I mean I always wonder because I know all kinds of slutty girls from different backgrounds and I can't pin point it. Not that there's anything wrong... Show More
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You have to look back on your childhood,past events and figure out exactly WHY you sleep around.
1)Childhood.Parents can give you material items,educate you,give you the best educate you,raise you religiously,or raise you to be sexually repressed,BUT,your personality is formed as a child and teenager.A child needs love,attention and parents to be parents,which means affectionate and nurturing.If they are missing,then that is one major contribution to your ways now.
2)Past events such as a bad divorce,tragic family death,sexual abuse(molestation,rape etc),verbal/emotional abuse or physical abuse and can cause child to feel unwanted,unloved,unprotected,used,bad,ashamed,guilty,and can cause the child to reap the consequences later on in life.
3)Why?Are you having sex because you enjoy sex, and for yourself?Or are you doing it to fill in an emotional void.Does it give you a sense of emotional fulfillment then afterward you're emotionally empty(AGAIN)?Sex is healthy,sex is natural,not everyone grows up with parents preaching to them right and wrong about sex or who give off negative views on sex.
I personally do not believe in using such words such as "slut" or "whore" or any other degrading terms for someone who has sex,especially since nowadays,such words no longer have "true" meaning to them.Insecure,jealous and immature girls will call other girls(generally attractive) sluts for no reason.
You just have to list WHY you have sex.I believe sex is healthy for you physically and mentally if you are doing it for the right reasons and are being safe about it.It's unhealthy when you do it for people other than yourself and are trying to fill some void,because all sex will do is continually get your hopes up and give you a quick "fix"
My only advice is to use protection and be safe.