Are there certain things you wouldn't do with a FWB?

[Hannabel]

So I've got a FWB type situation with a guy right now, and to be honest I'm quite happy with that, as I just got out of a long term relationship, and he is only home for the summer before he goes back to school in a city 6 hours away, but I was just wondering, are there certain things that you wouldn't do with someone you were ONLY interested in being FWB with? I'm asking this because even though we haven't even talked about anything I always thought FWB would be mostly about the sex, and not too... sweet? However, the guy in question does really tender things like holding hands, kissing on the forehead, cuddling lots, brushing hair out of my face, really soft/tender kisses etc. and in my mind those are the types of sweet little things you do for someone you have more feelings for than just the physical. I know I'm probably reading way to much into things, but maybe he's just keeping things physical because it will be easier that way when it comes time to leave? Or, maybe he just wants to f*ck hahaha, thoughts? TL;DR Does a guy that just wants to bone do sweet things for a girl even if he knows she's already going to sleep with him? or is he interested in being more than FWB?

[Meedo]

it depends on the guy... but if it was me that would mean that I would be falling for the girl. I am the kind of character that can never feel that the girl infront of me is just a body . I will definitely develop feelings . If I am not attracted to a girl to ask to be with her seriously ... then I would not be FWB with her . If I badly want sex and I have to then I know I will develop feelings.

I sound confused my self lol... I never been FWB with any body so may be I should shut up lol .

my advise is to ask him ... he is FWB with you ... that means that he shouldnt be falling for you ... ask him why does he do those small endeering touches... make sure he is not falling for you ... tell him that you like the sex but you don't want a relationship.

If he becomes sad because you say so then you know he was about to fall for you .

That is ofcourse if you are not thinking about him on a different level.

best of luck

[Hannabel]

Thanks :)

[MDBayBoy]

He probably does like you, all of those things consistently plus texting you about your feelings are a sign he does. Unfortunately since you live apart most the time you have to decide if a long distance relationship is worth it or are you happy the way things are.

[needaglassawata]

I've had friends with benefits situations where they were strictly physical and ones that included doing tender/romantic things. I find the ones where there is more mutual affection to be more rewarding and lasting--you trust the other person more in bed and thus are down for freakier and more rewarding sexy times. It's natural to at least someone like the person you're consistently f***ing but that doesn't necessarily mean you want to be in a boxed-off relationship with them.

[toulouse]

fwb just means no commitment , it has nothing to do with the sweet little things you or he can do

he does those things because je likes to...but if you are not in a relationship, then that is still fbw status ...thee really is nothing to be confused about

r you saying that an fbw can not have rep[rect for the other ...than why would you want that

& are you guys doing anything other than sex ...w/e why doers the title matter.

[Hannabel]

The title really doesn't matter, and it's not that FWB can't have respect for eachother, because if they didn't that would totally negate the FRIENDS part in my mind, all I was saying was that in my mind, there are certain things that guys usually only do for someone they have deeper feelings for than wanting to get with, and I was curious as to the opinions of other guys. There is a difference between respect and affection, and there are different kinds of affection.

[toulouse]

Well I gues I think of friends with benefits as being void of actual commitment, not void of affection, as you said the 'friends' is a huge part of it....it is the foundation. & guys are dif , some refuse to do certain affectionate things on principle, others they don't discriminate, they just do what feels right.. but of course outside of asking guys what THEY do, you could ask THE GUY what HE does :) :)

[katiesmuff]

Maybe we tend to make guy look more cold hearted than they actually are. I have sex with various guys some I know well, others not so well, but it seems that no matter what unless we are role playing they are friendly, gentle, cuddle, kiss and do these little nice things. From experience I can see how a FWB could easily turn into a relationship something I avoid like the plague.

How did you get aquainted with this FWB?

[Hannabel]

I was originally friends with his older brother [who is a couple years older than I am] and then started hanging out with his friends [most of whom are a year younger than I am] and it kinda happened pretty quickly from there...

[Anonymous]

my "FWB" holds my hand too and touches my legs when we talk... but whenever I ask him if he's jealous he denies it even tho it's so obvious. and he denies it too when he sends me msgs even tho he does send me msgs asking me why I was sad that day blah blah not a good actor lol

[nothingtosee]

When it comes to friends with benefits, the one thing you should NEVER do is, fall in love with him, or her. Remind yourself it's all about sex. Use him for just that. Now's the time to be open with him about all your sexual fantasies and you desire to fulfill them. In my opinion, all his lovey dovey stuff is just so you feel good.

I love having friends with benefits. I really like it when she calls me for one thing, sex. I also like it when she brags about just being on a date and he was horrible in bed. I like it when she tells me that, with me, she can be open about what she likes in bed and i'm willing to do anything!

Meanwhile, don't hesitate to either find MORE friends with benefits or that one guy you can live with for the rest of your life.

If you feel like talking privately, you can reach me at nothingtosee at yahoo. com

[Loveleigh]

I'd love to know what happened or what you learned because I'm in a similar situation except that we do live in the same city and think we'd make a great couple.

[Mecurious]

You're reading too much into things. All 4 of my friends with benefits did these actions and all 4 ditched me after 4months. Good luck with keeping hold of yours. You'll need it

[GingerGuy]

Depends on the guy. You're best to ask him just to be sure. But I do all those things during sex to, to me it's part of it and I can't help it. Not only do I think she'll like it, but I do as well.

[jacquesvol]

I simply couldn't be a FWB without feeling and showing tenderness for and to the girl.

But that's me...

[dreamishobby]

yes I think he likes you and thinks that you have the same feelings for him as well...otherwise no guy would care so much about you after he's done with the f***!ng part...and may be you should make things clear before it becomes troublesome for both of you...or you can also try to find if you have any feeling for him in your heart or not...

[mischiefmouth69]

Any one to three of these gestures would seem harmless, but the combination, especially if they are done regularly, indicates he has some type of deeper feeling for you ... you might want to talk about it. It might turn out that he simply appreciates your friendship more deeply having added a physical component, but that's also just one step away from falling for you, and if hat's what you're trying to avoid - or if you don't mind - you need to talk bfore things progress.

[Libarena]

Not that I can think of.