Men don't need sex. Period. It's a want, not a necessity. The problem is that too many of you men are so engrossed with porn, learning nonsense from your peers no different than girls are, and so many are brainwashed to the point it's degenerating the brain to be desensitized to it. Saying that so many women hate sex is wrong. Just like calling all men are dogs is wrong. Women don't hate sex. If anything I hate knowing the kind of sex people are having today. Women also will grow to despise it when they are not virginal and had multiple partners and it turn they tell other virginal girls their experiences and they too begin to form a poor reception of what sex is supposed to be like and how it's supposed to be experienced.
Anybody who tells you that you will lose it if you're not having sex is a liar! Misuse it and abuse it, and now you will have something to talk about. You won't get your answers elsewhere until you change your mentality. Most women do understand it, but I know like so many know it's not an excuse. I kept saying either get married and find somebody to get married to for that life and stay a virgin or suffer the consequences. Like a good amount have already pointed out which I would have already said. You're not going to die from never having sex. You can't place that as a priority or else it will destroy your perception on life. You're going to be miserable with this way of thinking.
This is all I can really tell you:
-Most women overall understand that men and women are different.
-When you understand the context of lust, it damages your sex life and one's perception of sex.
-The more you pay attention to those urges the more harrassing, annoying and damaging it is to your pscyhe, and how you decide to treat others as well as yourself.
-Humans burn with sexual desire because we are born as sexual beings, but there is a time and place for that, and it's only with your spouse.
-If your sex drive is out of your control, then you need help. Because this is more psychological than biological. Some genetic testing can tell if this is normal for you or abnormal.
Don't just listen to anybody even if they are a professional. Lots of them are crazy in the head too. See somebody who truly understands what is happening with you personally.
Men and women aren't different in terms of sexual desire
Most men want and desire sex. Most women don't care for it, but see it as a way to bond with a man. Unless, it's what she personally wants. Why do you think there are people like me who can go through life without sex, while others cannot? Whether virgin or not? Because not everybody is genetically the same.
Wrong there! the differences are individual and not gendered. How can you say most women don't care for it? "Desire" and "way to bond" is roughly the same thing and can vary among individuals. I thought you were smarter than this lol.
I know men have higher drive. I know most men need a routine for sex. If not, they have to look for an alternative. And I also know the consequences of breaking this routine, and so do I know the fact that a man's fertility gradually decreases with less sexual activity.
The question is, so what am I supposed to do with that? What will we do with this knowledge? The only man I'd care about anyway is my future husband, and, yes THAT'S when I should be responsible and, if not putting his needs above mine, come to a settlement with our routine that will keep us both satisfied. So my actions will be fully based on his drive and my drive regardless of the depth of my knowledge about men's sexual health.
But as a man yourself, you have to understand this: You're a human being and you're far more civilized than any other animal. You don't depend on your surroundings, your surroundings depend on you. Your body shouldn't control your mind, but your mind should control your body. Be responsible and respectful, towards women and yourself.
That's all I could tell.
Knowing it is almost all I would ask for. Understanding it being the rest, which I think you do as you stated. That's all. How does it help? Well first, you understand it when men say "I need sex" or "i love sex". Furthermore you will understand men, who watch porn or men going through a prolonged time without any sexual release and you understand how they feel and how frustrated it is. Unlike those, who shun sex or freedom over sexuality, you could simply support them with advise if you have any. Or you know at the very least you are NOT shunning it but you DO understand it.
I chose not to even send pictures in tight clothes and no physical intimacy until I get married (because I can). My boyfriend has a super high drive. Then think how hard it was on my before lol, but we learned to manage.
I know that doesn't make me an expert, but at least I know that guys aren't as much dependent on sexual activity as they think they are.
hey now guys, I totally understand the need from sex that you guys have. bc I have the same need. but the difference between us women and u men, is the mental part. see women are, or at least I am, more up for giving sex excitedly how you like if you guys thought more. see us women feed, launder take care of the kids plus the house and most of if women also work full time and do all these things and if you guys are like my husband you have side work you do as well. so when us women hit the bed we r tired. and then you guys roll over and start your thing so a good women will give you what you want cause the faster she does the faster she can sleep or just lay in a quite bed an hour with no one wating something for you. with this said. what little things do you guys do for your women to get that "needed sex"? I'm just assuming here but, I'm guessing not much but I bet you guys are good about telling her what she didn't do right? now don't get mad I'm just giving my 2 cent. and I'm not saying all men and all women feel as I do.
