This entirely sounds like she's freaked out by you being freaked out. Most women have to be able to let go in order to reach orgasm. Chill.
Plus, as a guy who sometimes has sex for hours and never reaching climax, sex can feel amazing even if you don't climax.
If she says it's okay, you just have to believe her. It's possible that the two of you just aren't sexually compatible, but most likely you are making her have too much performance anxiety to let go.
If you keep this up, she's going to have to start faking it. You don't want that. Put your ego at counting orgasms aside, and focus instead on just making her feel good. It will come with time if you let it.
Otherwise she'll just start faking it, or leave you because of the pressure.
1. Hold on buster, some gals need more time to trust & sexually "let go" to orgasm so time will give you what you want
2. Some gals HAVE to be in control, which helps #1 a bit, e. g. some can ONLY cum when giving oral and not being told/directed what to do during it, except to respond to moans and complements
3. More control issues can be hurdled via fun & games, e. g. strip poker is an easy way to put her in complete control as you plan on covertly losing to her and when fully naked, continue to bet on sexual favors
But we talked many times and she doesn't want anything more and likes what we do. Most times she's on top but no use.
Your rebuttal doesn't change my answers and your future, I anticipated all that, SOP for such gals
It takes time dude, you just gotta make sure you're in the moment and not stressing so much about making her cum. Her feeling like it's a race to the finish or like you desperately NEED her to cum to not feel bad is likely mentally fucking her up and making it impossible for her to climax. Just chill, take your time, and communicate with her.
What she said. Its good that it matters to you that she orgasms, but relax and enjoy her. It's supposed to be fun and feel good, not be some frantic quest for climax. You're going to give her a panic attack with that intensity and those are not conducive to orgasm.
@Seth0111 Precisely.
Hey,
I also don't Cum with my man. Mostly because it takes already a long ass time for me to Cum when I masturbate. He was frustrated too, but eventually got over it.
And it's not how much you fuxk her, or finger her, etc. It's got to to with the motions you try out on her. I suggest better communication maybe.
Xxx
Have you tried asking her what she likes? And if she doesn't know then going slow and trying different things to see what she enjoys. I know for me though if you where getting frustrated about it that would make me feel pressured and less likely to cum! So try chill out a bit she's probably just not used to sex with you yet!
We talked a lot about it and she likes what we do. She mostly likes to be on top so she can control but its no use. She says its ok but i dont like it.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Some women don't cum during sex. It's a comfort thing I believe. I've had enough sex to last me a lifetime, I've never came during sex.
She did cum with an ex. And she says he didn't do anything special.
How long was she with said ex? If you've only been together for 2 weeks it probably might take her some time to be ablw to do that.
Whats the desire for sex if its just comfort? Do you even desire it at that point?
Find out if she has fetishes and if she would like you to do things for her.
I know her since we were kids so we talk many times about sex. she's not into stuff. Just the usual. I was even her first anal try.
Did you try toys?
No. She doesn't want to
You need better communication between the two of you. That and you need to listen to her body and sounds for cues as to what feels best. When you get one of those cues, continue doing the same exact thing.
You need to relax. Making her cum is not a chore you need to complete, a level in a video game or an achievement to unlock.
Sounds like she is t comfortable with you. And if you're pressuring her than its never gonna happen
Omg 2 weeks and you're already freaking out. Give it time. Im thinking you have this Idea that you are absolutely awesome in bed, and this takes your confidence away. But dude two weeks is no times, just practise and get to know each others bodies
I dont think that for myself. Also my exes never had problem and always cum. Its annoying. Feels wrong. She says its ok.
maybe because she doesn't like what your exes liked. maybe try something new. And still, bro its been 2 weeks
If she can't even get herself off, it's most likely a psychological issue.
If you have to guess what works for her, you can add a communication issue.
She needs to learn to take responsibility for her sexual satisfaction.
She can't yes but she doesn't want to touch herself when we have sex to help. she's shy
Most females cannot orgasm from a penis alone, it is perfectly normal and acceptable for her to masturbate as you fuck her.
That should guarantee an orgasm, unless she is over tired, in a bad mood, worried about something, or is not turned on.
Stop worrying about it. I know that it makes you feel bad, but the reality is that trying to "make" her come will either lead to more pressure on her and. make it harder for her to come, or she'll start lying about it.
Instead, have sex with her, tell her that you love her (if you do) and that you love the way she feels and the pleasure she gives you. Ask her if you can just enjoy her body, and not try to make her come. If she says yes, then have sex with her, but be verbal about how her body makes you feel. Chances are that she will come sometime in the next few days.
Ask her what her exes would do to get her off.
childhood friends?
dude, how did you get along so well that you've had sex with her? really? 🙊
She knew i liked her so when she broke up i told her and now we are together. Its great because we are goid friends too and like the same stuff. She s also 2 minutes away from home so we spend everyday together.
oh! that's nice bro! good luck with her! 😄
can´t she tell you what did it for her with the other guys?
We talked. The ex didn't do anything special. It just happened. Both when he on top and she on top.
maybe give it some time then. it´s probably an emotional thing. also you could try focusing on one clit or vaginal stimulation at once, not both at the same time, cause some women actually cum better this way.
have you considered a vibrator or finding out what does turn her on uncontrollably?
She doesn't want vibrators and we talked and she says everything we do is really good and doesn't want anything else. Sonetimes she's on top to control but nothing
Ease off on the pressure and stop try to bang a square peg into a round hold. Communicate with her and try new things, research other techniques and let her cum when she cums.
I know. I dont put pressure and we talk a lot but its annoying. It feels wrong.
You can't be very good at eating her out. I could make a dead woman cum with my tongue.
She tells me where and how. She feels ready from the first minite but she just can't. My exes never had any problem.
It's 2 weeks, she probably isn't at that level with you yet.
Don't push or she might never be.
I guess you... Aren't good enough.
find she want to say anything to you
use vibrator
She doesn't want to
explore her fantasy and do roleplay let see if it makes her cum or not
maybe she is sick. usually when im sick i can"t cum
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