How can I get rid of my foot fetish?

[Anonymous]

A couple of weeks ago I was out with a friend from college and we were getting drunk and talking and stuff, and she asked me about sex and stuff. I told her I have this thing about feet and pumps and high heels and ended up telling her all about this little fetish thing that I have. Anyway, a couple of days later I'm in her room watching TV and she puts her feet right in my lap with her heels on and asks me to take them off. I was shocked and got butterflies and everything but I did what she asked. Then she starts moving them around and of course I got real turned on. She starts looking at me really hard, at my face, and says something about how now she knows I'm telling the truth. Then she says I have to go and when she hugs me as I'm leaving she presses herself right up against me and says that because she made me hard with her feet I'm going to think about her all night and all the next day, and she giggles. Of course I did. She's done the same thing a few times since and now when I go over to see her she always puts her feet in my lap and even rubs her feet on my face and my chest, making kissing noises. I always get really hard but if I try to talk to her about it she tells me to shush or says she's tired and I have to go, but she always tells me that I'll be thinking about her all the next night and the next day, which is true. I love it but I hate it. And she's started saying I should kiss her feet to say thank-you, and a couple of times I've ended up cleaning her room and doing her washing while she watches TV and flicks her feet about in my face, or tries shoes and boots on and asks me if I like them. Then we play the feet in the lap game and I'm like a jelly all over again. What can I do? Does this mean I shouldn't see her any more? Or can I get her to go out with me and let me do stuff to her too?

[Ashleyreep]

If it's something that you are into, and she is willing to go the "extra mile" to help, then why wouldn't you want to see her more. If she is doing this all just to tease and get things from you then drop her now. She will just continue to use you. But if this is something that can turn into a real relationship that is healthy, then I say keep with it. You really need to see what she says about some of this stuff. Ask her if a relationship is something she would be interested in. Like I said, If she isn't, then don't let her use you anymore. I promise there is someone out there who will be in a relationship with you and will give you what you need. I even bet they will let you continue with your foot fetish. They will love you for who you are. And you won't have to clean their room or do their laundry in order to get them to like you.

[Asker]

I guess maybe, but we've been friends for a while now and we know each other and I do like her. And I've never told anyone about it before, even though I've been interested in women's feet since I was at least thirteen. I don't know if I could ever tell anyone about it again.

[Ashleyreep]

I think you could. I don't think you could just drop a fetish. I'm into light bondage and I was so afraid that all the guys I would ever see would feel awkward and ditch me. But for the most part, actually for the whole part not one guy has left me after I told them. They actually think it's fairly hot. They may not be into it. But normally a lover will do whatever possible to make the other happy. I think you would tell me your fetish. Even with your real person. I think you can do it! :)

[Asker]

It's a nice idea, but I've met a lot of girls who find feet disgusting, and don't even like their own feet. I've brought the subject up in innocent conversations several times but a lot of the responses I've got don't give me a lot of hope. That's why this is so special.

[Ashleyreep]

Then I suggest you tell this girl exactly how you feel. And like I said, Someone Somewhere will like you for it. It's not just a nice idea, It's a reality.

[Butterfly_kisses09]

Wow. She's playing you. Getting you hard and then you end up cleaning her room and washing her clothes while she watches tv? You like feet, you can't make a fettish go away. You can still go over to her place but grow a backbone and tell her no when she tries to do that sh*t. Stand up for yourself. Sounds to me like she's using your fettish against you, and that's not right. But only you can do something about it.

[Asker]

If I tell her no then she'll stop. That's the point. She's told me I don't have to have her feet in my lap if I don't want to, and that I don't have to kiss her feet if I don't want to. I do. That's the point. I think I'm in love with her and I don't even mind doing her washing, but I'd like it to be more of a relationship - so that other people would see us as a couple and I we could have proper sex. But the way she makes me feel is amazing. It's not sh*t.

[Butterfly_kisses09]

Okay so then tell her that. If you want a real relationship with her then act on it.

[Asker]

But that's the point. She won't talk about it. I don't know if she's embarassed or ashamed or if it's just a control thing but she just won't talk about it and if I push it she sends me home. I wish we were boyfriend and girlfriend and when we were out she'd tell me that when she gets me home she's going to work me over with her feet and make me do anything she wants, but she doesn't. She's just like my old friend. And then sometimes, when we get back to her place, she does it again.

[l-hedoniste]

"What can I do?" Ride it out, man; it gets no better than this.

"Does this mean I shouldn't see her any more?" WRONG.

"Or can I get her to go out with me and let me do stuff to her too?" Possibly. Give it time. Maybe she's working up her nerve, maybe she's just teasing. If things get stuck for too long, start dating around, tell her why, and let her make the call. Whatever you do, don't start sulking out of frustration--that just sours everything.

[Asker]

It is pretty amazing and I think I'd rather cut off my own head than give this up right now. Thanks

[dtaylor31906]

on another note I think you kinda like her contoling you because you set yourself up for it becasue you keep going to her house you know if you go she is gonna play with you

[Asker]

Of course I do. I just want to take it further. I want her to want to take it further. I'm scared that she doesn't want to and that I'll get hurt or else be like this for ever.

[dtaylor31906]

Ok here's is what you do kiss her feet like she already told you too and then suck on a toe or toe then kiss down her leg until you get to the vagina eat her out a bit and if she doesn't let you go father than that you know she is using you

[dtaylor31906]

you can't get rid of a fetish

[Asker]

How do you know? I know that at the moment I'm in love with her and she could make me do anything she wants by using her feet on me, but I don't think she knows that. I'd like to not be so easily turned on by it. I wish I hadn't told her about it, but at the same time this is the best thing that's ever happened to me. It's crazy really.

[dtaylor31906]

A fetish is a fetish for a reason I have a fetish for going down on girls no matter how much some guys don't like it I absolutly love it and some girls could proably have me the way they have you and I know that so I dnt tell lots of people how much I like to do it

[Asker]

I'm not sure yours is a fetish. An obsession maybe. I think a fetish is when you sexualize something that isn't sexual - like feet. Eating p**** is definitely sexual (unless you mean actually eating a domestic cat - that's not).

[dtaylor31906]

Welll I think a fetish is anything sexual that you do that is taboo to some people

[Asker]

Fair enough but that's a bit like making up your own definition for words. Taboo is taboo. A fetish is a precise and defined thing and it's not the same as a taboo. (Sorry for being a bit of a pedant, but they're just not the same thing - although obviously there is something of the obsessive in both of us. I expect you'd be a jelly if a woman sat across from you with her legs apart, a knowing smile on her face and a finger pointed towards her crutch).

[dtaylor31906]

Tthats a good way to put it l proably wouldn't be jelly though more like peanut butter cause I'm a good liar so I would be able to resist for a little while if I know I was just being used but if she could call my bluff and keep trying to coax me after like 10 min I wouldn't be able to help myself

[chiefnavarro]

why would you want to do that