Girls, Does sexual desire tie into emotion for women?

[Navaro]

So I am a guy who is a young christian. At 26 I am thankful to still be a virgin and am resolved to remain that way until married. Being single though, I often grapple with sexual desire more than I would care to.

Though I try to hold my desires in check, I do fail at times. If I mess up and view porn for example, I feel ashamed of it and as a result I deal with strong feelings of lonliness, sadness, and frustration. I sometimes feel like my desires are something ugly that makes me an animal or something. I know on a rational level this is not true.

The frustration from dealing with desire though leads to sadness a lot of times.

Does this happen in women? If so, does it happen often for some? What might be reasons for it?

i. e. feeling like they want sex more than a girl should perhaps?

[Adelline]

You should not feel ashamed watching porn. Unless your desire is illegal like child porn or something, there is nothing to worry about andi can guarantee that there is someone out there who likes the same thing.

A girl can also have a high sex drive and not all of us need emotion for it - hence one night stands.

[Adelline]

In your example, that could needs to communicate better

[Navaro]

Girls with high drive can be frustrated because of it though right? Then it can affect their emotions?

[Adelline]

That would be no different than a guy with a high sex drive. Usually (not always), people with a high sex drive don't always need an emotional connection since their new is purely physical. My ex had a high sex drive and i didn't so he and I had to compromise since he couldn't always give me the emotional connection I needed.

[Navaro]

Hmm... I'm not sure you are understanding what I'm trying to say. I appreciate your thoughts though :)

[Adelline]

I might not lol sorry

[Navaro]

I will venture to add. Any relationship in which one or both consistently view porn is doomed if it never stops.. This is not an opinion. I hope you will not feel the need to learn through experience.

[Adelline]

I've watched porn with my ex and we've both watched it separately. If we saw anything we'd like, we would try to add it to our next time. It helped us explore our sexual desire and only made our relationship more trusting and loving.

[Navaro]

Let's say you could argue for watching it together in a positive light. You really think watching it alone is anything but selfish? It makes it all about you. Being intimate with yoru partner is not so easy. Their is risk. It takes effort. If you are determined though to hold your current view I do not expect to convince you otherwise.

[Adelline]

Why do you think it's selfish? Both my partner and I benefit from it. I'd rather he watch porn and get off to that rather than cheat on me.

[Navaro]

The more he watches it, the less he will want you. Also the more he watches it, the less satisfying he will find you to be. It only encourages thinking that will in time make him more comfortable with cheating on you. In the world of pornography, things can be changed on a whim to suit the preferences of the viewer. Not so simple and easy if he is with you. I do not pretend to understand why a girl would view porn. I am a guy though so I will suggest that I understand how it is for us guys.

[PrincessPie]

I need some emotional attachment to get turned on or its pointless for me.. id say in general men are just easier turned on and don't need emotional simulation because to them a lot of the time sex and emotions are separate.

[YomKittyUno]

I am much more into emotion than sex... but when someone gets emotional with me, I am automatically turned on. :)