I honestly don't understand why women are offensed by it.
I fucking agree, I need sex too and there is nothing wrong with wanting to have sex!
THANK YOU lady 😀 i am glad there are women like you understanding it. Those angry women i cannot bear.
seriously hatsoff to your mental understanding. I wish if every girl would be like you
Don't worry, there are more of us than you think, some are just ashamed of it.
Uh, it really doesn't work like that. Girls are as horny as guys if you ignore culture and look at this from a sheer biological perspective. You can’t really say the presence of higher levels of testosterone produces such a substantial biological difference in sex drive between the genders due to the fact that the degree to which testosterone affects sex drive is not fully scientifically clear as of right now. A study conducted on testosterone and sex drive concluded that only a small percentage (28%) of the low testosterone males who participated actually had low sex drives, the rest were fine. Similarly, if you look at animals, females pursue sex just as avidly as males. There are also a plethora of studies that have irrefutably disproved the destructive notion that “males are sex-crazed automatons while women are borderline asexual.” In general, there exists a multitude of other hard-to-pin non-testosterone related factors that affect sex drive. Plenty of men want a lot of sex, some don’t want much. Similarly, there are plenty of girls who want a lot of sex, some don’t want much. Throw subconsciously internalized cultural values some girls absorb (which have been heavily influenced by the long-lasting stigmatization of girls who are honest about pursuing sexual urges that has been occurring for the past few centuries) into the mix & boom.
Just find an honest girl with a decent sex drive if you're having issues.
dude testosterone has a different effect on sex drive than female hormone such as estrogen does. women have like seasonal sex drives. they change troughout the years, months, weeks and even days. men have a constant sex drive. just because there are certain points in time where women are hornier than their men doesn't mean that women's sex drives are the ame as mens. which is why they say men "need" sex. our desire is constant. we have to have it. all you can do is distract a dude with other work and other activities long enough for him to forget about it. but its always there.
dude who told you women hate sex? Lol. Some do but not many. Granted I probably date girls on the high side for sex drive, however besides one or two girls I heard about and didn't know, never in my entire life have I heard a women say it with the bars word lol. Now I haven't read any of the comments so I don't know if one side is being skewed or not.
Hate sex? Omg I would die lol. I'd have no purpose in life lol 🤣😂
Just check out the angry female comments and you will see for yourself.
I didn't see any comments where the woman says I hate sex. did I miss it? oh and whoever told you That if we are not using it then we are losing it - our tool. This is biology. Is wrong. I have a degree in biology and that's an old myth
At least not always the case but in some cases it is like that I believe. I think there is just a phase of becoming hornier easier and maybe after that in some cases the libido will decrease? As far as I know sex increases libido. You'd have to dig deep into the comments section. The majority of females now agree with me at least or got my point. The angry anti-sex women should be found at the bottom of the comments section since they were the first wave of commenters.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Well. Tough to be honest. This doesn't mean you can act entitled and assume every woman should now sleep with you because you have specific desires.
I don't care if you're hungry either. I - or anyone else would not obliged to ensure you are fed. That's your own problem.
If you want something to happen, you gotta make it happen. Nobody in this world owes you anything and you can't expect people to give you more than you can also give to them.
With that attitude why even approach them? What's the point? You and women like you are just going to deny men that show interest anyway.
This isn't an attitude. This is just me having any degree of value for myself at all. Don't you believe I should get a say on such matters? Or should I bow down to your whims and be forced to have sex without consent?
Nah, waste of time. If that's her approach then she's unapproachable.
You seem to be confusing men's 'need' for release of ejaculate with 'needing' sex.
nah he's just right actually
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That's not a need lol. Orgasm and ejaculation are independent of themselves. Men and women both need release of tension with orgasm.
They do.
What do you want to get a permission for, I am scared to ask?
I know a lot of girls that say they're afraid to admit they need sex like guys because most guys they meet take it like "I'm a dirty slut come make me your bitch and break my heart"
Its completely not with every guy. how will I look like if I say most of the girls are insecure and sex repellent coz they consider every guy a dog and not even wanna consider those women who use guys for money and never take a stand for the one who loves them
I said most guys THEY meet. Not every guy.
yeah maybe but you gotta understand girls always got pointless excuses when it comes to sex and trust isn't about a guy or a girl. its a stereotypical ideology of a woman that only guys are dogs. today anyone can be.
