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Why do girls ridicule guys with small penises?

I don't want to get into detail but my ex left me because my penis was apparently too small for her, and I guess she told her friends because now it's gotten out that I have a small penis...A lot of girls ridicule me for it and after a while it's really hurtful. My penis is about 4 inches long and 4 inches in girth when erect so yeah, it 's small -and- thin in case you were wondering. Before though, I used to believe what other people had told me; that it was what you did, not the size, that mattered. I always thought to try my best to make sure that whomever I'm with is happy, but I feel like that's not good enough anymore. I just wanna know from other girls...Would you be turned off if your boyfriend has a small penis? Would you dump him because he has a small penis? Do most girls feel this way about penis size in general? Why do girls ridicule guys with small penises? And another thing, if a girl says "size doesn't matter, It's fine don't worry," does she honestly mean it or is she just saying that to not hurt your feelings? Be 100% completely honest, okay please? Don't say stuff just to make me feel better...
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  • A small penis would not turn me off, and I would never dump someone based soley on their penis size. I date a person becase I LIKE THEM, not for what's between their legs.

    Penis size can be important in sexual pleasure, for example, if you're smaller, you may have trouble stimulating a girl's g-spot or giving her that feeling of being "filled". But keep in mind that the size of women's vaginas vary just as penis size does, what is optimal for one person might not be for the next.

    That being said, probably the majority of women have trouble reaching g-spot orgasm through penetration alone, and a lot have never had a g-spot orgasm at all. Women tend to orgasm more readily through clitoral stimulation instead, or at least require clitoral stimulation on top of g-spot stimulation.

    The size of someone's penis does not determine how well they can make a woman orgasm, or how good of a lover they are. In fact, I think that sometimes guys with large penises are worse lovers because they rely too much on their penis size to give a girl an orgasm and don't bother to learn what actually makes her cum, or other ways that she enjoys being pleasured.

    The important thing when it comes to being a good lover and ensuring your partner has a pleasurable and satisfying experience is communication and exploration. Talk about what you like and don't like and explore both on your own and together to find out more about what is pleasurable and what helps you climax.

    This girl that you're talking about in particular was likely just immature and mean-spirited. I'm sorry that she treated you this way. You are much better off without a bitch like that.

  • She was immature and heartless. I'm not saying this to make you feel better, it's true. Size does not matter. The first third of the vagina is the most sensative as well so you don't need to be huge to give a girl pleasure. I wouldn't dump a guy because of their size but even if I did I wouldn't say that's why. That just ruins their confidence. If you're worried about pleasing her try stimulating her clit during sex, that's more likely to make her come anyway. Any girl worth being with won't care about how big your penis is.

    • No you should say that’s why because you don’t want to give a guy a false reason like a bad personality, and then he wonders why he keeps getting dumped despite improving his personality…

  • She was immature.While you are under the average size,if you had skills and were willing to learn and explore her body then that's all that matters.

    Some girls could care less about size,and care more about whether you're good with your tongue or not,cause a lot of girls can't orgasm from vaginal sex.

    I'm sorry,she was a biatch

    • First of all dude,you don't wanna be with a girl who blasts your personal private business around,even if you were "big" you wouldn't wanna be with a girl who kisses and tells.,second of all,she's a teenager and she has the teenage mentality that bigger is better.Bigger can hit the cervix and a lot of girls judge by girth.And for future reference,just be willing to learn and make it known,let the girl know you're willing to learn what pleases her and don't waste your time on a b*tch :D

Most Helpful Guys

  • man am sorry to hear this I know what you're feeling right now and the worst thing is the only time you ever hear size doesn't matter is on the internet because in the real world all women I've known have some way admited to not whanting a guy with a small penis so yes is a curse iam small to and I've been single for years after getting dump so much because of it dude the best advice I can give you is live you're life the best you can because having a small one can cost you a lonely life just get use to it the only time size does not matter is when you're paying for sex

  • DonT know what kind of women you meet...My women friends don't ask and any woman worth a &*&^ would never say a word about a guy's penis if she thought it was small...

    One lady told me she had small breasts...or barely any at all...who cares..? She was beautiful...small penis...? If she likes you well enough to share her body with you ...

    and then has an issue with your penis...?

    Find another woman.

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  • I’m going anonymous on this as I wouldn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings.

    Depends on the penis. If it’s on the skinny side, a woman probably won’t feel it much. Just being honest here. A lot of women will lie and tell they that they “feel a finger” so they can “feel a small penis”. To that I say: Well… can you feel a tampon when it’s in? The answer is no. No, you can’t (otherwise, women wouldn’t use tampons, but I digress). You might feel a small penis right when it enters you, but after a few seconds, it won’t feel like much.

    There are a few undeniable advantages to a bigger penis. 1) it doesn’t slip out all the time when changing positions. 2) bigger means more friction against the walls of a woman’s vagina, more friction helps it stay hard. 3) The extra length makes it possible for the shaft to rub against the woman’s clitoris during sex. As many people have pointed out, women need clitoris stimulation to achieve an orgasm. 4) woman like the feeling of being totally “filled up”. 5) And lastly, it’s safer. Try putting a condom on a small penis, it’ll either slide off during sex or, equally bad, cause the penis to go soft (if there’s hardly any friction to begin with, there’s even less sensation with a condom). So from personal experience and what other women have told me, they end up relying on the “pullout method” to avoid these problems, putting the woman at risk.

    Now, all that said, sex with a small penis can be fun too. Has a lot to do with the physical chemistry between two people. For women, arousal starts in the brain. If we’re into you emotionally, we’ll probably be turned on by you, and getting us turned on will make sex good for us regardless of penis size.

    On the other hand - if we just want a hook up, penis size matters much more (since we’re relying on your “body” to turn us on, and not the emotional attachmenT

    • @scarlett_women can feel tampons they just get used to the feeling of them…also a tampon isn’t moving in and out it’s just staying there…

  • "my ex left me because my penis was apparently too small for her, and I guess she told her friends because now it's gotten out that I have a small penis"

    can we all agree she is a bitch for this?

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  • Chin up! I have what I consider as a small penis too. But that doesn't mean the end of any good relationship with a woman you love.

    A bit explicit (I think): If she compares, that doesn't mean that she's not having fun with you.

    I feel you want to be 'perfect' sexually. I think you have low self-respect. You need to accept yourself. Improve yourself in other aspects of your life. You can increase how long you can 'stand'. Learn how to build moments. That's more important as far as I know.

    You have both good and bad in you. So does your partner.

    A girl can be insecure about her body too, you know? Find a girl that you can explore each other's insecurity with. But not only that, explore what you are both good at too. Build trust from there.

  • Don't let some idiot convince you all girls are the same.

  • Because so many guys make such a fuss about their size. Sex isn´t just determined by the size of a cock but by the technique you use. If you keep reminding her that you´re under-average she´ll treat like that.

  • bitch ! better off without

  • The size doesn’t matter it’s if we like it in the ass so we like it

  • Because girls know we like the humiliaition lol, mine is under 5 inches hard, about 2 1/2 soft and I love showing it off at my nudist beach ,

  • What women say about small penis we say about small breast

  • I love your ex

  • I dont know but I used to be humiliated at school by girls who discovered that mine was small

    • yeh me too, my sister told her friends about mine lol,,,

  • I have the same problem same size as you I never had a problem with sex I've always liked older women they know what they want they don't care about size I've also been with young women and they don't mind it

  • Some girls do care about the size, for hook ups or fwb, in a relationship other things are more important, you can't change the way she feels, but at least you know who ever you find she will want you for you not the size of your junk...

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