If someone knowingly gave me herpes, do I have the right to make it public to warn people?

A friend who I trusted, took the condom off without telling me during sex. I had an intense horrific odor for a week after followed by intense itching today. I went to the clinic and am waiting for my results but it's clear he definitely gave me something. If it's herpes do I have the right to warn other girls not to sleep with him? Like anonymously post it somewhere?
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Also, is there any kind of law that if I can prove he knowingly gave it to me, he can be charged?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Well, it depends on the country. If it was HIV that qualifies as assault with a deadly weapon in many US states. In Singapore with any communicable disease he's looking at jail for not reporting it to the Ministry of Health (crowded city-states can't afford disease outsbreaks, even if it isn't deadly, so their privacy laws are alien to most Americans). If a girl gave me herpes (unlikely, I always ask to see recent papers before fucking them) I'd put an ad up on every Craigslist and Backpage city every 2 days and on every highway billboard I could afford in a 500-mile radius of her hometown. And I wouldn't do it anonymously. I'd want her to know it was me running the crusade to make sure she never had sex with anyone except other herpes carriers for the rest of her life.

  • Etiquette says that you may confess to having it
    only extended to telling family/friends that might "get it" from him... WHO is the source.
    + IF
    your county health dept has a covert way to tag this guy with it, you are obligated to submit an anonymous report

    Some German drugs can mitigate this as well as "H-balm"

Most Helpful Girls

  • In some cases you can actually sue someone for knowingly exposing you to an STD. Even just taking the condom off without your consent is a form of assault. If you're interested in taking legal action, you should talk to a lawyer. As for spreading the word, I think you should be civil, for your own benefit, especially if you're considering taking legal action. But I don't think he deserves your discretion. Talk to a lawyer before you draw a lot of attention to it, though.

  • You have the right to warn your partners. It is not your job or expectation to warn any of his future partners. That is on him.

  • Yes. If it were me I'd put it on Facebook where a lot of people will see it.

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  • Yes you do, nasty ass evil men need to be exposed.

  • Pretty sure removal of condom during sex is sexual assault if you're non-consenting?

    So there's that

  • u shouldn't hv sex if u knew he had that present. even if u use condom. u hv to wait until the "allergy" disappears

  • do it

  • Spread the word! You'll be doing people a favor in the end.

  • its a private life, u know.. i dont think its right.
    but otherwise i would inform his/her partner of that disease

  • Yeah, do it! Its not just your right, its your duty

  • you have the right. of course.

    but you also have to be realistic about herpes too.

    almost the entire human population has the cold sore variant. the genital variant... often expresses no symptoms.

    ask your ob/gyn. they'll tell you how little of a big deal it actually is.

    • Apparently it's really just two strains, and both strains can appear on various body parts (mouth, throat, genitals, anus) depending on the body parts that came in contact with the virus. So it's not even like there are oral herpes people and genital herpes people. Someone with oral herpes could have caught it from someone's genitals. And it's true that lots of people have it.

    • lots... and it's about as dangerous as a cold sore. the hysteria is largely nonsense.

    • I mean I understand why people don't exactly want herpes... it's can feel physically uncomfortable, and it does complicate things because you have to inform your sex partners. But it certainly is not like your life is over if you have herpes. Not even a little bit.

  • Yes, you can take them to court.

  • yes have to till very body

  • Its your duty.

  • No...

  • Doesn't matter if he new he had it or not. he took the condom off without concent. It qualifies for assault.
    as for telling everyone, not strictly ileagal however can only hurt your case regarding the aforementioned assault.

  • name and shame them

  • I would

  • yeah

  • Well, I would.