What do you think of girls who only have one night stands frequently?

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Guys-Do you respect girls who go to bars and pick up guys to have one night stands?Girls-Do you consider these types of girls to be sluts?

kateakanne · Accepted Answer

Having the majority of your relationships being one night stands or friends with benefits doesn't mean that a girl goes to the bar everynight looking for a new guy. It means that having that emotional connection isn't convenient, isn't a priority, isn't worth the hassle, etc. It doesn't have to mean she is emotionally stunted or has an attitude that is destructive. For some people that is true, but it doesn't have to be.

Having one night stands doesn't have to be a mistake. It doesn't have to be 'destructive' behavior. A girl can focus her energy on other aspects of her life, such as a career, relationships with family and/or friends, further learning, self-evaluation, etc. Not everyone can handle an emotional relationship. Some people are too distracted with the rest of their life to engage in one. It's a time consuming process. If there is something or someone in your life that takes up most of your time and energy, you don't have enough to engage in another relationship as well.

Having sex isn't a bad thing. Some peple consider it a basic human function. There is no reason to deny sexual activity because you aren't with the love of your life. Girls usually don't go into one night stands frequently thinking it makes up for that emotional connection. Some might, but others realize its something to keep them sane and their life balanced, similar to an extra ciricular activity.

Now, of course this also doesn't describe everyone who frequently has one night stands. Some people do have issues that need to be dealt with. Some do have an emotional disconnect. And some could be what you consider shallow and slutty.

But I consider slutty to be descriptive of the intention, not the act.

So I don't have any judgements against girls who have frequent one night stands or fwb. I do have judgements against sluts though.

pinkskye · Accepted Answer

To be honest, not my thing. I don't see a point in meeting someone new every night and hoping they're good in bed. It's a waste. I'd rather be dating someone who knows what I like and what to do. On that note, majority of those girls have they're own issues or insecurities and need to satisfy the urge to feel wanted. Some are "sluts", some are just lost and have no idea how to meet a nice guy. Guys generally won't date that type of girl, but if there's some truth to her a nice guy would give her a chance. Other than that, he's just praying he's the loser she takes home that night haha.

katiesmuff · Accepted Answer

I think if a person is single and free they should be able to conduct themselves whichever way they want without being judged by others. They are doing absolutely nothing to hurt anyone, it is just there way of enjoying life at the moment.

The question did not say anything about possible downsides to this lifestyle so will not comment on those posssibilies.

Phoenix52 · Accepted Answer

I think they're OK. Some girls don't have time for a committed relationship. But most girls in their young 20s just wanna have fun without any emotional attachment to a guy. They want to play the field and need to grow up a bit more before they qualify as girlfriend material.

Same goes for guys - we like playing the field, and sleep around as well. The more girls we sleep with, the better we feel about being a potential boyfriend.

Sex boosts confidence levels in both partners. It lets them know they're both attractive.

Slut? No. Sexually adventurous and risky? Yes. Girls just wanna have fun, same way guys do.

Jinmetsu_Rasetsu · Accepted Answer

I would not have respect for even myself if I were to go to a place for the purpose of a one night stand, let alone ANYONE else. I am not motivated by sex. I am not a virgin, but due to the past, I gained enough respect for the destructive capabilities of purely sexual relationships, I became celebate, and refuse to have sex until I am married... And I am 32! Moreover, I view people doing such as self destructive.

I have no respect for anyone whom frivilously destroy their livelyhoods. Including myself!

Allyfour · Answer

In my opinion its a slutty thing to do, plus its dangerous and reckless. Like all the guys said, no one has respect for these types of women or would enter into log term commitments with them. I will say this though, I had a friend that literally slept with almost every guy I knew plus a whole lot more and one day she woke up and decided she was going to stop and she did. A few years later she married a really nice guy. She just had to shed that reputation first. To each their own though.

Sephirothsekots · Answer

I respect all girls. Honest answer, it doesn't matter what happened to those girls, what they did to themselves. They are human beings, so I do honestly respect them. If I'm at a bar and I met one of those girls, well then I'd go with it. If I met the love of my life at the bar I'd go with it, that's the kind of person I am, that's my opinion. :)

vmw2008 · Answer

I think to each their own. I don't like to use the word slut as I think it's used in a sexist manner. What a girl does is her business. I personally choose not to do that sort of thing, but I have friends that do and I don't judge. I think the way guys view it though is pretty funny. They love it if they're the ones going home with that girl. But they neither respect it nor would they want to date her.

Weiklr21 · Answer

I don't really like that unless its mutual because this is america, not canada xD but seriously girls who go out just to have sex are sluts and deserve nothin less than STD's

Coups · Answer

Guys are having one night stands so what is wrong if a girl does it too?

Surely it's much easier for a girl to get a one night than there is for a guy...

I can't judge a person like that when I too would like to have the advantages that girls have when picking up guys.

Guys have to work hard resort to tricks and lies. While girls yea... sex?.

Well I as a guy can admit that guys are simple creatures... sorry dudes.

peace-love-couture · Answer

I think it's a very poor judgment on their half...not very smart.There's a difference between doing that,which is being reckless & thoughtless,and being promiscuous...I don't call girls sluts or whores though.

RemyJane · Answer

Isn't that kind of the defination of slut?

Kelsers · Answer

Yes I sure do :)

joraz · Answer

I only respect them if they pick me!

Directanswer3 · Answer

It depends. If she is single, it's no one business. Most people do or at least try. People have their preferences... I do not respect people in relationships that go for one night stands

sinful1620 · Answer

I don't lose respect for a girl because she likes casual sex. What makes me lose respect is when she has casual sex and pretends she's still some good and proper girl who doesn't do that.

Girls who have casual sex also aren't my type though, so I wouldn't have a relationship with that kind of girl.

afrolejin · Answer

the is not cool not only is it dnagerous but how in the world are you going to raise a child and say mommy was a slut an I don't know who you're father is to me it's just plain sad, girls like that give the good girls a bad name

bBop345 · Answer

If it's one time thing, you could consider that a mistake. After that...someone has a problem.

Butterfly_kisses09 · Answer

If they are going to bars to pick up different guys every night for one night stands then yes, slut alert.

LilPinkGirl · Answer

nah I do not consider them sluts...i let them live their live they way they wish. it isn't like it is affecting me. I try and not judge...remember the saying? "let he who is without sin, cast the first stone"

Brando · Answer

"Guys-Do you respect girls who go to bars and pick up guys to have one night stands?" No. It seems to be almost subconscious to not respect a person when they don't respect themselves.

moaterboat · Answer

No, I don't respect them.

Cartiphilus · Answer

I've read a lot of the answers from guys to this question and it seems at least most of them would not respect the girls.  Yet, I'm certain these guys wouldn't hesitate for a second to whip it out should the girl be willing to spread her legs for him.

cjwright79 · Answer

I respect women who are pious. Whether they got to be pious by disturbing a zillion weird d***s, or by praying to Jesus every blessed hour, is entirely irrelevant.

wonderingwhy · Answer

Me personally, I don't like the idea of girls picking up guys in general.  However, that's not to say that if he does "pick" you up that you MUST say no.  You've gotta have fun sometimes.  I just don't prefer the girl to be so forward and fast, always been a downer to me.

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