because I do not intend to have sex, I was just curious. & I would not propose marriage to someone for sex, nor would I HAVE sex if someone proposed 2 me

[quantumdefender]

your overthinking things. the guy likes you. now decide whether or not you like him.

[katiesmuff]

Why are you trying so hard to make this look cheap? Here is a novel thought, the guy just plain likes you and possibly would like you as a girlfriend!

[Asker]

:) Because I'm a girl , & I was raised to believe people lie, cheat & scheme for sex, money, & power& I'm suspicious of everyone - especially people I like .lol, & Maybe I don't trust him, because he was being really confusing - he seemed to WANT to be. He qualified how he liked me, it seemed that he wouldn't do that unless he wanted to make sure I did not think he really likes me. - idk, I'm not a giraffe! lol Why does he need to say he likes me as a person - why can't he just SAY that?

[katiesmuff]

Your probabaly a pretty nice girl and it is a shame your beliefs are as they are, because you are headed towards a very lonely life. The first part of what you said I believe, but I give people a chance to prove me wrong before I turn away from them. I think you are way over thinking with what he said to you! Give the guy a chance if you like him, if he goes away odds are very slim you would ever get a second shot with him.

[Asker]

Yeah, I agree basically, but at this point its like if I fall for something I think it will be too disruptive, but I really do appreciate your input. :) ahem, umm lol soo does that mean a person can 'like' you , if they say '" I like You as person '" Followed by other stuff? -Is it different if it is said on its own? I realize people are different, but 'i like you' is such a stereotype, & anyone using it probably wants to take it the stereotypical way - I just wanted to know in that way ;)

[Anonymous]

depends on the guy.

NIce guy who isn't all over tons of girls-- means he likes you

kind of player----- most likely hook up

[Asker]

Well i;m the only girl he talks to right now...or of course maybe I'm the only girl he talks to in my presence lol We hang out a lot & he works the rest of the time -but he could be with someone at work idk. I'm not really used to sex being an issue so I start from that angle- just to make sure I'm not giving the wrong idea - I don't want sex & I don't intend to have sex so I do not want to give him that idea in case that is what he wants. There will be no 'hook up' lol

[Opinion Owner]

He's sounds like he is interested from what you say. if he was a player you would know

[Asker]

:)Funny thing..... Intuitively I have no doubt in my mind or heart, that he really likes me, but I think he would like to convince him & me that he is a player, or at least does not care.. That is difficult to deal with because if he convinces himself of that on some level, he will develop a lot of resentment towards me, because my existence will make him feel like a liar or crazy - or both,.... I am understandably suspicious of such situations. ^ ^