Why do men hate women who are sexually liberated?

[Anonymous]

Personally I don't want a relationship with anyone and just enjoy sex. I'm 26 and have never felt the need or desire to settle down and get married or find "the one" that so many people seem to be obsessed with. I just like to have sex, that's all. I suppose I am a bit of a Samantha Jones, however I don't view it negatively as others do. Samantha in my opinion is the epitome of what the 21st century women should be. She's successful, beautiful, and independent. She's the only reason I watched the show. The others are just plain pathetic with all of their problems with men and family, She's seems to me the only one who is truly happy with every aspect of her life, which is what I want. However, others seem to have a problem with my way of life and I don't understand why. I can understand why women would be upset, but why so many men? From what I have observed men usually want relationships with women who have had fewer sexual partners and just sleep with the ones who've had more. That's biologically how they are programmed to act, I understand that. However if I do the same thing I'm looked down upon. Why the need for name calling. Is it still wrong for women to enjoy sex? Or is it the fact that I can sleep with one man to the next and have no emotional connection whatsoever? What is it about sexually liberated women that men hate so much? I understand that we are considered easy and whatnot. But how is two people who have consensual sex willingly with no strings attached a game? It's just sex. Nothing more. I know men by nature are competitive so sleeping with a girl who was had many sexual partners may seem like no challenge. But what exactly are the playing for? It seems childish in a way if you ask me. I simply laugh at them whenever I hear some loser brag about how he "got in some pants" as he stated. I wonder what men would do if most women were like me? Would the finally adapt or God forbid get over themselves for them to realize not everything is a game.

[vmw2008]

I don't get it either. I've been asking this same question a lot lately. What is the *game* about it exactly? It's sex. And don't they realize, the more they treat sex like a game, the more women begin to treat sex like a game? The more they think it's "oh so cool" to sleep with everything that walks, the more women decide they want a piece of the action too? LOL girls aren't sitting at home squeezing their legs together waiting for marriage anymore. Reason being: guys are sleeping around at astronomical rates than before, and because they keep pushing when they want to settle down later and later. So why in God's name would a woman push off her sexual cravings until her early 30's to remain a virgin for a man-whore? It makes no sense. Plus she'll have some serious sexual dysfunction if she waits that long.

The guys don't like it because they want to have their cake and eat it too. They think it's OK because they're "men." Keep doing what makes you happy though girl. Girls are getting p*ssed, and soon enough there won't be any girls saving themselves because guys aren't returning the favor. Then they'll be forced to get over it or be alone.

[sinful1620]

In American society, women have all the power when it comes to sex. That's why when a woman has sex when she's drunk, she got taken advantage of, but when the exact same thing happens to a guy it's different. A girl "gives it up", while a guy "gets lucky" or "scores". Rape in our culture could be defined as "any form of sex not granted consent by the woman" because consent by the man is presumed. So one reason people dislike you because you're abusing your power.

Another reason is that you're bastardizing what sex is. Yes, it's stupid to presume that all women should be virgins. However, sex should be about sharing yourself with someone, not just some anonymous share of bodily fluids. So if you go f*** a different guy every week, you're just bullsh*tting yourself about being "liberated" because it means you probably refuse to take ownership of your own sexuality and buy a goddamn vibrator and continue to be the idiot dependent on others for shallow sex while you tout how "liberated" you are.

[vmw2008]

Lol what is said of guys who do the same thing though? He's "the man" when he doesn't care about the person and has anonymous sharing of bodily fluids.

[sinful1620]

"The man"? Guys hate players because, at best, they see them as childish, and at worst, they're beating you at the game. Seeing the guy who bangs a ton of girls as "the man" is a juvenile envy that is as applicable to adult sexuality as saying that all adult men love virgins.

[vmw2008]

Please introduce me to these adult men that don't love virgins? Every man I have met has become obsessed with the idea of taking it from me. I've read many polls on here in which men suggested that every woman they plan to date "must" be a virgin. And if they do sway on that fact, they'd accept less that a virgin, but they'd *prefer* one. Despite the fact that I'm a virgin, the obsession with it disgusts me. And I'd love for you to tell me that not all men MUST have a virgin!

[sinful1620]

Most of those polls are exaggerated and the questions asked are like "would you prefer a girl who's never had sex, or a girl who's f***ed everyone and their toaster?" Again, just check out the question that gets asked every couple days about whether guys prefer girls to be virgins and most guys who aren't super young and insecure know that girls who aren't virgins are better in every way.

[vmw2008]

Well I hope that you're right. I saw a poll recently that asked men what the highest amount of partners they would accept was, and the majority chose virgin. I was shocked. They usually claim it has nothing to do with insecurity. And that it's OK if they sleep around. I'm glad you feel differently though.

[sinful1620]

I think you should stop believing what you read in Cosmo, because no credible source would ever post such a nonsense survey as to claim the majority of men would accept nothing higher than a virgin

[636314]

So... You chose the life you live, and now your whining because men don't want to date you because of it?

Lol, sounds like the only one that needs to get over themselves is you. So ALL men should change what they find attractive so you don't feel bad about yourself?

[sa230e]

I don't hate sexually liberated women. In fact, I love them. I'm 100% with you on this. Women should be able to explore their sexuality and just have some good fun without being criticized for it.

[kcjmo]

For me, I'm not against a women enjoying sex. Two factors come into play, the fact that I'll never have the chance to enjoy the freedom to have as many sexual partners as a women (meaning that whenever a women wants to have sex she can, but a man it's harder), and the fact that the more different partners someone has, the more likely they are to have STDs.

That's about it. If I had sex with 20 people, and so did the girl I was seeing, I would have no problem with her sexual past. Fair is fair.

[bornloser]

it's better to live life and not worry about the social norms that have been imposed on us-keep your head up

[BigJay1]

I agreed to her question I prefer to have enjoyable sex and no relationship

[Anonymous]

Wrote too much. Did not read.

[Blake0048]

Show us your tits