My boyfriend cums very quickly?

Question

When we first had sex he couldn't fit himself inside me and it hurt like hell, but he said it felt good for him but he tried to be gentle and only managed to get the head in the first time we did it.

As time has gone on he's been able to fit more inside me, but he can't go too deep because it pokes my cervix which also hurts. The problem is though, he can't seem to last long. He said it feels too good on the tip, and I can't seem to move, I literally have to lay there and let him go very slowly in and out so he won't cum, but he still can't handle it and ends up cumming in about 60 seconds max.

It's sad because the only times he can go for longer and control himself better is when he's swallowed speed. But obviously I don't want him to have to resort to drugs every time we have sex. His penis has started to feel really good the more I've gotten used to it, I mean I want to get some pleasure too because it just leaves me feeling sexually frustrated when he cums so fast. He said he's tried viagra before but it didn't work.
It makes him feel worthless and like he's crappy in bed whenever this happens and he's actually good when he doesn't cum quick. He also said it never used to happen, it's only started happening recently.

So any suggestions?

UnknownReflection · Accepted Answer

-The very first reason that someone could experience both quick ejaculation and lasting too long would be stress, anxiety and sometimes overthinking. At this case. You must be patient with each other. As times move forward. He will be relaxed more and it will start to be better.

-The mentality and early experiences can cause early ejaculation. Part of the early ejaculation is because the pre-thoughts that hit a man before and during sexual intercourse. The erotic thoughts makes the sensations a thousand times stronger and when it combines with an actual penetration and sensation it blow up pretty soon. On the other hand when someone is having the very first sexual experiences. It's normal to have many early ejaculations until they get used to the feeling of penetration. He must control his thoughts and mentality in a better way. And again you guys must be patient and let the time solve most of the issues regarding this.

-He must practice controlling his sensations. Muscles and also using breathing techniques. You guys can study about penetration techniques, there are plenty ways out there. Using one of them can help him to manage the penetration and his sensations better and as the result there will be longer and regular penetration. Controlling and managing muscles can help to prevent the ejaculation to move freely completely on it's own. Breathing techniques helps to improve the maintenance of these two factors.

-Using safe supportive products such as numbness condoms could help to the task.

-Practicing more. He can rate for example from 1 to 10. Practicing his sensations by masturbation can help him to improve self-control and management of his sensations. For instance, he masturbate till he reach the spots 8-9 right before he is about to finish. Then let it go for seconds. Allow it to cool down and restart the circle. Repeats this cycle and continue periodically till he learn how to control the sensations.

-I would also remind you that you must remember biologically sex doesn't meant to last too long. The average periods are usually between 5-7 minutes. The longer usual periods are between 15-20. You should study more about it. Even tho we enjoy sexual pleasure and this is our nature. Yet the main biological purpose of sex is to conceive and the process does not structured to be way too long. Just reminding you to not allow yourself to have unrealistic expectation. We are not meant to have horse power and last long like pigs.

samkari · Accepted Answer

let him give u lots of foreplay at least 20 to 30 mins, and possibly make you cum first through oral or fingering (gently at the beginning and increase speed), that way if he cums 60sec after u cum, u r both satisfied, as time goes on he will get used to your pussy n start lasting longer
One question I have is how long does it take to cum when he masturbates?

helva · Accepted Answer

It's not exceptionnal a boy has an orgasm in the first minute when he's not used to insertion. I would suggest to use a condom ans maybe a position as spooning without lots of movements.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

you're probably masterbating too much. the muscles get tighter the more you do so lay of a bit and save it for sex.

airgrayhawk · Answer

Sounds like he needs to just needs going with you. Once you're for lack of better words stretched out to his penis and he's able to really move around. Things will be beautiful. Otherwise, he could try a cock ring.

Markm3212 · Answer

like many have said try condoms with the cream in as, with the cream and teh lack of stimulisation from the condom he shoud last a little longer. also get him to give you oral first so that you are not left unhappy and you both get pleasure

nothinq · Answer

Try a cock ring (there are also some condoms that help with making a guy last longer)

beautifulangel76 · Answer

Use condoms. And give him a blowjob before

Eugene · Answer

1.) Have him jerk off and cum some 2 hours before sex.
2.) Give him a tad bit of alcohol. Initially, alcohol causes temporary blood vessel dilation, which WILL make him last longer. Don't go overboard with this one; you want to cause temporary blood vessel dilation, not to get him drunk.

Unit1 · Answer

Fuck him more often, then he will last longer! And go for round 2!

christian_witch · Answer

Blow him, have him cum, and then have sex when he gets hard again. Guys usually are less sensitive then and take longer to cum after the first time.

Ben38 · Answer

i highly doubt that he does come that quick after the first or second time he came. so why don't give him an orgasm by hand/mouth/etc first and then have sex? i bet he will manage to do better then.

CT_CD · Answer

He can cum as fast as he wants to

masterkamasutra · Answer

you girls spend time with such a poor dick, why live frustrated? its his problem and tell him to deal with it, he need some good skill and medical help.

zack13 · Answer

first blow him and then you will enjoy your passionate sex

play_nl · Answer

There are some type of condoms that have numbing effects to make guys last longer and there are creams with same effects if you prefer having sex without condom