Nervous to give a hand job? Read below!

How can I get over it and give one to my bf hes SO understanding and isn't pushing me too but I think I'm ready I just can't seem to get over being nervous maybe cause this is the first time and its all new to me...help please!
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Most Helpful Girls

  • I was more curious my first time to give a hand job. It just kind of came upon us and I slowly worked into it over a couple of days. When I was ready, I asked what I could do for him. I rubbed him on the outside of his pants and then slowly around the top of his pants and then down inside his underwear just to the top of his member and stayed there, rubbing and teasing little. Very gently because I didn't want to hurt him, I didn't know what I was doing. I think I asked him to guide me and show me what he wanted, he did and I've been perfecting it ever since! If you get him to show you what he likes then that is a good beginning. Its ok not to know and to be timid, be open about it and he will have the best hand job in the world. Good luck!

  • Don't worry, I had a really hard time of it too! It's really not that bad once you get used to it. I'd say relax, get each other in a good, sensual mood, and while kissing just slide your hand down there. If you want to work up to it, you could try rubbing him through his jeans first and then, once you feel you're ready, unzip his pants and gently slip him out! From there it's fairly simple. It's mostly just an up and down motion; don't be afraid to grasp it firmly! However, keep some variation going. Try rubbing the head, or gently playing with his balls. And even if you don't do a fantastic job, I'm sure he'll love you for trying and give you some pointers. Practice makes perfect!

    Good luck!

  • like how do you start it? I would say that when you guys are making out just slide your hand down over that area and then once you have been handling him for a minute and feel more confident you can get his penis out and just go with the flow. Everyone has a first time doing it. It will come to you. And if it doesn't, then you can always do it again for practice :)

    • "it will come to you" - no pun intended lol but yeah I agree with this answer :)

    • ACTUALLY I said that on purpose lol

    • omg i was thinking the same exact thing as i read this lmao

Most Helpful Guys

  • this should be fun, not frightening.

    the secret is to talk!

    tell him how scared you are.

    tell him you want to do it (if you do)

    talk about it, before, during, after.

    if you start talking about this stuff instead of just doing this stuff, you'll have a much better relationship, and more fun too!

  • Geeze, don't be so scared. Worse thing you can do is tug too hard and remove his testicles. Kidding. Just wait til your comfortable and give it a try.

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  • what do you want help with? you just move your hand up and down and play with his balls a little. my guy likes the head of his d*** rubbed and messed with more than the rest.

  • are you guna suck or just tug? or both?