Anyone angry over circumcision? I hate my parents for allowing it.
I can't stand it, this practice is mutilation! I have a sensitive part of my body removed that I will never get back...I hate my mom for allowing it to happen...its not normal is sick, twisted and disgusting, I wonder ow my mom would feel if she had a body part removed from her against her will, we got in an argument about it...i proved to her it was totally unnecessary and she's a sick twisted person for thinking its OK.
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I wish every day that I wasn't circumcised. I would give up everything I have to have a whole and complete body. What mother would take a knife to her own son? Who would hurt their own child? Whenever my mom said something like "I would die for you, never let anyone harm you," I just couldn't believe her. My glans rubs against my clothing all day and causes me constant pain. Sex will never be as pleasurable for me, and women prefer uncirced men because it gives them more pleasure too. I am jealous of dogs. Maybe in heaven I will have my foreskin? I just wish I had been given the choice of which body parts I got to keep and which were thrown in the dumpster. I was a beautiful baby boy and my own mother couldn't accept all of me. Minutes after birth I had to be butchered. Even though I know she thought it was best, never intended any harm, and wasn't even the one who wanted it (Dad did), I can't trust her. I could never get close to her, and I'm in my twenties and living on my own now. No matter how I consciously think, I feel deep down that my mother didn't save me from harm the one chance she had.
I feel terrible knowing any man, no matter how average, could please my girlfriend more than I can.
I feel like a woman who had one breast amputated so that "you would have a 50% less chance of breast cancer". Any woman in that state would be breast-obsessed and feel inferior to every woman on the street. She would feel unsexy and incomplete. That is how I feel. All men have an invisible competition with each other and I am always the loser because I'm not really a man. I am what is left over of what could have been a man.
I have a good job, a girlfriend who loves me and I plan on marrying, and many friends. I still feel incomplete because despite all that I have, I don't have my own body. I never got used to it, I just learned to endure it. I am disgusted with my own penis - it is scarred and repulsive. I was denied my sexuality, and sexual pleasure, the beautiful union that joins two souls.
Why did my parents do this to me? Why couldn't they love me for who I was? Did the 9 months in my mother mean anything? I know they didn't think it would cause me pain, but I've never healed from the scars they left on my soul. No matter what I think, deep down I don't trust them, don't want to be near them, and am scared of what they are capable of. I know these are irrational thoughts but I can't get them out of my head and it has poisoned my relationship with them. I never told them how I felt, because it would break their heart to know I hate and resent them, but I never bonded with my own parents because of my own one-sided anger, and that hurts just as much as being incomplete.
What Girls Said 7
Hi. I'm from the UK, hardly anyone here is circ'd. I can't believe that girls in the US like it more circ'd, I don't believe they have ever been with an uncirc'd man, saying all the things they have said. I have only been with one circ'd man who was an ex and sex was not good, because it just felt too rough, and I would get dry in no time, and It would become uncomfortable. There is something you can do though, you can get your foreskin restored (foreskin restoration). There are lots of methods, do a google search. Basically you stretch the shaft skin over the head, and in time new cells grow and eventually it completely covers the head, like the foreskin did. I say do that, you will have reclaimed you body back then, and no matter what girls say, when you have sex, it will feel better for both people.
Anonymous User... you have every right to be livid with your parents. That being said, I assume that most of these posts are made by ignorant, immature and shallow girls. I'm pleased to say I'm a female American intactivist. A man has every right to ALL of his anatomy. Those who are posting of the 'medical' benefits would be smart to note that even the American Cancer Association and American Association of pediatrics doesn't consider this procedure necessary until there actually IS a problem. This argument comes down to a culture of shallow people, mostly women. The prevention of HIV amongst the masses is better prevented by the use of condoms.
Also, I'd like for everyone to check out an actual circumcision procedure. Now ladies... as a new mother I can honestly tell you that subjecting a newborn child to such a painful procedure is not only dangerous, its immoral. How many of you can honestly tell me that you'd allow someone to strap your child's legs apart while he is dissected without anesthetic? I can tell you the screams and cries will burn a hole right through you. I half suspect most of you to continue in your ignorance and not actually 'watch' a procedure being performed in order to blind yourself of the truth, but that's not my problem. Just wait until your child is like this poor guy who is approaching you and asking "why did you mutilate me?" All you'll be able to say is that "we didn't care about you or what you'd want, its about what we want". Great parenting!
I'd also like to note for those girls out there that the female genitalia is no prize. We have a higher chance of developing an infection than an intact male ever would. The ACTUAL statistics is less than 1%. An intact male has a 1% chance of getting an infection, while a mutilated male has a .1% chance. Either way you look at it, the percentages don't justify it. However, I would like to add for all those discriminatory ladies out there, if you cut off a girls clitoral hood they have a lesser chance of getting an infection... so I guess that means we should start doing that to baby girls or they'll have a 4% chance of infection ;) Don't screw with those of us who actually know the facts or we'll make you eat~* your words.
Hating your Mom over this isn't going to change anything. You're bitterness isn't hurting her...it's hurting you. You obviously have far more issues to think about rather than whether you were circumcised or not. Personally, I find uncircumcised penis' to be dirtier usually and if I know a guy has one...it's an instant turn off. You should thank your Mom. Removing that foreskin is almost like removing a humongous mole...it wasn't doing you any favours and you look 100% better w/o it.
