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My wife mentioned a threesome, how do I go through with it?

Tomorrow is my birthday, last year on my birthday my wife gave me a threesome. It was her and a girl she worked with and it was a lot of fun and hasn't effected our relationship one bit. Well about a month ago she mentioned that she wanted to have another threesome. When I asked with who we said probably the same girl because we had already done it with her before and I told her OK but I would rather have someone else. Well her and her friend were hanging out one night and my wife brought the threesome topic up and told her friend that she had one with me before. Her friend said that she would do one. So here is the problem. Her friend is drop dead gorgeous. My wife is the most beautiful woman on the planet to me. She is the mother of my son and the woman I fell in love with but she feels insecure even tho I reassure her all the time. When I asked about her friend and the threesome again she said she doesn't really want to do it because her friend is to pretty. I tried explaining to her that if it happened it wouldn't change anything that her friend would be like a sexual aid just something to spice up our sex life. How can I get her to want to do it again?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • You want a 3 some to be an experience for both of you, so you want your wife to enjoy it as much as you will. For that she has to feel secure, comfortable and relaxed. Last time during the 3 some did you get to put your d*** inside the other girl? If so how did your wife feel about that? If that made her feel insecure you might have to establish some rules about what you (and her) are allowed to touch and do.

    My girlfriend and I have been discussing having a 3some for some time and she says that she would feel jealous if I had my d*** inside another woman so if we had a 3some I wouldn't be allowed to f*** the other girl, but that other girl could play with my girlfriend for example. My girl is insecure as well I guess and this is a way of her feeling at ease. If you had a similar rule and midway through the 3some your girl was relaxed she might let you f*** the other girl, but I'm sure it would still be a fun experience for you both even if you didn't.

    • No I got to f*** the other girl last time my wife actually insisted that I did and go inside her. She gets off on that I guess. Rules aren't a problem its just that she thinks I think her friend is hotter then she is. I try to explain that altough I am attracted to her she isn't as beautiful as my wife is to me.

  • Almost similar problem I am facing. My ex wanted to have threesome with me and wife. Though I have discussed my fantasy before getting this offer from ex, wife seemed bit reserved, bit willing. Later she herself initiated the subject when we were watching porn. My ex is sexually very active like wife. I know if time comes, both will show their skill. My problem is future. Will it affect my relations with wife if I show more inclintion to ex?

    • Thanks for MHG.

Most Helpful Girls

  • By respecting how she feels about this particular woman.

    Your wife isn't against having a threesome, she just wants to be comfortable doing it. If you both can't agree on the third partner, then you should find another partner instead of trying to force her to do it with someone she doesn't want to do it with. Being insecure will not allow her to enjoy the experience as much as she wants to, and truthfully might end the rest of the potential threesomes you guys may have.

    I understand that it's your birthday, but engaging in multiple partner sex isn't only for your benefit - it's for everyone's.

    Look for someone else to participate in spicing up your sex life.

    Good luck.

  • You Can't! Has to be her's and her's alone decision

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  • My husband and I are talking about one.

  • Tell your wife that she can select the other party... with no suggestions or whatever from you, it would be completely up to her.

  • It should be a combined decision and of she doesn't like it then let it be respect her feelings and don't force her into it

  • Respect her wishes, she obviously doesn't want her "gorgeous" friend involved. Choose another woman.

  • ur f***ing sick, if your wife is as beautiful as you say she is then why do you need a threesome ?

    seems to me like your wife is hurt from the last threesome and was only doing it for u, and now she doesn't know if she can take another threesome.

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