Can a man fall in love with you through sex, or do men just fall in love with the sex?

[TipHoneyDipp]

It may sound confusing so look at it like this. If you like a girl and you to haven't known each other very long but you know you are interested and she is too, can she wow you with her sex and seal the deal. Or do you tend to not take her seriously anymore? Lets say you met a guy and y'all have talked for about two weeks he really likes you, you like him you two talk constantly. You met up just not on date just in public places. On the first date you decide to show him how much you are really feeling him ( I hate to be arrogant but I know my sex is bomb!) .. so you decide to give it to him. He says things like that was great that was the best, can this seal the deal between y'all or does this break the deal. Does he look at you differently now? Is this in a bad way or a good way? Or does he keep talking to you only because of that? What do you think?

[peace-love-couture]

"It may sound confusing so look at it like this. If you like a girl and you to haven't known each other very long but you know you are interested and she is too, can she wow you with her sex and seal the deal. Or do you tend to not take her seriously anymore?"

It's natural for 2 people who like each other to be sexually and physically attracted to one another,it just means you're a sexual human being.

Now,with that being said,sex WILL NOT always make or break,I'm talking about sex in general(not bringing up good or bad sex),every man is different.More often then not,it can break the deal.The guy(especially if he is young) will think "If she gave in so easy to me,how many other guys has she given into easily?" He won't feel as though the sex is genuine(in more cases than not) and he may think of you as just adding him to your number or list.

'Wowing him with sex" could only make him think of you as a person for sexual gratification and I think if you head straight down to sex,rather than forming some sort of friendship AND emotional connection,you are simply FWB or f*ck buddies which generally,since men can separate sex and emotions,he'll have a block and may have no interest in getting to know you.

As Martyfellow said,if a female has to rely on sex to "seal the deal" rather than the natural connection and attraction between the two and her personality and who she is,then he isn't going to take the girl seriously.She has to make up for personality by using sex to seal the deal?Then he'll wonder what exactly is wrong with her and why her personality can't pull him through the seal the deal.

[Anonymous]

No men do not fall in love with women through sex alone. men are able to detach emotions and sex. guys can have sex with women they despise as long as they catch the nut they're good. it's the women who often get attached and fall in love, a guy won't. if you think that having sex with a guy will make him fall for you then that's just not true and you will get disappointed.

your situation that you proposed: MEET A GUY AND TALK TO HIM FOR 2 WEEKS? THEN HAVE SEX WITH HIM ON THE FIRST DATE? sorry but that is moving wayy too fast. most liikely he will not take you seriously and will just appreciate the sex. have you ever noticed that girls who are considered "wife material", the girls that get the ring and get the guys heart are not the ones that are easy? it takes more than sex to get in a man's heart. if that were the case then p*rn stars wouldn't be so used up and disrespected, they'd have men falling in love with them and treating them like queens right?

you have to establish an emotional connection and bond OUTSIDE the bedroom if you want the guy's heart. sex first is like putting the cart before the horse. there are a lot of men who have double standards. as in the will have sex with a girl that is easy, but when it comes down to falling in love and getting in a relationship...they will consider that girl too slutty to put on a pedestal like that and love. there are SOME guys who SAY they aren't like that, but lets be real, all these girls out here who are getting played, humped & dumped must tell you that most of them don't think like that.

[TipHoneyDipp]

I think my question is mistaken. I don't mean fall in love with me. I mean us getting a little closer its cool though I understand your opinion thanks for the advice. We have a trip planned this weekend with his bother and sister and law to the mountains. I guess I'll discuss itt with him then. When he took me to meet his mom, she thinks he likes me. But her opinion doesn't matter to me either loll

[Mightylocnar]

What you said about.. the wife material, and girls who wait for the ring.. I couldnt agree more rhat a girl that waits is the better girl. Nobody wants the short term relationships, because eventually that person will be gone. I've been dating my girl for 6 years. I'm 19 and she is 18. We have never had sex yet, and I love her like everything else around me doesn't exist sometimes. She hints at having sex, yet i never push it. I've never asked her for head... ever. Sometimes she just has an urge. She tells me she loves me and gets it on. Yes bursting a nut time to time is the best thing sometimes, but sometimes we all need to realize it's the tiniest perk of being with a girl. The rest is waking up next to her, going out of your way to make her smile, taking her on a vacation when she needs it. You are a smart girl, keep spreading your wisdom. All you said was wordly gold.

