He wants me to 'cut' him during sex? anyone into this??

Question

I met a young guy about 3 months ago who lives 100 miles away from me. He is a little younger than me (he's 22) but absolutely gorgeous and really sweet. We really get on so well.Here's the problem. We are different in so many ways, but most important one is this: We have never had sex together, but when we were talking about how good it would feel, he asked me if I would 'cut' him with a blade? He then showed me scars on his shoulders and back from his ex? WTF? Is this normal?I am so freaked out that I have not allowed him to see me again, though I care about him deeply.

tazzy · Accepted Answer

Our brains releases endorphins when the body is cut. Its a chemical that provides pain relief and a sense of well-being, thus relieving psychological pain. It is also referred to as the "athletes high".

Some people get it easier than others but in general people who cut themselves to get this feeling also suffer from other mental health issue. Take cutting as a sign of underlying emotional troubles that needs helping. Unfortunately studies have shown that you can not help them just by telling them or lecturing them about it.

dakadan · Accepted Answer

There is a form of sex play in the BDSM world that is into blood play. Some will use needles and some will use knives. I wouldn't say that it is a common practice, but he certainly isn't the first. There is a large number of people into BDSM and as long as it is done in a safe, sane, and consentual way I don't judge anybodies kink.

It may not be for you, but you might explore it and determine later if that is something you might be into.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Uh, yah. very weird. I understand power play but actually taking a knife and carving him up like a vagina ham? Seems like a bit much.

It makes me think that either he has some issues that are rooted way below the surface or his ex did and now he's associating her (somewhat over the top) actions with his pleasure. Don't know- just be careful. And, don't do it if you don't want to. Think about yourself and how you feel. And, also, don't put yourself in a position of possible danger if the tables turn.

I might steer clear.

afterschoolgirl · Accepted Answer

listen to katie. look, I've had my share of falling for creepy guys but this is too much. Ok? next he'll be asking to cut you, because sadism & masochism go together (masochism from you cutting, and sadism from him cutting/being rough with you). And he's a guy, he's much stronger (younger, but still stronger) which is why you don't see it as a threat. but please, don't do anything sexual. Just be friends if you like. this REALLY worries me.

katiesmuff · Accepted Answer

This sounds like you are heading down a path you don't want to go down! This guy may be all the things you said, but he is also very creepy. Stop NOW before something happens that you will regret for a very long time

Katie

bluexxeyes · Answer

um wow that's not weird at all? If he wants that feeling why doesn't he just stick with really sharp fingernails!?! This is definitely not normal, and probably not safe either because then there would be blood and you don't want the blood to get into unpleasant places that could cause you to risk your health.

Bubbles · Answer

Yea that's not normal huh. If you are not comfortable about it then yea you did the right thing. I wouldn't do something like that either scary shit. I no it's hard letting someone go that you really care for but sometimes you just got too.

hazeleyes91 · Answer

wow. that is just a little creepy. that is not normal in the least!

Grandpsykick · Answer

Wow,  sadomasochism is a sexual fetish like anything other fetish, the only difference is that this one is very dangerous. It may not be that he's crazy or anything like that (which is probably what you were thinking) he might just like getting cut. Sense you are not a practicing sadomasochist yourself you shouldn't be with him, he should be with another sadomasochist who can keep him safe and no kill him during sex. Yet still, I think sadomasochism is wrong.

Riingo · Answer

I don't know if it's abnormal but it sounds like it's a way too much in your opinion. Did you try to tell him no, you won't cut him? Maybe he would have backed off about it and you guys could have moved on.

kevin-camron · Answer

look not a big deal for tough guys,i know its crazy but if all he needs a scratch then he is into some BDSM os some sorta masochistic predispositions,see if you wanna try something new,i think he is safe,i have a friend who carved his both hands up after he broke up with his girlfriend,but no way in the world he could harm a fly rather than himself,