My boyfriend wants anal sex and I don't....is he cheating??

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend has been asking me for months now and we tried twice but it just hurt so bad and I told him to stop. Yesterday I found emails from a girl he met on MySpace and they were talking about meeting at her apt for sex. She said she was on her period and he asked if she was interested in anal and she said yes. She told him come over tonight. I am so mad and hurt. I live with him and he was with me all night and he has been every night this week...why is he doing this? Does anal sex really mean that much to a guy? Is it a deal breaker if your girlfriend won't do it? He is at work now and I have packed a lot of my stuff...should I leave him? I am just so upset...

[hisangel]

He is a cheater and it has nothing to do with anal sex. I could tell my partner no more blowjobs, no more of his favorite position, no more shower sex, and he isn't going to cheat on me. He would be frustrated as all hell but he isn't going to cheat on me because I denied him something he wants. Because he isn't a cheater.

If your boyfriend is going to cheat on you because he wants something sexual that, not only did you try to give him, but tried twice to give it to him and said no because of pain, then he is going to cheat over something else eventually. Even if he got all the anal sex he wanted.

So yes I think it is vital to leave him now before you find out one day you have an STD from him sleeping around behind your back.

[saphirasilverwings]

I agree 100% with this.

[Anonymous]

Leave him. If he loved you enough, he would have never done it to begin with. Being cheating on isn't right, and you shouldn't deal with it and/or live with it.

There are much better guys that won't bug you about anal and won't cheat on you.

This guy is just an asshole and you may love him very much, but it's clear that he doesn't love you enough to stop thinking about something he really wants and work on your relationship.

he is basically just throwing it all away because he just wants to get in some girl's ass.

just leave him, it's the right thing to do.

you may hurt now to do it, but in time you'll find out being in a better relationship it's all worth doing it.

[xgabrielle313x]

Certain types of sex arent' for everyone... You shouldn't ever feel pressured in your relationship to do anything you don't want to... unless its something fun, like... going on a ride that looks scary ;]] other than that... leave him, leave his drama, and move on. Don't stay in something that insults you as a woman. He's insulting you. Fuck him, let him have his skanks.. you don't need that sh*tt.

[l-hedoniste]

"why is he doing this?" Because he requires anal sex.

"Does anal sex really mean that much to a guy?" To me, no. To him, absolutely it does.

"Is it a deal breaker if your girlfriend won't do it?" To me, no. To him, yes.

"should I leave him?" If you're not willing to do anal, yes.

[NewYorkCity]

yep leave him. If he is doing it now he will do it again. And no anal sex is not like super important and if you don't allow him he will leave you what the fuk. It is just an extra thing when regular sex is not enough anymore same as BlowJob or HandJob or gaging etc.. leave his ass.

[Miss_Desirae]

You should leave him, definitely. That guy sounds like a jerk for even accepting to go to another girl's place for sex when he already has you. And if this is all just because you won't have anal sex with him because you don't like it, that's really stupid of him.

[toulouse]

I would have left him after asking me more than once, for anal, when it caused spain.. Even just asking more than once is reprehensible, like you do not know yourself, or it does not matter & you TRIED it on top of al that...

He is disrespectful, even without the cheating & he absolutely does not deserve you. ;)

[Littletad]

He just admitted to having a casual affair via his emails... Maybe he didn't fully, but the INTENTION was there.

If that's not enough to leave him, I don't know what is.

[manusia_ajaib]

LEAVE HIM! OPEN YOUR EYES! HE JUST USE YOU AS A SEX TOOL. SAVE YOUR DIGNITY FOR YOUR REAL HUSBAND WHO WILL RESPONSIBLE FOR THE SEX HE DO TO YOU!

[GIntrovert]

No, but for him it seems to be.. if he hasn't cheated on you, he probably will, leave him.

[the-82]

hi my name is joey grecko from cheaters lol

[Elliot0_07]

He might had cheatd on you already!

And to be fair, he did the right thing! You shoukd be ashamed for your selfishness acts. He only asked you for anal sex since it's your role to satisfy his sexual needs. Even if it hurts you should let him do it to you.

[Anonymous]

he's an asshole. he didn't cheat because you wouldn't have anal...well that's the excuse but it doesn't take away the fact that he's a cheater and likely would have done it anyway given the oppurtunity. leave his ass and don't look back. anal sex is a really easy way to transmit STDs as well, much easier than vaginal or oral...would you really be able to trust a guy who has no problems cheating on you with a random MySpace girl and then coming back in your face like he's innocent?