[Anonymous]

I met this guy one night totally fell for him... But I was with someone else at the time... We stayed friends and talked off and on over 2 years... He told me that I was the one for him and refused to have a girl friend over those 2 years. Granted I met some of the girls he messed with, but they were never serious... When I broke up with my then boyfriend, he was the first person I called after a month... from the first night we saw each other after that- we were sleeping together... We were inseparable ... Now going on 2 1/2 years of a beautiful relationship and getting married next july...

[SweetHeart09]

but on the 1st date though?..wouldnt you rather have a relationship that lead up to sex rather than sex that eventually lead to a relationship, there's a big chance that he'll fall into lust with you rather than love, but I don't know every guy is different...

[NotJustAnotherGuy]

Okay, I understand now where your last question was getting at.

Good sex is good sex. Just like you don't want to date someone who is a bad kisser, you don't want to date someone who is bad at sex. So if he likes everything about you, but wasn't sure about the sex, the sex could have sealed the deal. Needless to say, he should already like you for many other things by now too.

But great sex does not in any situation make a guy like/love/want you less. It's only a good thing. Like guys wondering if they should get a six pack or not-- it's only a good thing.

You can only be too late to have sex with a guy-- not too early. Because he won't have sex with you until he wants to, simple as that. So you can't be too early and f*** the relationship up. You can be too late and f*** the relationship up. A perfect medium will drive him wild for you, yes.. but you still can't ruin the whole relationship just by having sex earlier.

If I've missed a question or you have others, feel free to follow up my answer with comments.

[TipHoneyDipp]

Cool.

[vmw2008]

I disagree with this. Most guys I've talked to have said if a girl has sex too quick they classify her as easy and no longer consider her for a relationship.

[NotJustAnotherGuy]

Then why did they have sex with her, if they didn't want it? Doesn't that mean that they too (the males you're talking about) had sex too quickly-- because it's not like it's easy for a woman to rape a man... I'm telling this AS a guy-- and as a person who talks to other guys very frequently about women. Feel free to disagree, though. I just like observing people and making conclusions that fit the majority. But, perhaps you know men better than I do.

[vmw2008]

Yes I think the guy had sex too quickly as well. For whatever reason though, once a woman decides she wants to sleep with a man, she doesn't look down on him for doing it (even if it was fast). And the fact that he did so doesn't make him less of boyfriend material in the eyes of women. However, for some reason guys tend to look at it differently. He may love the sex, but he doesn't necessarily love the girl. And they often think she's easy/wouldn't wanna date her if she put out too fast.

[JohnHA]

Unless he was only looking for sex.. Then early sex ruin's everything.. Well I take that back.. It wouldent ruin everything because it was MENT to get ruined. You can't force someone to love you by holding back on sex. Get what I'm saying?

[katrinasanchez]

Ugh, at ymw2008.. If a guy classifies you as easy just because you had sex with him, he's not a nice person. If you think about it, if two people want to have sex.. both can say the other was easy which to me is very very offensive for both

[themastaplan]

Vmw....ok look, sure if you meet a girl and then later that night you f*** the guy would be wary of her being a slut...but if you two have flirted a whole bunch and you know she's really into you...that doesn't make a girl a slut...girls will go after what they want as well as guys...jsut because you are that person they desire doesn't make them a slut... sex feels different with someone you love and care about...u may not agree but just wait till you find that one person

[XoFoolish4uXo]

I believe if a girl has sex that early with a man, before she ACTUALLY knows him...then what stop hers from casually having sex with the next guy that she barely knows. Knowing someone for two weeks...does not mean you actually know him. Which is why most of the guys I know said, they would consider a girl easy, that's easy to get into bed. He didn't have to work for you. You don't have to NOT have sex with him ever, but having sex early doesn't make him love with you. it's lust.

[JuliedelosAngeles]

@themastaplan. A couple of days ago I would have disagreed, but experience has taught me different. So I have to agree: "When you find that person" its different. Sometimes it can take a whole life to find them, or you can find them in a day. How soon you're willing to jump in is completely up to you.

