Guys: Why are big boobs "hotter"?

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It seems that girls who're slim and busty are hotter than us who are slim and well, small chested. I have wide hips. I'd be a perfect hourglass if I had big boobs, but I don't have them. I rarely get told I'm hot, and I don't dress nor do I act like a nun. Nor like a slut. I get told I'm a really nice, fun and smart girl.Yet girls with big boobs (who are slim) get told they're hot all the time. You see the same thing happening with actresses. Sofia Vergara, for instance, is always the "hot" one, all guys think she's hot and desirable and sexy and they drool and whatever. Yet, say, Kate Hudson doesn't incite the same feelings in guys.I want to be hot, but it seems I can't unless I magically grow big boobs (because implants are a turn off apparently).Oh and about penis size, it's not the same because you don't see huge penises on TV like you see breasts, and also, only the first 2 or 3 inches of the vagina are sensitive anyway. I always get told that its' the same as penis size, and it is not! Maybe if you had your d*** on display all the time it would be the same, but it's not. So that's not a valid argument. Plus technique IS more important, and I have never given much importance to size anyway. About height, most girls are shorter than the majority of guys (there will always be a shorter girl than you), about hair bald guys can be hot (see Bruce Willis, Taye Diggs, Donald Faison and many others). And about muscles, you can grow them naturally. You can't grow boobs.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It's a fact: people in America, and not just men, idolize big breasts. Every year, American women spend millions of dollars on breast implants, cosmetic procedures to improve their breasts, breast enlargement pills, pumps and creams.

Considering the role that big breasts play in our culture and society, the amount time, energy, money and emotion that goes into breast enlargement seems justified.

But why do men like big breasts? You may be surprised to learn that not all men like big breasts (and we're not talking about gay men) - that the male fascination with massive mammaries is relatively recent, and is a localized phenomenon.

Not all men like big breasts

"Beauty" and standards of what is attractive and what isn't is defined by culture. American culture and society currently idolize big breasts on tall, slender figures (a combination almost never found in nature).

Did you know that in Brazil, breasts take a backseat to a woman's butt? In this South American culture, pert and round buttocks are far more attractive to men than breasts.

But during the 16th century, big breasts were considered low-class. The kinds of knockers men drool over today would only be found on a wet-nurse back then. The standard belle in the 1700s would be considered overweight today - but back then, carrying a few extra pounds was a sign of wealth (that you got enough to eat). And these neoclassical beauties had relatively small breasts - a modest B cup at most.

Have you ever seen ancient Greek or Roman sculptures at the museum? You may recall that even the goddess of love, Aphrodite/Venus, wasn't burdened with cleavage. These ancient beauties were instead well-proportioned with breasts that fit their frames.

And it's not just breast size standards that change over time. Remember Michaelangelo's famous sculpture David? The reason the statue doesn't have a larger penis is because, in Renaissance Italy, having a big penis was a cause for embarrassment. In that time and place, being over-generously hung was about as attractive as wearing a red clown nose.

Is it all just marketing?

The theory is that American male fascination with big breasts is driven by the advertising and media machine. Their explanation goes like this: children are exposed to seductive, sensual sexy advertising featuring busty female models. Children are taught to associate these images with arousal.

Fast forward: children are now adults. Marketers use the same types of images to attract their attention - and it works. So TV commercials, billboards and magazine ads perpetuate this big-breasted, sexy iconography. And children see it, too. Thus the cycle perpetuates itself.

Whether or not one agrees with any of these explanations of why men like big breasts, it's important to realize that the male fascination is real. People perceived as beautiful, on average, are promoted faster at work, where they make more money. They get better service. And they marry more attractive partners.

blahblahblah12 · Accepted Answer

Big boobs are NOT hotter. That's like saying why are big butts hotter. All the guys I've been with love my breasts (34B). Big boobs however, do make an impression, but it's mostly psychological. Just like a huge penis, it makes an impression (when naked), but doesn't mean it's hotter. All breasts have their beauty. Guys love perky and symmetrical t*ts, just know that.

