Do girls actually like rebound sex or are they thinking about their ex?

[Moj8541]

i recently broke up with my girlfriend and she went on a rebound relationship. we are getting back together now and I was asking her if she enjoyed the rebound sex but she would get angry and tell me it was none of my business. I even asked her if she orgasmed with the guy and she flipped out on me and said no. but I read an article (although in a men's magazine, so it is probably bias) that says women love rebound sex and go crazy with their new partners. so girls, I'm just wondering if its true and if rebound sex is some amazing phenomena or it is just a means to forget and try and move on. thanks for the advice

[Louise123]

I do not blame your girlfriend for getting angry at you for being SO nosey and asking her very PERSONAL questions that are NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS as she has told you! How dare you expect an accounting of her sexual encounters when you weren't even TOGETHER! What a girl does when she is NOT your girlfriend anymore.. is NONE of your concern. Shame on you for disrespecting her privacy! Why are you so hung up on REBOUND sex? Girls don't rebound for sex - they rebound because they feel unloved and need to feel VALIDATED. They need to feel that they are valued, important, and beautiful. IS THIS what you are showing your girl? If you keep grilling this girl like a cheeseburger, she will dump you like a hot rock. Your behavior is WAY OUT OF LINE... Show respect. Love her - and STOP ASKING HER STUFF THAT YOU DO NOT NEED TO ASK! I'd kick your a** to the curb if you talked to me like that. You're lucky she's giving you a chance. Remember.. girls don't have "REBOUND" sex.. Maybe guys do.. but we ladies are not programmed like you after a breakup. You need to read a book or two about RELATIONSHIPS. Good luck.

[Moj8541]

Well you still didn't answer the question. and I was wondering if it was good because it was with a boyfriend that she dated for 3 years and not just some random sexcapade. and I wanted to know if she liked it because we are doing a long distance thing right now and I guess I'm just worried that if she liked it, what's stopping her from doing it again when I'm away at school

[budphillips]

Your insecurity is a major turn off to her. Don't think the way you're thinking or you're going to lose her, and quickly.

[Cmcwill06]

Haha, lies. Everyone rebounds given a bad/overdue breakup and the opportunity.

[Louise123]

You want to know if SHE was thinking of YOU if she was with another guy. Can't speak for her.. BUT.. I agree.. Your insecurity is a MAJOR TURN OFF. If she has chosen to be with you NOW - What difference does it make what she thought anyhow? You need to get over yourself and not concern yourself with SEXCAPADES.. Sounds like that's what YOU would do.. Are you projecting? You're worried if she liked it? Please stop. MOVE FORWARD!!!!! FORGET IT!!! You sound obsessed.

[Moj8541]

Well I just found out that she cheated on me with the same guy a week before I was moving her into my place, so should I feel insecure. and she told me that she didn't want to have the sex but he wanted it so she gave it to him. how does that make sense?

[Louise123]

What makes no sense is that you are even considering any kind of a relationship with this girl who is clearly too immature and confused to commit to you. I'd lose her - find a girl you can trust. She isn't it. Unless you want to take a few more rides on this roller coaster with her - I'd cut her loose. Without trust/honesty - you got nothing. Hugz.

[moonlight21]

Yes I just got done having sex with this guy and I DO NOT LIKE HIM AT ALL and I find myself thinking about my ex every single time I have sex with a guy. I never enjoy it though because they aren't not my ex.

[EliBaby]

You don't ask a woman that. Every single woman is different about the whole rebound sex thing. What's in the past is in the past. Let it go and try to have a healthy relationship.

[Cmcwill06]

To answer your question, 99.9 percent of the time rebound sex sucks. Seriously, rebounding sets your bar so low that you'll hook up with people you normally would not.

[budphillips]

You're asking questions you shouldn't be asking.