[archer86]

Just from my personal standpoint, any woman who has sex with me is going to have my complete attention. Why? Because I'm one of those billions of "Not-My-Type" men who just does not gain much success with women. Therefore, when a woman chooses me instead of younger, studly guys(AND NOT GETTING PAID FOR IT!), it should mean something special to me. It's not very manly, but I get locked onto a woman who's willing to go that far with me. Remember that women does not just sex with anyone unless they are part of the Adult Industry...or a trailer park ho.

Sometimes, easier is better. But each situation must be taken into consideration before one calls a woman "easy". I've never thought badly of a woman who's easy, I actually hated the players who were Hard-To-Get.

Hope this helps

[Chiv86]

I don't think sex will seal the deal for you, but it might keep him around for a while. Relationships based only on sex with no depth usually don't make it in the long run. If your looking to get a relationship out of this and not just a fling then you two should be more compatible in other areas too.

[TipHoneyDipp]

Thanks for the advice. But as I was stating we were very interested in each other in other ways before having sex. Would he think I have the total package maybe? I'm very smart, I have an amazing career at a young age, I am a younger woman (21) he's and older man (31). I attend his baseball games, I've been to work with him, we talk on the phone constantly now. I am very very attractive, funny and outgoing? It's just the time issue I'm worried about. I don't want to mess up anything since he has

[TipHoneyDipp]

(continued) hasn't officially asked me out yet. He recently told me he cares for me, which really I just take that as you're a good friend? Could he see me as more, or did I mess it up?

[Chiv86]

Sounds like its still pretty early in the relationship if its just 2 weeks. Don't look at yourself and think you messed up. That's only going to make you crazy. I mean if he is still calling and responding to you as much as you initiate conversation with him I'd say things are going good. He obviously enjoys your company cause you seem to spend a lot of time with each other. But he may just not be ready to be in a committed relationship, or may just be still trying to see if this is right for him

[TipHoneyDipp]

Thats understandable. Thanks a lot for the info!

[Chiv86]

No problem. But it sounds like you both are in a good place and enjoying each other right now. Focus on that.

[rdabby]

love leads to sex and sex can lead to love. simple!

[Mommi15]

Sex has NOTHING to do with love. This is a stupid question.

[TipHoneyDipp]

No you are a stupid reader...is that what I asked? no!

[rdabby]

Sex has A LOT to do with love. But you re young and you believe love is pure,fairy tales, butterflies, rainbows and all that crap. good luck!

[Mommi15]

Um...no. Love is commitment and a bunch of other sh*t. Sure sex has "something" to do with love but it can make a guy or girl fall in love with you. That idea is just stupid. I don't believe in fairy tales and all that crap, I hate butterflies, and rainbows have no good colors. I'm not that young. So I know a thing or two about love. You don't know me so don't assume stupid sh*t like that. All you supposedly "grown" people make me sick.

[brettb]

Well if you give it up on the 1st date, then there will be no sexual tension between you 2 which is good. You aren't making him try his hardest at what he actually wants to recieve from you. That's where I think guys get the most feelings is from trying to get the sex rather than recieving it. but I like this girl and we had sex around 1 month or 2 after hanging out, and I'm starting to get feelings for her like its my damn day job. So in reality, idk.

[Alaskaman]

sex and love are seperate to guys.

guys are not stupid. if you rush to bed with us, we know you've rushed to bed with other guys too.

we are as romantic as women. we want the warm kiss, the good conversation, the romance...

and it has to feel right. when that is depends on the couple and the circumstances. but a guy doesn't grow emotions out of physical act like that.

[thecandymancan]

If you knew each other, talked to each other and liked each other before than it does not break the deal at all.

I was once friends with a girl for half a year... one day we got drunk and fooled around. The next day I called her up on a date and told her I never want the last night to stop so she should better prepare. I was with her for 4 years.

But if you're not honest to yourself and there was no connection before you met than it probably meant nothing to him and it ruined the chances of him considering you as a girl. So it depends...

[chettah-two]

NO!

If you are great, especially if he percieves as better than him at sex, then you are a girl he is just banging.

Thats it.