I do understand that breasts are commercialized and put on display everyday and everywhere we turn, but so are big lips, tiny noses, big eyes, long hair, big ass, long legs, high cheekbones, tiny waist and big hips. You can't grow or correct any of these features unless you do so unnaturally (like breast implants), and some you can't even "correct" at all. You will see gorgeous women everywhere with a few to none of these "requirements". Big breasts in general are linked to sex (aka good time) in today's media. That's why women with larger breasts are viewed as sex symbols, because every time a guy stares at their chest, they can't help but think of sex. Same thing with big asses, but generally the front part of thebody is what people tend to look at first.

Megan Fox is a sex symbol, so is Jessica Alba, Kylie Minogue, Eva Mendes, and Britney Spears (for a while), none of them have huge or even just big t*ts. It's not about what's on your chest, it's all about the energy you exude. You mentioned that Katy Perry is a sex symbol, to me she's more like a classic beauty like Audrey Hepburn, except with big t*ts, but she doesn't exude more sex than say, Olivia Wilde (who by the way, doesn't have big t*ts).

This is a huge misconception and it's sad to see so many people misled on what true sex appeal is all about.

Red_Head_Em · Accepted Answer

I would rather be beautiful and elegant, any day over hot and sexy.

I have 34F-sized breast's it does not make me any more sexy than any other girl. Also from my point of view it has never been a positive thing, I've been bullied because of them, I have had trouble finding clothes that fit my body properly, had boys talk to my chest rather than my face (trust me this does happen in real life not just movies) and the guy that dates you not because he loves you but because he wants a girl with big breast's so he looks cool in front of his mates.

I've learned to live with what I have and I know I should be happy I have a bust so don't start having go at me saying I’m gloating because I’m not. All I’m saying is everyone’s different and the grass always looks better on the other side until you get there and see there are downs to every side.

Look at Audrey Hepburn she is classed as one of the most beautiful people who's ever lived, I do anything to look like her and she didn't have a huge bust.

Why would you want a man who's with you for your breast size, you want a man that loves you for you and your brains and beauty.

Trust me love your body for what it is and don't change it for any man and don't listen to papers they slag off everyone, they are never happy!

Love who you are, not what people want you to be :) xx

Killfest400 · Accepted Answer

Well, there's a lot of stuff in this one question, I'll try to do what I can.

First, why are big boobs considered attractive? The automatic answer seems to be that it's a sign of fertility. As most girls hit puberty, their boobs start growing, so boobs are associated with fertility and sexuality. Yes, some girls get basically no boobage, and some girls get more boobage than they can handle, but the fact of the matter is boobs are correlated with physical maturity.

Being a nice, fun, and smart girl sounds like a pretty good combination to me. I'd much rather date that combination with a decently attractive girl than some knockout girl that's a bitch and a moron. Not everyone fits the media's standard of hot- that's just how the world works.

Of course you can be hot with small boobs, just not a playboy model. There are actually guys who like flatter chests. Your actions determine "hot" just as much as your body does. If you had a stunning body but dressed/acted like a nun, you wouldn't be hot. If you chose to dress provocatively and act sexual, then you would be seen as a sex symbol even without big boobs.

It's not the same as penis size, true. Penis size isn't prominently on display, but it's more important, so it has its own place. Height, however, IS the same. It's directly related to hotness, you can't change it, and some people are pickier about it than others. Yeah, I'll always have girls shorter than I am, but that doesn't necessarily mean they're okay with just 5'9. Likewise, there will always be girls who have smaller boobs than you, and there will always be guys who are perfectly happy to have a flat-chested girl. Same with other features like broad shoulders, chiseled jawlines, and general body shape (skeletal, not muscular). Bald guys can be hot, but still not as much as those with a full head of hair. Muscles can be enhanced with effort, same as being slim (which is another factor that affects hotness).

