Is getting your cherry popped supposed to hurt?

Question

I've been seeing this guy, but like I'm a virgin. And we've fooled around once before. However last night he picked me up from work. We drove around for a bit and then parked the car in an empty lot and started fooling around again.

The first time we fooled around, he had struggled to get a finger in me. But I guess maybe between how turned on I was and the way I was on my knees in the seat he managed to get two fingers in me. And like it hurt for a moment, but not like a pain that was too much if that makes sense, so I had kinda just figured it was stretching out again a bit.

it was dark, so we didn't see the blood until I got home and went to go pee, and there was blood in my panties. Literally right when I saw the blood HE called and said I should check myself, because apparently after he'd dropped me off he realized there was blood on his finger. He feels SUPER bad about it, and said he wanted to make that more special even if we didn't technically have sex.

But like now it's a day later and inside my hole has kinda like this sharp ache if that makes sense. Is it supposed to hurt like that? Like it doesn't hurt terribly, but it's at least noticeable

kaylaS91 · Accepted Answer

I see someone else already posted the video educating people about how there's no such thing as 'popping the cherry (ie. hymen)' but I guess I'll comment and add that you should spend more time on foreplay and/or buy some lube as it sounds like you weren't adequately lubricated. Hence the burning-sensation, which would happen to any girl, regardless of whether it was their first few times having sex or if they'd been sexually active for years, if a guy shoved his dick inside when she was dry.

RJGraveyTrain · Accepted Answer

Nah, if you're relaxed, horny, lubricated and he's not being ridiculously forceful it's not that painful. Extreme pain during sex is often just a failed presence of what I listed.

When I first had sex it was more uncomfortable than really painful. There was a twinge or two as we got going but nothing traumatic. I didn't even really bleed.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yes, it is normal for it to hurt - even to feel the pain for a day or so afterwards. It can even happen if you haven't had sex in a long time. I haven't had sex in a few years, and after a guy fingered me recently, I felt some pain for the next day or so. It went away, and everything was fine.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

No, it is not supposed to hurt. Most women do not experience pain or bleeding because the hymen stretches. Watch the Laci Green video already posted and this:

Thorack505 · Accepted Answer

obviously guys dont know what there talking about on the voteing and i voted too. i am not ashamed to say i watched that youtube video because i didn't think it was like that at all. but you learn new things everyday. might need a girls help for this one.

jacquesvol · Accepted Answer

Every girl is different. Some feel pain, others not at all or just a light burning when the hymen is stretched. (it is not 'popped') 9qFojO8WkpA

Smiley0730 · Answer

It varies for every woman. Often your cherry can get popped before you even have sex and you'll never know. I think mine must have popped sometime before having sex because I didn't feel anything and never bled.

BellePepper · Answer

Let's learn about the hymen

samhradh_leannan · Answer

It's normal to experience a small amount of pain, but it can sometimes be avoided if you are fully aroused, properly lubricated, and stretching the vagina gradually in advance using fingers or toys.