If a guy is in love with you, the sex can NEVER be bad (for him anyway..)

[flower1000]

yes good sex can hook a man but he must also love something about you but usualy men love you first then the sex is good you will know if a man loves you when you say no to him for sex he sits and hugs you hold you and you watch a film hugged up having a laugh he will be content to just be with yiou

[martyfellow]

Clearly the latter...we don't take seriously women who try to 'seal deals' with sex. We have a lot of those women in the corporate world.

[Comte-de-Rochambeau]

Rofl

[TC123]

Depends on the guy - I would be even more attracted to her, but some guys have really infantile attitudes about sex and get turned off. Also, you have to keep in mind that relationships that last long term last because of common interests and not just "he's hot, we f*** great" type of thing - so if the two of you end up splitting from one another it's probably not because of when/where you had sex so much as you just aren't compatible.

[TipHoneyDipp]

Great advice! Thanks!

[katiesmuff]

It is extreamly easy for guy or girl to fall in love with the sex. Falling in love with a person has very little to do with the sex and so much more to do with the person in general.

I am right now in a relationship with a guy who I love to have sex with, but in no way am I in love with him. He can pretty much do as he likes as long as he leaves me alone and gives me the sex I want from him

[katrinasanchez]

Isn't that more of a friends with benefits relationship if they're aren't feelings involved?

[katiesmuff]

Sort of yes, except we actually live together and we both openly have sex with others. If he were to pack up and leave tomorrow it would be no big deal to me other than I would miss his penis and the penis' of his friends he brings around.

[toulouse]

I thought from previous posts you guys were in love- is this a new development? none of my business of course if you don't answer I get it :)

[katiesmuff]

I sure hope I didn't sound like or perseve to be in love! More like a FWB that actually live together

[DoctorSex]

Their isn't a right answer to this question...everyone differs. Same with females...Ask yourself the sme question but replace man with woman...and walla! You'll get as closer an anser from yourself than from anyone else.

[themastaplan]

I like this...very true

[TipHoneyDipp]

Lol. very true. I like!

[DoctorSex]

Lol are you two like ying and yang?

[NotJustAnotherGuy]

Yin and yang are opposites. Lol. Figured I'd just let you in on that secret. Fraternal twins, perhaps? ;)

[DoctorSex]

Lol dude

[Reiki_Z]

some idiots don't take you serius after the wow of sex but that's cause there insecure and or

are egotistical who just want something new cause they can't cope and be happy with what they have

it can deffinitly seal the deal

its a good way to look at you id say

im sure he always comes back because that love (sex) you give is YOU

its like lou rawls youl never find another love like mine

so id say he would only leave if its cause of the ego thing

[KarKingJack]

A lot of old romantic/erotic french literature is based around the writers' experience and falling in love with his prostitute of choice, as is a lot of 1940s hard-line american crime fiction. In modern society though? Fuck knows, that's what I think, LOL.

[KarKingJack]

I know I'd gotton much closer to a lot of girls and boys who I had sex with, suddenly, back in my promiscuous days, but those relationships were short lived and pretty intense, but I think the nonmonogamy contributed hugely toward that.

[KarKingJack]

'Course if youse are both interest in each other beyond sex, I reckon it'll help.

[The14thWonder]

uhm...probsly both?

[cutekid]

I would show much love,and if she returns d favour,sex would seal d deal,but sex isn't everything in a relationship,knwn how you feel 4 each other matters

[Barbie037]

Personlly I don't think I guy Can fall in love with a women through sex because sex isn't forever its fire between you two and eventually it will burn out..

[Mommi15]

I agree. Ur smart. =)

[sexylover]

they just want to get into your pants.. so I say after sex.. maybe

[flammabledude]

Im sorry but you'll never be the 'fairytale ending' for him... deep down the keeper for a man.. is not the slag that gives it out quickly, but the one they have to work their arse off to get.

[MrReal]

No if guys could then they would all love their hands but I could see a guy loving a body but not the person in the body its sad most guys can't tell the difference

[want2helpout84]

Thank you! I'm more than just a body! I have feelings too! That can get hurt! Oh it's times like these I really miss my ex! ='( he was one of the best things that ever happend to me but he's with someone else now. I hope he's happy.