The media doesn't reflect absolute male opinion. The media, lingerie ads, and "fashion" don't serve to accurately reflect opinions, just to exploit your insecurity and sell you products. The exception would be stuff specifically aimed at men, like Playboy, Maxim, Girls Gone Wild, and that sort of thing. While I haven't seen any Playboy models that are small chested, there are plenty of girls in Maxim and GGW that aren't well-endowed, so bust size obviously isn't the be all and end all of hotness. There's a LOT more than just boob size that affects hotness.

Yeah, a lot of guys like big boobs. If you're looking to be the next Playboy model, you'll probably have to get implants for it. However, hotness (and ESPECIALLY attraction in general) is determined by a LOT more than boob size. Nobody is perfect, and there is no specific model of what "perfect" is. That's just something you're going to have to accept.

Mesonfielde · Accepted Answer

Why are big boobs hotter, you ask? Because many people believe that that is the woman ideal that they are meant to look for. They learn this from the people around them, and the media. Because just like you, many guys watch TV when they are young, and the parents say "wow, that's such a hot woman" and that's what they'll consider "hot". It's all learned, and many people seem to learn the same thing from their parents and their surroundings.

Ignore all posts that say "it's biology" and "the cavemen did the same thing" and "it's the sign of fertiility" and all this stupid stuff. Do YOU look at guys saying "wow, that guy is so hot, if we had children together, then they'll be just as healthy"? I doubt that THAT is your primary concern.

Stop comparing yourself to the "media ideals". Just because they say they are hot, it doesn't necessarily mean they are. Each people learn their own attractive base "a woman must be pretty, must have big boobs, must be this and this and shy and whatever" and you link these to your own perception (you might find some women "pretty" while others don't, and you check for this trait in places where you think you are meant to find it) and you get a response if the girl is attractive or unattractive.

To sum it up: People care about big breasts because they believe this cavemen bs. I don't believe it, I hadn't heard of it until now, and as long as even the A-cup girl has a minimal curve, I still consider that feminine and attractive. And I personally don't even like bigger breasts, because it's a fun thought that "her breasts are bigger than her head" or "her breasts in her clothing is a better sight than her face", hahah xD

In terms of physical attraction, the only things that affect me are height, face, hairstyle - straight hair - (and also voice). Sidenote, makeup is usually a turn-off.

(p.s.: guys aren't insecure about their penis length until they learn that they are supposed to have 8 inches while the average people have like 6 inches. then they believe it's a big deal, while it's not. penis size is also a big deal merely because everyone is talking about it.)

bobair · Answer

Guys don't choose girls based JUST on how they look. Being "hot" will get you noticed but it won't land you the guy of your dreams.

Stop being so superficial. Stop being like the media.

Reality is that men choose to be with women based on how they make him FEEL. If you're sexy and smart then you're in. And being sexy isn't about how you look, it's about how you move, how you talk, and how you FEEL.

Choose to feel sexy and everyone around you will automatically feel it too. Notice how quiet girls suddenly get more attention when they've had a few drinks? It's because they're suddenly more social and they FEEL more confident.

It's this inner FEELING you have about yourself that will dictate how others will FEEL when around you. Choose to feel sexy and the boys will too.

I speak from many years of dating many women. The "hot and sexy" ones are the women with the most inner confidence and self assurance. The pretty ones with big t*ts get old real fast when they're insecure and needy.

~ Robby

My blog ( link )

Sekret · Answer

Its the same as asking, "why 97% of the white people just can't love black people" (I mean as a strong relationship followed with marriage. Its just who we are.

There are many Black & White marriages, and many people who don't really care about breast size.

