My boyfriend can't stay hard?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend is 26 years old , and I am 24 ... so we're still in our prime... issue is... we can only have sex once to twice a week... because if we try more then that he cannot keep a hard on. Unless I give him oral but if we try vaginal he goes soft... last night we decided to give it a go and he went soft twice... I felt insecure because I felt like it was me so I said " okay just get off me" and rolled over... feeling like I wasn't good enough... after that he started balling his eyes out and couldn't stop crying... I quickly turned over and apologized profusely and explained I was just being insecure... he said " I don't know what's wrong with me " I explained to him that it's okay and that I love him and sex isn't the be all... he finally calmed down.:. I feel so bad for him 😔 we eat pretty unhealthy but we're still in shape... he smokes and eats pretty unhealthy and does a hard labour job , he poors concrete... is this normal for his age? What could be causing this? His diet? His job? His mind being stressed? Or is this simply how his body works... I will never leave him over something like this but if we can improve why can't we try

[Zer0Ghost]

The fact that you say he can get hard with oral makes me think this is more of a turned on/not stimulated issue more than it is about health.

Diet can be a factor in libido but I think often women can just fall into the trap of thinking any male should be able to get rock hard on command.

[Asker]

Before we even started having sex he had told me he had this problem... I don't expect him to get rock hard on command... if we haven't had sex for 3 to 4 days and we have intercourse he can cum really fast.. and the amount that comes out is a lot but after that he's out of commission for 3-7 days... yes oral can make him hard but he can't keep the hard on... and if I try to make him cum with oral it takes years it feels like... to describe it... it's almost like he doesn't make enough "baby batter" as fast or quick as a regular guy I mean that's my theory?

[Sweepthelegjonny]

I mean no disrespect. But the three most common reasons for a man his age to have this issue are
1. Depression (he'll still need E. D. medication)
2. Chemical imbalance (needs bloodwork to diagnose)
3. Sexual incompatibility (is same sex oriented)

[Logical_Idolist]

It could be Erectile Dysfunction

[rzvcam]

He is either cheating on you VERY often or he masturbates A LOT. One of these 2 is surely the problem.

[Asker]

I know he definitely doesn't cheat , and he rarely masturbates... it's something else

[rzvcam]

Lady... I'm a guy. TRUST ME i know how penises work. If you are sure he isn't cheating, he IS masturbating at least once a day and he will never admit to that because he feels ashamed. Next time you have sex say something like "i wish you would stop jerking off so often so i can enjoy myself as well" . He WILL NOT admit that he does it but he will feel bad enough to actually stop doing it.

[Asker]

He's not your typical guy though... he's a very soft sensitive emotional guy who cries at sappy movies... his character is not that trust me when I say this I have a sixth sense beside we live together and he works 8-14 hour days pouring concrete I'm always home when he gets off work... trust me sometimes he's more feminine then I am... I wish it was something like him jerking off that would be an easy fix 😕

[rzvcam]

He can still do it with you in the house. in the bathroom. for example. that is the issue, TRUST ME. and well if you want to fix this you are going to have to be a bit hard on him

[Namay]

he will not cry if he has done that

[Zer0Ghost]

I masturbated upwards of 10 times a week with no problem getting it uo again, tf are you even saying lol

[TripleAce]

Smoking can cause impotence
Maybe see a doc
Use viagra

Or just do what works. If sex every few days works then just do that. No biggie

[Asker]

True.. if that's just the way he is then I will accept it... but I think we will look into options first

[dionyxes]

it's his diet and stress happened to me for a while eat nothing but greens and fruit for about a month and give him back rubs he will be fine in no time

[characterJoe]

He has bad blood pressure. He needs to start exercising and running more than one mile three times a week.

[Namay]

ask a doctor?

[Asker]

I think he would be to embarrassed to see a doctor 😕

[Namay]

but if there is a medical condition that needs to be treated then he will not find a solution !

[Namay]

he at least should know what is happening right there !

[Asker]

True I am going to talk to him about going to a doctor but I have to be very careful because this is something he is extremely insecure about

[Zk15224]

he might have erectile dysfunction

[Asker]

At 26 tho?

[MoeAli]

Id advise him to workout (weight lifting) as it increases testosterone hormone in guys. Also to check out food that is rich on it. ask him to look into it

[Asker]

His job is holding a hose that shoots concrete with 1000 pounds of pressure... and he's a naturally pretty big guy... people ask if he does roids... but he doesn't... isn't that Enough to produce testosterone or does it have to be strictly lifting weights?

[MoeAli]

here's a helpful article
www.bodybuilding.com/fun/topicoftheweek98.htm

[LastNightmare]

it's pretty unusual.. why don't he go veggie n fruits and no smoking for a month with some rise up yoga.. try it just for a month

[masterkamasutra]

the dick not working. better think for an option.

[danyraman3]

physical exhaustion can rarely cause that but stress and worries is the reason most of the time

[Saprash1]

too much stress and unhealthy food may be one of the prime reasons for this problem, try to reduce them and surely visit a doctor to get this problem solved out

[Asker]

Healthy foods !!! Researching foods for men's sexual health

[Anonymous]

Tickle his pickle with your tongue

[Asker]

😂😂

[Opinion Owner]

But seriously I have no problem staying hard until the second I put a condom on Are you using condoms?

[Anonymous]

dk, dc, not my problem