Maybe it's totally something to do with his psychology? Hell what goes on in a person's head has ALOT to do with issues such as not orgasming, premature ejaculation etc. Look I'm totally speculating, but it could be on some scale that he could have some anxiety when it comes to sex - could be his own belief in giving your pleasure/orgasms etc. Does he have a very religious upbringing? Does he have a positive outlook towards sex or does he shy away/avoid the topic?
I'm just throwing out assumptions, but maybe he suffers from a low libido due to stress, fatique, a poor diet, low levels of testosterone etc.
The fact that you've tried a range of things from dress, dirty talk is awesome - and shows you've made the effort to see how you can improve this issue. From your post I wouldn't say it sounds like its because you are bad in bed - however, would you say he feels pressured by the importance you place on this issue?
Overall I think there needs to be more communication from his end to figure the root of the problem, as I think its possible something mentally that stopping him from totally engaging.
Aside from the sex, how is the rest of the relationship? Could be a totally non-sexually related issue too...
x Johnny1 0 0 0Thank you for you for ansureing and you may be right, And if you are how do I fix the issue. He's not one for talking but I've got him to talk to me somewhat and open up to me. Sex isn't the most important thing in a relationship but it is important I mean if we're not having sex now what happens in two or three years from now? Out side of sex we don't have many problems we get along fine. And things are good for the most part I mean we have our problems but our biggest thing is communication
I wish I could tell you how to fix it, but I don't know - it would be up to your boyfriend to talk about with you. My best advice would be to try and not make it a big deal and slowly see if you can open up the channels of communication between the two of you
Thanks I'll try that.
Its not you its him, he may not be over the ex, on the rebound perhaps, used you to get over her, and he is still not over her emotionally. Clearly it is psychological if he can perfom physically ie no medical reason, he's not into you for what ever reason...
0 0 0 1You may be right but I'm not sure see if that were the case it would be his first serous relationship with sammy. But he's dated two other girls since her one of them I met before me and him got together. And he says that he never loved her that he was with her mainly so he wasn't alone. Plus she cheated on him with 2 guys that I know for sure of and was constantly using him for money, sex, and to have a good guy to support her wile she screwed everyone else. So maybe but I'm not quite so sure.
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1 1I think he could be homosexual.
0 0 0 0Thanks but I don't believe that's the case. If he were gay than all his other girlfriends wold have had the same problem I'm having.
It doesn't matter how good looking you are, guys are going to get bored of your body. Just look at all the celebrity guys cheating on their hot wife with someone who you'd think is much uglyer.
0 1 0 0Okay so if its only been a year and he's already bored with my body than should I stay with him? I mean what's ganna happen in two or three years from now. is he ganna start cheated on me because he's board. And if that's it then what can I do to get him interested in my body again?
A long term relationship needs to be about personality, hitting the gym is not a bad idea either but for the most part its personality that will hold the relationship together as well as the effort you both put in to have fun
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