The majority does - live with it.

jessthatgirl · Answer

I think it is just the media and yea. have you heard guys say that 'no more than a handful is a waste?' stick to that :) The media chooses big boobs because they are good for p*rn and 'out there' for guys to see. I think what makes a person hot isn't the size of their boobs but their personality. I mean I've seen more overweight people with big boobs than really slim girls with big boobs. So I don't know if you could say the larger girl with the large breasts is hot. Anyway it's the person not the boobs!

grassdi · Answer

Big boobs are considered hot typically among males because on a subconscious level they show a representation of a womens fertility. Naturally bigger breasted woman are typically more fertile than those not. And it seems like you have a misconception about growing boobs. (not to be mean) But you can grow boobs and they typically keep growing throught your life time, just more and less for some people. Drinking beer or anything that has hopps in it causes women to grow bigger breasts, no matter the age. Hopps contain a chemical calledc phyto estrogen which mimics real estrogen and causes the body to kick in boob production so to speak. Unlike men's penises though, there literally is a pill that can make your breasts bigger and its basically just a lot of compact phyto estrogen. I believe I answered all of your questions but if not let me know if you care to.

Tamikaze · Answer

Just because bigger breasts get you more attention, it doesn't mean it is the attention you are looking for.  Great, so bigger breasts will get you called "hot" and have a lot of guys staring at you, but that does not translate into getting a boyfriend.  I have guys staring at my chest regularly but they are not asking me out for dates.  Luckily I like how I look and am happy with my figure for myself, but it is definitely not getting me the guy and, if anything, getting me unwanted attention from idiots that just want to see if they can score.

azzhole725 · Answer

Not all Big boobs are hot. If the boobs sag a lot, it is not hot. The love of big boobs is instinctive in a human male. Males want to reproduce with young female. One sign of telling a female's age is by her boobs. Women with smaller boobs are hard to gauge; thus, they are  less attractive. Men can gauge the age of a woman with big boobs. Younger women's boobs tend to sag a little or not at all. That is why men love big, perky boobs.

Elcristoph · Answer

Hello,

as long as they have them I'm not to fussed, if I find you atrective Ill ask you out.. if your interesting Ill keep asking you out..

Ill stop asking you out if you have to many emotional issues..

its that simple

- Chris

NotQuiteNormal · Answer

My best counter argument would be Mila Jovovich.  Small breasts, but still a huge sex symbol.   For me, sexiness has less to do with looks and more to do with "sex appeal".

stargazerlili · Answer

your a bit warped chica love yourself for who you are if you only knew what it was like to be like one of the women you are so desperatlty seeking to be it ain't all peaches and cream I have been told I am gorgeous my whole life and I would trade it so fast not once has any one ever looked past how I am on the outside to see that inside is so much better than outside I'm jealous of the girls like you who can actually find someone to love them for who they are and not what they look like

Enuflogic · Answer

Just date a guy who is a butt guy.  I rarely look at womens chests anyway cause here's the secret.  90% of women who have a big chest only look good while wearing a bra.  Once that comes off, they fall, and stretch, and sag, and generally do not look appealing anymore.  Hence the reason I like a nice backside on women.  I check them out walking away more than I do when they are walking towards me.

Funkster76 · Answer

To me the sexiest woman in Hollywood in years and to me the sexiest singer (also both the hottest to me) are actress Cathering Zeta Jones and singer Shakira - both not big in the boob department

But I can garrantee there are a few million men in the world who would agree

Also you are looking at American magazines not magazines from other countries aournd the world.

Also preferences change with the times -

in the 1960s Twiggy was the most popular model in the world and was a bean pole with no boobs - also popular was Audrey Hepburn famous actress in the movie Breakfast at Tiffany's

Like I'd said earlier - there is someone for everyone

Funkster76 · Answer

ok - first off - physical attraction is what makes us talk to a person - mental attracktion is what keeps us there.

As for big or small or medium boobs, I know you don't like penis comparisons but in reality there are people who like big boobs and others who like small just like there are women who like big penis and small.

I think the problem is you as well as many women and men just just like you, worry about it too much. Just be yourself and ignore the superficial idiots in the world.