Men definitely DONT need sex to function it's something they highly enjoy just like woman but it's not something humans biologically need to survive 😒 you obviously don't know much about biology and they way a human body works a guy isn't going to die if he doesn't have sex and lots of guys who aren't asexual or anything along those lines do just fine without sex. Just because you want to have sex doesn't mean you need to
But if we get excited by a teasing girl and we don't cum it may trigger testicle pain.
testicular* and this is the only post that's realistic i agree.
@Karl99 and imagine this you can make yourself climax.
People have different sex drives. No-one "needs" sex (let's not confuse desire with necessity) but people just have different sex drives that cause them to desire sex more often than others. It happens to both men and women to. Just find a woman that meets your sexual desires if it's that important to you, else you'll have to deal with it yourself.
And don't be one of those idiots that gets into a relationship and cheats just to satisfy his sexual desires. Just don't.
most women dont hate sex. most women love sex. we understand that but its not our obligation to satisfy you. go jack off somewhere if you're that desperate.
The question said specifically that he isn't saying it is, he just didn't know how to ask his question.
I guess no one else read.
i did read it i was just confirming. i know he didn't think that way there was just no other way to answer it.
it's a biological urge not a necessity. we need food, we need water, we need air; without those we die. Shit we need companionship more than we sex.
Lemme try and give my 2 cents.
I'm 26 now and had a phase of my life where I thought I needed sex constantly. This is no longer the case.
I really enjoy sex, but I could go a few days to a week without it no big deal, just like women. Another misconception is that women aren't as horny as men; wrong in my experience.
What I think the issue here is, is that a man's self worth or value is measured in how often he gets laid, in today's society. Subconsciously, the male wants to have sex so he can feel accomplished and not bored or empty.
That is something a woman would be hard pressed to empathize with, since she has not lived as a boy (and its struggles) her whole life. Much like how it's harder for a guy to understand why women hate cat calling so much or are afraid of walking alone with another man she doesn't know.
Once self worth is independent of sex, sex becomes just another really fun part of life, but not a requirement.
We all want to get laid, not need, and at different degrees. (i. e. a teenager full of hormones is gonna wanna bang a fuck ton more than 30 year old, most of the time)
Just because men "need" (you have a hand, use it) sex doesn't mean every girl has to have sex with you. And you don't need sex, that's just ridiculous. You need air, food and water, not sex.
well you could make the argument that a person also needs valdation, appreciation and physical contact to other people in order to stay happy and mentally healthy. so by that you could argue that some actually can not live without that kind of attention given to them.
You don't need sex. You can want sex, but it's not a need. You won't die without it.
you don´t die without using the internet either :P
uhhh some of women want it just as much believe me I keep my boyfriend busy plus we both watch porn sometimes together. Why make us sound incompetent? That's your own problem. If you don't give respect chances are a females not gunna wanna even bother with you. I thought you were a genuinely nice guy it's sad because you just sound like a douchebag.
Men who want sex are now douchbags 😂
Men who don't want sex are either weirdos or gay 😂
no dude he way he sounded, love the rest of y'all 😉 lol as long as your not assholes
women love sex, I have an extremely high sex drive and my husband doesn't come close to actually satisfying me. I'm not going to pressure it or say I'm dying because I can't have it, I want it but it's not like I'm going to die. Sometimes I don't even want to have sex anymore because I'm so deprived by it, but this doesn't change my view on men. I can say most don't even know how to please women, because they have this belief that women don't enjoy it. I say y'all should actually try pleasing a woman, and maybe she'll want to be with you more.
A lot of them don't give it a second thought
Jesus you both sound miserable. Lucky for us guys we only need a visual cue to get our rocks off.
Not miserable by any means. That's what vibrators are for. Plus, I'm bisexual, so I'm always happy.
First of all it's possible to survive without sex and sex is just something nice to have. I for instance love chocolate and I really enjoys it, but I wouldn't literally die without it. Such things like food, water, clothes etc. is what a human needs in order to survive.
It's possible to get it without a girlfriend or help from other peoples. You can use your hands (If you've some) to please yourself, daydream and look at pictures of celeb crushes for example. Women also likes sex, so it's not only something men likes.
By the way, as a human being you should be able to control yourself and respect others. Humans doesn't have so many instincts as animals and has the ability to control themselves. So be nice and don't be desperate. : )
I dont know how anyone hates sex unless you've just had a lot of bad sex or you have personal reasons from your past why or religious reasons..
but I love it when I can get it.
I mean its with my fiance but if he wants to why am I going to say no?
