How can I teach my boyfriend to be good at oral sex?

[Anonymous]

Fairly recently my boyfriend and I have forayed into the land of cunnilingus and he's certainly not bad at it, there are just some things he could do better. I know that I'll probably get a lot of advice to 'just tell him what you want,' which I understand, but I'm really nervous to do so because I'm pretty shy about that sort of thing. Is there any way I can guide him into doing what I want him to without having to 'just tell him?'

[aly-marie]

You should be able to tell him things like that, but I understand you don't want to be demanding about it or anything. The classic way, as others mentioned, is to be very loud when he does something you do like. Just be encouraging; say something like "Yes, like that" when you really like something, and don't respond to something you don't particularly like. You can tell him the things you like best instead of telling him what you don't like. He'll get the idea. I've even taken to nudging his head or hand (when he uses both) to give him a signal if I don't really like something, and he takes the hint. It works for me.

It's just hard because, as a girl, the same things won't make you finish everytime, and he needs to realize that. And you need to help him out because it can be really confusing down there.

[TheFatTwig]

When he does something you like, make a little more noise than necessary. When he does something you don't like, be quiet. He'll want to hear you liking it, so he'll figure out what you like and don't like. If that doesn't work out for you, try talking to him. I don't think you'll offend him as long as you word it right. Also, you can always tell him that you want him to be open with you about what you do to him, that way it becomes a two-way channel of communication and you don't have to feel like you're just telling him that you don't like something. Either way, he just needs practice. :)

[peace-love-couture]

Communication is an important part of sex,if you can't communicate with your partner about sex you shouldn't be having sex.

If you masturbate,you'll get a feeling of what you like.

You could try masturbating in front of him.Or say,"It feels sooo good when you lick/suck/touch ___<<fill in the blank" and when he touches a spot you really like,moan,sigh and let him know he's doing well

[peace-love-couture]

Oh I was supposed to finish with fill in the blank & when he does something that feels good let him know by moaning and sighing

[innocentplay]

When I was young I had a good teacher. She gave me my first bj and when I was getting closer to make love to her said "don't you want to do me?". What a hot question? Anyway I tried and it wasn't quite right. So she kind of told me harder softer and took my head in may hands and used it to lead me around by the tongue. After I got her to come a few times I was on my own. Since then I can never remember a complaint. To this day going down on my lover is by far my favorite of any intamacy you can imagine.

[pilot433]

Tell him when he does something right and just let him know by moaning or going crazy even if you have to fake a little and just suggest every now and again. nt often but every now and again would be fine

[DirtyMindedInnocence]

Tell him too look up sone things or better yet find a good site and tell him to read it