Is my boyfriend obsessed with his fetish?

[Anonymous]

OK... So, I've done some snooping and I need to know... My boyfriend has this particular fetish that he browses the internet for quite often (probably everyday I don't know). Now, this fetish doesn't involve nudity or sex or anything like p*rn, so I don't mind. He would go online and see other girls doing his fetish and message them saying how great it was and if they could do more. But nothing really flirty or coming on to them, you know. BUT, there is this one girl he has been in contact with since before we were dating and he's constantly messaging her about when is she going to do another fetish thing on youtube. It's worrying me because he has gone out of his way to get AIM and add her on there so that they can chat and what not. This was about 2 weeks ago! And the crazy thing is, the girl is like 14 years old and he's 19. I mean, I don't care if it's just friendly or requesting videos of a fetish but that's just gross to me. Because he does get off from the videos...and it's a 14 year old girl doing...he's getting off from that. WHY oh why is he going to such great lengths to get this fetish of his when I will gladly do it for him LIVE anytime he wants? He wants videos and I have recently stopped doing so many but he is still going around paying for videos and requesting them from people. Is he obsessed? Or is it a sign that he could one day be obsessed? Please help! Thank you...

[l-hedoniste]

If he was obsessed, you wouldn't have had to snoop, nor would you need to ask; obsessions aren't subtle, but overwhelming--that's why they're a problem.

He is a pedo, however, and he should get help for that before he gets himself into terrible trouble.

P.S.: Snooping is a violation of privacy and a breach of trust--an instant dealbreaker for some. You might want to consider restraining yourself.

[Asker]

Ok he is not a pedo. He honestly didn't know the age. He's actually a pretty naive guy believe it or not. So he doesn't really know what he gets himself into sometimes. We are in a very loving relationship. But you're right, I need to stop snooping. We have been together for 2 years but I've just recently started snooping because I had good reason to believe that some girl would be a problem...and sure enough I was right! No cheating so that's good but the girl was trying to get to him.

[l-hedoniste]

Understand something: in my jurisdiction, at least, it doesn't matter whether you knew she was underage, or even if you were *tricked*--sexual contact+minor=pedo. If he's in the USA, he's treading VERY dangerous ground. This can destroy his life, and get him locked up until he is wrinkled and gray. And good luck to him having a life afterward. Please urge him to be very, very careful.

[Kraven42]

Access definitely possibly a cholo and also how come you're not turning him on in that way there is obviously something wrong with the sexual relationship more communication needs to take place maybe he feels like you're going to judge him if he asked for you to do of

[flirtygirl]

Let me get this straight. A man...a 14 year-old-girl...the internet...fetish.. There is absolutely no way that isn't completely disturbing on every level possible.

[jacquesvol]

Anything from a guy your age with a 14yr old girl is pedo and out of limits. Period.

[Asker]

Alright so I just found out that he didn't know her age. I guess I was a little too FBI on this one...but now he knows...

[Infla772]

Seriously... What's his fetish?

[ashleycarr19]

Yes obsessed

[Anonymous]

Whats his fetish?

[l-hedoniste]

LOL! Good, I thought it was just me.