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Stretch marks?? My boyfriend made a hurtful comment?

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years but the other night he made a comment that hurt my feelings...i was laying on the sofa and I was naked because I just got out of the shower. He came over to me and was rubbing my back and said..."you need to get a cream for your stretch marks" I was so embarrassed and I felt like crying...i asked him if they are terrible looking and he said "no, no you just need to do something about them."

Why did he just now tell me this after 2 years? I am so paranoid now and I won't even got ot the beach or anything...

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the pic doesn't really show them that much but you can see some of them...
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Most Helpful Girls

  • I think it's the media- you always here about stretch mark creams and other useless stuff. I think he's just blurting out random information that he heard somewhere- he's not actually being serious. Maybe he has the impression, from watching commercials, that stretch marks are bad, or cureable, or a needless thing you can easily get rid of- I mean no stretch marks is usually better than some right? I think he probably means that if a simple cream could get rid of them, then you should do it- explain to him that those creams don't usually work, stretch marks are pretty much just there to stay until they fade. Even Tyra Banks said she had stretch marks from growing. I don't think he finds you unnattractive or w/e, he just wants to be helpful, like you would tell someone with a sunburn that they should put calamine lotion on it.

    Be honest with him- tell him that he hurt your feelings because stretch marks aren't something you can get rid off, and now you feel he doesn't love you as much because of an imperfection that you have no control over. If he doesn't get it, he's too dumb/immature to be with. You look gorgeous, don't let his comment affect your self-confidence.

  • As far as I can tell almost EVERY girl has stretch marks to some extent. You're by far not alone and you shouldn't be paranoid about it. And there is no magic potion to get rid of them. Creams may be able to help fade them but it's not like you go buy a cream and poof they're gone. He's being very unrealistic and superficial if he can't handle a few stretch marks on a body that is otherwise as flawless as yours seems to be. He's the one who should feel embarrassed, not you. Whether or not you decide to try to fade them, you should explain that to him. If he's comparing you to girls in p*rn he is being mislead drastically. Those girls aren't real. They are created by surgery, airbrushing, and editing.

  • Maybe you had mentioned hating them or mentioned getting some cream or something and he noticed and reminded you? Yours aren't that bad so don't think too much about it. If he doesn't like your body he can find someone else.

Most Helpful Guys

  • what? that's crazy. you have a great body . . . and many many many people have stretch marks. not an issue and not something you should worry about or that should affect your life. the issue more than stretch marks is that he made you feel bad. the point of being in a relationship with someone is to be with someone you feel comfortable with, you enjoy, and who supports and loves you. so when things like this come up and hurt your feelings (which is BOUND to happen at one time or another) it's important to talk about them, let him know how you feel and see if you can work on things.

    and ps - EVERY ones body is different and unique and NO one has a "perfect" body. Be proud.

  • It was kind of thoughtless. Perhaps the stupidity of youth. Ask him if he would prefer to find another girl who doesn't have them. Ask him what he would think if you told him you did not like the appearance of his circumcision (or lack of it) and thought he should do something about that?

    • ...and you do look rather fit and trim.

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  • Don't worry about it, I have stretch marks too, and he was just being thoughtless. You don't need to do anything about them.

  • It's really nothing. He's being dumb. Plenty of guys would love to see your "stretch marks" on their sofa and not have a bad word to say.

  • u have an amazing body and I don't know why he would say anything

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