Why does he close his eyes more when I'm on top?

[Anonymous]

I know both guys and girls close their eyes because it can feel so good it just naturally makes your eyes close... but here's what I'm confused about: When I'm on bottom, my guys looks at me a LOT - eye contact, watching my boobs bounce, looking at me damn near constantly... but when I'm on top (which he often requests and says he loves) he can't seem to keep his eyes open much at all! He will look at me like 2 seconds and then eyes close for few minutes and then look again for couple seconds - eyes right back shut again. Why?

[cybordemon]

Well in that situation you are in control. He loves that he can literally lay back and just let you ride him. It is probably VERY enjoyable for him and the 2 seconds of him looking at you he is taking a mental picture and repeating it in his head a thousand times a second.

This is also a double edged sword, he may feel out of control and by closing his eyes he is able to take control in his mind. Another thing may be that the pleasure is so great that his eyes are rolling back, and you really can't keep your eyes open and have them roll back without it being uncomfortable.

If he asks for it and likes it why complain? Especially if you enjoy it as well.

[Asker]

I have better orgasms when we connect more visually. I feel so sexy when he's constantly watching me - even when I give him blow jobs. I love to see him watching me. Also - even though I'm like 99% sure he would never do it.... when he closes his eyes I sometimes wonder if he's thinking of or picturing someone else. Do very many guys do that? Or is that just something *ssholes do that have no respect whatsoever?

[cybordemon]

Most likely he isn't thinking about someone else, he is just really in it. Typically assholes are the ones that would do something like that, and at that they are going to make it less obvious and probably use a position that they can't see your face... He is into it and you. Don't worry about that. Tell him you enjoy it more when he looks into your eyes and all over you.

[Asker]

That makes sense! I never thought about how if a guy was thinking of someone else he would prob like doggy style most. I've asked my guy if wanted to take me from behind and there's been more times than not that he says no.... even for anal, he likes me on my back facing him. That statemen REALLY helped! Thank you!!! :)

[Reginelli]

I don't think he is picturing another girl or anything. When we are on top we are in control so we are looking at you, concentrating on what we are doing and if you like it or not. But when you are on top, we can lay back and just enjoy the feeling without having to really worry about anything. So I really don't think he is thinking of anyone else, just thinking about how good you feel.

[Asker]

Thanks! :)

[martyfellow]

With you in the positin of control, he just relaxes and enjoys it more..On top, he watches to see your reaction to what he's doing.

[Asker]

Thanks... I guess I was worried he might be picturing/thinking about other girls. I'm 99% sure he wouldn't.... but I just like it more when his eyes are on me. It makes me feel really sexy when he's watching me. Do you think very many guys picture someone else? Or just the *ssholes?

[martyfellow]

I don't think many guys picture other women. Only someone with real problems would do that.

[Asker]

Thanks :)

[chiefnavarro]

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[Asker]

Are you serious? you are counting when you have sex?? really?

[chiefnavarro]

No I usually think if I could get all the way in.

[Asker]

Do you ever picture someone else other than who you are with? (if you do, why?)

[chiefnavarro]

No I don't I'm usually just trying to get them off. can I ask you when I'm on top I look at them they usually just smile and close there eyes. what does that mean

[Asker]

The only time I personally close my eyes is when it feels so good I can't help but close my eyes.... like the eyes rolling in back of your head thing. lol. I try really hard not to do that because I love so much to look at my man while we're having sex. I like looking at his tattoo on his strong arm and looking into his eyes. My orgasms are stronger when I feel that connection with him through eye contact. When I feel loved, it makes me get off at a much higher level.

[chiefnavarro]

Cool so ill asume I'm awsome

[Asker]

Lol. I guess I'm really awesome on top if it's that way for my guy too. I hope that's the case :)