Girls, how do you feel about guys wanting more sex?

[ryanchicago]

It's a weird balance. There's p*rn, there are movies dedicated to college guys trying to get laid, he gets turned on quicker than you when you make out, etc. At the very least, guys and what we want sexually is more pervasive and less dependent on a relationship. I don't think there is any question the girls I know love sex. They masturbate, fantasize, etc, just the same. But... In the end though, we know guys want it more or at least are more preoccupied by it. How do you feel about this. Do you feel awkward when you see a commercial with a girl in a bathing suit trying to sell to guys? When you walk down the street and see a strip club? Do you feel annoyed that your boyfriend wants sex more often than you? Do you feel empowered? Do you feel that this is no different than girls wanting to cuddle more or spend more time on facebook? I guess let me know. I've always wondered how girls feel about this.

[vmw2008]

To be honest, if we're just talking how I feel about it without bias, I'm totally OK with all of it. I'm a virgin but I feel I'm a very sexual person, I'm not put off by the topic of sex, and I see it as a major part of future relationships like guys do.

However, with the bias, I get annoyed and frustrated because society doesn't let me be that way. I'm not supposed to be as preoccupied as guys are. I'm not allowed to have casual sex to satisfy my desires without being a slut. I'm not allowed to a certain number of sexual partners without risking the guys who will want to date me later. Seeing a woman in a bathing suit selling to men makes me frustrated because the media caters to mens sexual desires, but not mine.

Girls want to be more sexually free. We want to have sex with you! Naturally women will want more of those sexual encounters to turn into relationships, but I know plenty of women who are just down for a good night. We want to have more freedom to express ourselves like you do! But until society and men stop looking down on women for being as sexually open, then men will continue to have a harder time getting sex. Because we are conditioned from a young age to be kind of guilty and shameful about it. Every time a girl is called a slut, she develops issues with sex. Every time she sees another girl get called a slut, she develops issues with sex. Every time she sees a guy saying "she's too easy, I'd never date her," a girl develops issues with sex.

All of these issues thus make it harder for you guys to get sex. It makes it harder for girls to do it in relationships, and it makes it harder for her to be open to experimentation. It really is a vicious circle. It's definitely given me issues. I firmly believe that as soon as I lose my virginity that I lose some of my worth. That less guys will want to be with me. Why do I think that? I've seen enough guys calling girls sluts or saying she gave it up too easy. To me it doesn't make sense? Guys want sex so bad, but when she gives it up you look down on her? She's tainted? Talk to your fellow brothers and get this fixed. I promise there will be tons of sex on the horizon.

[cyrus7]

1. ANYONE (gyuy/girl) that sleeps around is a slut regardless of gender, 2. "because the media caters to mens sexual desires, but not mine." no, twilight/girlie mags etc. 3. the reason for casual sex girls being called sluts is girls can get it WAAAY easier than guys (face it) 4. a girl that has lots of casual sex is not relationship material, so make your choice, either go be sexually free and restrict yourself from relationships, or don't and have decent/great loving 1v1 relations

[cyrus7]

5. "I firmly believe that as soon as I lose my virginity that I lose some of my worth." no, do it with the right guy and you will be worth even MORE than you were 6.easy girls get no respect, that's just society, sort of like how it's expected that guys approach women. 7. any guy who wants you for casual meaningless sex is not worth your time... why even worry about that ?

[cyrus7]

Lastly, this is not aimed at you or anyone else, just girls in general. stop devaluing yourself with casual sex, find someone you love and see a future with, and go from there...

[vmw2008]

My point is, men are not happy with the way these rules are affecting them. He wanted to know why some women had issues with sex, were hard to get to bed, had a problem with p*rn, and letting loose sexually. You have all the beliefs you want, but it's only hurting your sex life later when she doesn't want it half as much as you do.

[vmw2008]

Also, sex would be WAYYY easier for guys to get if they quit calling girls sluts for giving it! lol you guys create your own vicious circle. It's only hard because you make it hard. It's only easy for us because you make it easy.

[vmw2008]

Also, I will not be worth more than I was if I don't end up marrying the guy I lose it to.

[cyrus7]

No legit confident guy I know would want a girl to throw herself at him, we like a challenge and a girl that takes a bit to bed is a lot more respectful. I don't see what the issue is, girls can sleep around all they want, guys don't want that girl, sure they'll want to f*** her one night, but that's it, nothing more, they have no respect for that girl. You understand what I'm saying ?

[cyrus7]

I also don't believe in casual ONS sex, so that might be why I think how I do, but I don't have any respect for guys OR girls that do one night stands, sure sex is natural but that doesn't mean you do it all the time with random people. Sex is the most intimate thing 2 people can do with each other, and taking away the intimacy makes it meaningless and hollow.

[ryanchicago]

That's a perfect answer, thanks for articulating that. You really bring up a good and annoying point. You hear guys talking about their night at the bars or the girl calling the other girl a slut and it just has to affect how you feel about your boyfriend the next time you guys start to make out. My general opinion has been that within a relationship massive amounts of these differences go away, but my question was how you felt about the pervasiveness of it outside of a relationship.

[cyrus7]

Do you have time to chat? seems like we could have a pretty good talk about this :P

[ryanchicago]

I don't think too many guys worth having a relationship think you're worse because you aren't a virgin. I'm 24 and I expect that any girl I meet is definitely not a virgin, it's OK. Some girls I feel get very negative views of sex long before they are ever in a relationship. Partly because of guys calling girls easy/slutty/being creepy, but partly because of things like commercials or magazines, which I think is unfair. And I think society should cater to your sexuality more, make it happen!

[cyrus7]

I don't expect all girls to be virgins, not at all, I expect a girl to not open her legs for every "cute" guy. these "sluts" are what guys f*** for once, and once only.

[vmw2008]

@ ryanchicago: I'm so glad you can see that angle and feel for what it might be like. Trust me that the women you date in the future will be way more relaxed and open with you because you feel that way. Shows a lot of maturity and security. Even coming from a virgin, I'd love to meet and date a guy with your viewpoint!

[Fourkaitlyn]

I don't feel awkward at all for any of that. I'm completely fine with my sexuality and I even think that I'm more sexual then my boyfriend. Lol. And if he were a bit more sexual then me, I wouldn't mind at all. He can look at other girls (sure I'll be jealous) as long as he doens't touch. And if he is touching, is better be me. When my boyfriend is really sexual, it turns me on and I really don't mind where we are when it happens. I feel really good about myself because I was able to turn him on and ego boosts are always enjoyed. Lol.

[peace-love-couture]

No I don't feel awkward.I could care less about a strip club,a bunch of guys who can't get laid go there.Have no boyfriend but who the hell says the guy would want more sex?You?Society?Stereotyping much?Why would I feel empowered.Um I could care less about FB and cuddle,who says guys don't want to cuddle?

So basically all in all,you're saying guys have nothing to offer in life or have no other goals in life but sex?

[Anonymous]

We're not allowed to watch p*rn, remember? Well according to women at least, and godforbid we ask for any kind of sex.

[peace-love-couture]

You are so jaded dude.You're like a male feminazi lame trolling ass

[Opinion Owner]

Wow, is someone bloated today? No actually It's just not all that common for girls to be cool with their guys watching p*rn. I have never dated any girls who were like "give it to me, give it to me" out of no where. Sorry for my jaded view of my outlook on women and sex.

[peace-love-couture]

Nope not bloated,you're just a whiny bitch

[Opinion Owner]

Damn, ya got me there.