I don't think your mom is a sick, twisted person for thinking it's okay. Circumcision is done for a number of reasons and used to be pretty routine (at least in a number of countries, especially in North America). For many, its for religious reasons, and it was also commonly believed that circumcision was more hygienic (which is not necessarily true) and decreased the chances of someone getting HIV when they would eventually become sexually active (which we also know now to be false). I don't think a lot of people really considered that circumcision is a form of mutilation, and it was also believed that pain does not adversely affect babies since they don't remember it (another fallacy).
I don't agree with male circumcision, but when considering the decisions your parents made, you have to consider them in their context. We've come along way in our thinking and knowledge when it comes to this topic.
On the other side of the coin, my mother once confided in me that she worries my younger brother might have negative feelings toward her because she chose NOT to have him circumcised (we live in a culture where most boys his age are circumcised and she was worried that he might be or feel like he might be discriminated because he ISN'T circumcised).
Well if you've never had sex uncircumcised you won't be able to tell the difference; But it is pretty cruel to do so, not to mention there's really no reason besides religious reasons . The foreskin is supposed to be pretty sensitive and also reduce your chances of urinary tract infections.
There's basically no reason to cut it off.
That I know of; I might be incorrect.
Wow... that's very harsh. I think yelling at your mom about anything is completely disrespectful.. but have you considered any other points of view? The Bible does say that boys should be circumsized.
What Guys Said 8
I hate it too. every time I shower, change clothes, use the bathroom, even make love, I'm confronted by the fact that I can never be whole, in the most personal way. It feels like sexual harassment every single time. I've always hated it ever since I found out it had been done to me. I've though about suicide so many times, but I keep going by working against the practice as an activist, and hoping that regenerative medicine will one day make me able to have some form of a happy life by being something close to whole again.
I wish my parents and the doctor who did this were in jail for what they've done, the bottom line is they knew it wasn't their body, and wasn't theirs to amputate parts from. I no longer speak to my parents because of it, and I'm very much hoping I will never see them again.
I hate that I was circumcisied too. I was in a very very dark place for a long time over it. Now I actively fight against circuncision and have nearly restored my foreskin. Although I may look intact my soul is scared forever. I can never bring my self to forgive my mother for what was done to me. I didn't even find out I was circumcisied until I was 17 and the night I found out my whole world crashed around me.
Nearly all the women in the world have sex with intact men considering only less than 15% of men are cut world wide. Many guys who are cut refuse to admit they are missing out either because they believe it better or admiring otherwise would require them to admit they are less than their intact peers.
Circumcision is mutilation to the definition and thinking otherwise is wrong and inhuman. All people desire their whole bodies. Not just women and those who criticize men who speak out and admit their feelings, are wrong!
I've never seen so many stupid f***s and dumb bitches in one place. I can relate to everything OP said, and in no way is he a p**** for being angry at his mother about the circumcision. If you're one of the homosexuals who posted here trying to degrade him for it, I suggest you shut the f*** up and get yourself educated.
Circumcision has ruined my life as well. As I got older and discovered masturbation, I realized I could regulate the flow of blood under my penis, where the veins integrated with the scar skin outside. It affected everything in me, literally. From all my 5 senses,my thinking process, to causing great anger for no reason and great depression. It almost acted like some unnatural valve that shouldn't be there. Ofcoarse, I couldn't explain this to any1, and even when I tried, no1 could relate to what I was saying, because that situation was unique to only me. Anyways, one day I guess I touched it the wrong way or too rough and it caused even more blockage, that only got worse and worse. My family keeps telling me to go get it checked out, but I don't think its fixable at this point and have lost all trust in doctors.
Ive been dealing with this ever since I hit puberty, instead of enjoying life. I'm now in my mid 20s and am seriously considering suicide. I'm even studying afterlife and reincarnation before I do it. All because of the stupid, unnecessary, barbaric f***ing surgery. Not to mention, I'm actually really good looking and had to turn down a good share of fine, beautiful girls because of it.
Do you see it now? Did that paint a pretty good picture of what its like for males like us, and what we have to go through? Some dudes might not have a problem with it, and it that's fine if that's what you want. I would have no complaints, if I decided to get circumscribed when I was old enough to know that I didn't need my penis for just peeing, instead of being no older than 6 and having my retarded family convince me that I will be unworthy in the eyes of God, if I didn't get it done...If you're intact, you have no idea how good you have it, and how much sh*t you don't have to deal with.
I'm against the procedure too but I don't think your mom is a twisted person. She probably thought it was the right thing to do at the time. Up until the late 80s here in North America it was almost universal. People commonly believed (and probably still do) that it has all kinds of health benefits. It wasn't really until the last 20 years or so that the procedure was widely called into question. It's likely she thought she was saving you from disease though it turned out not to be the case.
As I'm sure you can see by now, circumcision is still a very touchy subject. Both proponents and opponents tend to be VERY adamant in their beliefs. I know you feel robbed and you have my sympathy for that but I'm sure your mom is a kind, caring woman.
By the way have you ever heard of foreskin restoration? Google it. Many people still have some of the original foreskin tissue left over after circumcision. If you're very dedicated, you can restore it by stretching this tissue. The result is a convincing and natural foreskin although it lacks some things like the ridged band so that the foreskin is a bit "looser" than a natural one but it's quite close in most ways.
Nice try, undercover uncircumcised guy