How to tell my friends with benefits I have chlamydia?

[Anonymous]

my doctor just called to tell me I have chlamydia, it's really annoying but after taking medicaments it will be gone again

I just don't know how to tell my friends with benefits, cause I never had chlamydia before and I just sleept with him, he clearly did slept around, but personally I don't know, maybe he didn't, I don't want to blame him, I don't know what's going on in his life and all
In the end I have chlamydia, he probably does have it to and somehow I need to tell him, but I don't know how
We don't really communicate openly with each other, it's more a fuckbuddy thing, so he can sleep with others and me to, but I was loyal af to him, even if it wasn't something serious

[AndyOh]

YOu need to be adult about this and have a conversation, like the next time you meet up for sex. He needs to know so he can take care of it as well, if he is adult enough to do so.
Be straight up, and if he is a jerk and decides to leave you, then at least you did the right thing.
Honestly is the best.

[Asker]

I guess I will text him, it seems more weird if I tell him right before sex and all Also do I know that I have it from him? Like 100%, could it be that I had them, even he was my only sex partner ever?

[tsin98]

Goto him and say hey I have a good news and a bad news
the bad news is that my doc just called me and told me that I have Chlamydia,
but the good news is that if I take my meds it'll be gone.
The news in between is I think you may or may not have it!!!

[Blonde401]

Just literally tell him. It's like ripping off a band aid. It's easier the quicker you do it. I got chlamydia from someone who cheated on me, yeah not fun. But if you're just friends with benefits then no biggie

[Asker]

Oke than I will text him and honestly I'm kind of scared that I could be the one who kind of started with chlamydia, I don't know, he was my only sex partner ever in my whole life and I don't know if I have it from him or he from me, or he doesn't have it at all, it's so weird and I don't know

[Blonde401]

So you've never had sex with anyone else? Yeah then in that case it's likely he gave it to you

[Asker]

No I didn't, but my gynecologist meant I could had it before, even if I wasn't active with sex and all I'm so confused, I also think I might have it from him, but I'm so confused! What if I'm the one?

[Blonde401]

You could but it is unlikely. Don't accuse him. Just tell him you have it and he needs checking out :) Does it matter who gave it who? It's a simple thing to get rid of.

[Asker]

Yeah you're right! I'm sorry, it's so weird I will text him and than its done, thank you so much!

[Blonde401]

No problem :)

[Blonde401]

Thank you for MHO :) good luck!

[Asker]

He left me on read! I'm freaking out somehow, I don't want to overreact or jump on conclusions I hope he is just busy and will text me soon, but he just left me on read, with that topic

[Blonde401]

Don't sweat it. Remember that you did nothing wrong!

[Asker]

Thank you so much! You helped me really a lot with this topic! He still didn't replied and I'm still left on read and now I find it good, hopefully he won't ever text me again, like you said I did nothing wrong, I could have also kept this information for me and all, but at least one of us is adult enough, again thank you!

[Blonde401]

Yeah exactly :) you behaved like an adult and told him. Move on with your life and forget about it ;) plenty more fish in the sea!

[Asker]

Again thank you so much!

[Asker]

He didn't deleted my number, It's kind of confusing, he just posted something in his What'sapp Story thing, I didn't watched it but it means I'm still in his Contacts, isn't that weird? I find it so weird, like I kind of did shit with the chlamydia story what has to be gone now, but he didn't deleted it? well I also didn't deleted, but still he didn't deleted

[Blonde401]

Delete him if you feel like you need to?

[Asker]

Yeah you're right, thanks again!

[Blonde401]

No probs :) forget him!

[melanieeeB]

text him, I mean your just friends with benefits so a text will be enough, text him, "hey I got tested and I have chlamydia now, you should get tested to! It's curable, we don't need to stress, just get tested"

[Wonderer89]

Why do you want to do it in person? If you only meet up for sex and don't really have a social or platonic friendship then a text or call seem more suitable?

[Asker]

Oke, good isn't it weird to just text him? I mean, it will be weird and also honestly, do I have them from him? I mean could I be the one who had them and gave it to him? he was my first and only sex partner I ever had and now that (yeah it was a stupid decision to gave him my V card and all)

[Alyssa1111]

you have to just straight up tell him. Like, hey we need to talk and...
he has to know

[redlif3]

you just tell them. Make sure that both you and him have a condom and that you take pill.

[Anpu23]

Just say something like "when was the last time you were tested?" And if becomes an issue, tell him that you tested positive, and as he was the only one you slept with since your last test...

[MajinTalon]

Yeah.. they gave you it. I'm pretty sure they know.

[Nandor]

Thats why u dont go around and fuck people

[LastNightmare]

just kick his ass hard, when he asks why you did it..
just say, I'm gonna say the thing which we hurt more

[Will69]

its curable

[Snyxthetics]

tell him fast better 😂 just to have told it.. will make u feel better too i guess

[CT_CD]

That's what you get for being a sloot and having a fuckbuddy.

[Crimsyjo]

Such an outdated attitude. A) u can get it from a disloyal boyfriend, husband, girlfriend, wife. B) so she's a slut but the guys just being a guy right? And its the womans fault giving it away easy? Pft. Women have needs too and a fuck buddy can be great and is a mutual giving of pleasure. But yeah there is risk without the "you cheated" card. This asker is neither victim nor Saint. It just is what it is. She needs to stop worrying about blame though and just tell him. Then decide for herself, knowing it will prob happen again, whether to wrap it or kick it to the kerb and get a proper relationship.

[Anonymous]

He likely knows he has it, but you have to tell him in any case.

Just text him if you can't do it in person. Or 8( you don't want to then just end the feh arrangement. Otherwise you're just going to end up with it again.

[Asker]

How does he know that he has it? What if I'm the one? I'm really scared of that I mean he is the only one I ever slept with, but still what if I have it?

[Opinion Owner]

If you haven't slept with anyone else then he's the only one you could've got it from... and whoever he got it from might have told him already...

[Anonymous]

Just tell him directly