Is it weird to have a rape fantasy?

I don't actually want to get raped, that would really scare me. But I do like the idea of my boyfriend holding me down or forcing himself on me in role play. Is this weird? I feel like its kind of wrong and I feel bad cause of all the girls that genuinely get raped everyday, and its my fantasy.
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  • A little pervy, yes. May be the way you psychologically overcome sexual taboos you have learned.

    Sexual thingies that are consensual and do no harm are just that. Perhaps you can have him hold both wrists together, straight armed, over your head with one hand while making love and see what that does for you. I was asked to do that. No doubt she could have "escaped" at any time, but instead, she didn't, acted a bit like she was being forced and had a very satisfying orgasm. I am absolutely not int BDSM, but that is called "soft bondage".

    Years ago, the New Wave singer said: "Sweet dreams are made of these"... "Everybody is looking for something".

    • Don't forget "Some of them want to get used by you" and "Some of them want to be abused" from the same song.

  • There have been a number of women who have said that they have this fantasy. Some, like you, imagine it is someone they know and it is more of a dominance thing. Others take it much further and have their significant others (or someone they both know) "break in" on a random night and actually "rape" them.

    If you had the desire to actually be raped, then there would probably be something a little wrong in your thinking, but since it is a fantasy that you might act out in a safe environment, give it a shot and see if your boyfriend is up for it.

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  • No, it's not weird. It has a name but I don't remember what it is.

    I believe it's a common fantasy... Basically you want him to be dominant with you.

    I've had this fantasy before, before I ever even had a boyfriend... And now that you mention it, I'm reminded of it so now I want it >.>

    But no, it's not weird.

  • I think as long as you know the difference between fantasy rape and actual rape than there is no harm in it-- you just like the idea of being dominated and forced-- but you're fantasy doesn't hurt anyone I guess.

  • I think this is the same fantasy that many of us has and with the same idea of someone we know role playing it with us. This is a fantasy I have played out several times with guy friends and it is fun.

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  • Nah that's fine. xD I don't think it's weird, and I know how you feel. I sort of have the same fantasy, except it's a bit harder to explain since you don't really see many girls raping guys.

  • It's is one of the more common fantasies that I've run into. Usually, the reason that I hear for the fantasy is that she wants to be controlled by me, not injured or abused, just to submit to my strength. So, I don't think it's odd at all. I do however suggest that you role play with someone you trust and you set some guidelines and a safety word before you begin. Don't confuse your guy so he can't tell the difference between cries of ecstasy and cries of pain, ya know...

  • I think rape fantasies are more common than you'd think. I read an article on men's and women's sexual fantasies, and 35% of the men admitted that they had rape fantasies. I think a lot of women have these fantasies too. The below articles mentions that these fantasies are common in women.

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  • Don't be concerned. This is actually one of the most common female fantasies. It's just your preference- nothing you can really do about it but accept it.

  • its common to have these types of fantasies, a lot of girls have them, not that they want it to happen, its more to do with having your partner being in control and you feeling useless and letting him have his way with you.

    if you search rape fantasies in google or even on this page you will see quite a few girls have the same thought as you

  • Dont worry I have the same feeling it a fantasy you can't really help it

  • I kind of have the same fantasy... I would neva go out and rape someone, but if the girl (random or not) is up for it it would seriously turn me on...maybe it's just our animal instinct?lol