Frankly I always thought normal to slightly larger boobs were a visual attraction but in reality I fell for a woman who facially was the most beautiful woman I had ever seen and flat as a board in the breast department. So what does it tell you? just remember you are more than the sum of your parts.

Just be yourself and love what god gave you, you will find someone who feels the same about you one day.

PS the statue of David and the Venus Dammilo are the most loved and gaucked at art peices in the world and neither are carrying large body parts.

Enickols12 · Answer

The answer resides in prehistoric times. In the time of cavemen it was important when choosing a mate that she would be able to bare children. This led to man chasing after the women with larger breasts, wider hips, and with "some meat on their bones" because, to be blunt, they would have a better chance at living through childbirth and being able to reproduce again. That is the answer to your question. As to questions about why people are considered beautiful that is because of the media. If a child was raised in a world with no media and was told from a young age that 700 pound people were attractive that's what they would believe. I personally like them from the b-c range, but if I like the person for who they are they could have those concave boobs that people get after breast cancer and I would still like them for being attached to a person I truly care about. I hope I was able to help.

peace-love-couture · Answer

Boob guys focus on size Butt guys focus on butt Leg guys focus on legs Not all guys like big breasts The whole pity party thing is getting old

themastaplan · Answer

big boobs? YUCK YUCK YUCK YUCK YUCK...im a B-C guy, SMALL C if that...no way what the heck,...i lOVEEEEEEEEEE the ass over boobs any day...youre just going off what few guys have told you, its all about personal preference...me myself, I'm an ass guy...boobs are second...its what I'm f***ing that I'm interested in lol

as far as being a 10 and not having boobs...um what kind of guys do you like...i thinkg TONSSSSSSSSSSSS of girls are gorgeous without big boobs...matter of fact if I think a girl is gorgeous with big boobs I say "yeah sehs hot, but she could get a boob reduction" ...

who wants saggy crap when they are older anyways...i think you're a little insecure and need to start hanging around guys who appreciate you and your appearance

and girls are rated on a scale from 1-11...guys are 0-10...RELAX, you're going off some bozo's OPINION! its all preference, don't let it get to you

thegroupof7 · Answer

listen, our tag is "thegroupof7" there's a few guys answering right now.

Breasts are obvi sexually attractive to guys, but fact is its not the size that matters, its more... definition. its just that if their big, they have a definable silhoette through clothes.

and relax, some guys don't like big boobs, they think there to big to hold their own shape well.

besides when you meet "that guy "& u2 fall madly in love, it won't matter what you look like, you'll love each other so much you'll see each other as BEAUTIFUL. he'll LOVE you, and your breasts, regardless of size

wondermist · Answer

I have the EXACT same problem! I've never been told I'm attractive in any way besides my family (which does not count). Unlike you, I am slim, almost column with very little curves. No butt, THIGHS (oh so much thigh), and short. (Friend me some time? I'd love to be able to share some info I have in greater depth if you don't mind.)

I think the majority of guys would use the "fertility card", but science says that breasts are NOT part of any sexual function except for t*tty ****ing which was probably not around since forever. (DEBUNKED)

I would say titty f***ing, the media feeds the impressionable mind so they feel as if that's what they want and ingrain it into their little heads, more to hold, soft and squishy, MUCH more noticeable than small breasts.

mikenice8 · Answer

I like boobs that are proportionate to the body and nothing bigger.  No t*ts ain't to bad though I wouldn't mind them at all.  It also goes into how you dress to

cajundani · Answer

I understand your issues...I have overly large boobs, 36H, and they are not exactly the "hot" size either. luckily I found a boob man so I am good. but you don't see 36H in playboy or celebs either and most of those celebs are fake! Mine are all Natural! wish I could reduce mine without surgery! LOL!

i think the perfect size is D to DDs at least they are still perky when you get to my size they just hang there!

Eyez-A-Blazin · Answer

Oh that is such bs. Lets just call it a myth. In my world of ladies, I prefer small chested girls. enough to caress is plenty enough for me.

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