If feels good. its an addicting feeling that just consumes you.
sex is awesome
Hell yes :D
I understand that the urge for sex can be incredibly powerful. But honestly, that does NOT make it an actual "need". Sex isn't oxygen, food, or water- you CAN live without it, and there are fates worse than celibacy. And hormones can drive women pretty nuts too. Feeling overcome by your biology is certainly not exclusive to men.
Exactly my thoughts. You will not die if you don't have sex for a certain period of time. Need is definitely the wrong word to use here.
@trisarahtops94 Exactly. How are we defining the word "need"? Something can be very important without being a true necessity.
oh trust me, it is a need. women can't begin to understand how strong the urge is for men. there was a female bodybuilder who took her first cycle of testosterone steroids and couldnt believe how horny she got and how men controlled it all the time.
Hate to break it to you, but most women love sex too. The problem is, that society deems it a bad characteristic in women, and those who do like it and have it, are labeled sluts. There is a huge double standard with the sexes, about enjoying and partaking in sexual activities.
Men want virgins, and women are expected to save themselves for one man and can only mildly feign interest in sex in traditional monogamous relationships.
It's a standard belief that men are wired for multiple partners and are basically given a free pass and are even encouraged to pursue sex with multiple partners. (Hi five, bro)
Women, in the other hand, are discouraged from it, despite there being no scientific evidence that supports the theory that women are monogamous by nature. This type if thinking pits women against themselves, because they are denied being able to explore their sexuality in the same manner, because the consequences of not being accepted and valued is too great.
Society seems to put women into two categories, based solely on their sexuality. Good=pure, wholesome, modest, or Bad=Slut, temptrest, evil vixin, whore. There's a certain amount of safety and protection involved from men, for the women who choose to be on the "good" side. If you're on the "bad" side, you're on your own and you deserve what you've got coming. In my opinion, it seems that men have a hard time reconciling their need for women, whether it be for sex, procreation, nurturing, care taking, or whatever. It makes them feel too vulnerable to have such a need, so instead of acknowledging it exists , they subconsciously resent and blame women for the audacity to have that effect on them. This resentment leads to misogyny and often violence as men use women as an external target for the internal part of themselves that they hate (the fact that they are dependent on women)
there's a good/bad divide between men too. there's the fuckboy that is desperate for sex all the time and treats women like shit and the pathetic virgins that don't think they have a chance with women and are extremely sexually conservative. so the only people that are satisfied are the ones that "get some" despite what other people think about it
😂😂 some of these comments, looks like some people took this question way too personally!
I effin know right? I was kind of surprised myself. The internet nowadays suffers from the thin skin syndrome, which weakens their immune system in order to take things to the right context.
the thing is, a lot of women do enjoy sex. It is obviously a desire. However, it is not necessarily something that one cannot live without. Sex drives depending on the person maybe low or high. Nothing at all to do with gender. The thing maybe, is that you might personally have a high sex drive. A lot of others don't. It's nothing to be ashamed or proud of, just life. Also, there might be only one particular reason as to why women aren't so willing to have sex a lot or with a lot of people is the fear of getting pregnant. A woman, needs to carry the baby in her womb for nine months and then take care of the baby. Men, sometimes in fear either leave the mother to her fate or get out of their lifes. Obviously there are men who support them as well, but no one really wants the additional stress , now does one. And that is the only reason why women might not be willing to have sex as much as men.
Boys hormones are raging between 14 to about 18... ladies hormones don't kick in until about 30 maybe 32 with age...
Thank you for your story I did learn something from you... something I would've never thought... I try to share my experiences in life... my mistakes... and I try to give advice to people... hopefully helps them in life... that is my reward...
@Charlerpi68 I don't know where you get your information but that's not true.
I do agree with you, but I think just like Men need Sex some of us Women need sex the same way around...
Or maybe I have a crazy testosterone level, but honestly, I don't mind pleasing my Man, I love it, but I don't do it because he EARNED IT, but because this is something NORMAL in a relationship, and because he LOVES to please me just like I love to please him.
Nothing tragic according to me :)
That sounds alright and I am really curious who down voted your opinion
@simonthecat Looks like he/she changed its mind lol :P
Every woman should be a grownup like you. I appreciate your progress of understanding
As a genophobe, I'm just gonna point out that you have literally an endless sea of porn at your disposal, so maybe us that instead of getting in women's face about it. Also maybe stop using the word "need" to describe pleasure. That implies it is unreasonable to expect you to go without. While there is no good reason to ask you to go without, that does not mean you're going to suffer greatly if you somehow deprived of it.
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