Was that...a threesome?

[Anonymous]

Alright, I'm still trying to comprehend this happened. I really liked this guy for about three years, let's call him Mike.. We worked together and went to the same college. We would flirt a lot and talk a little bit outside of work. There was one semester that he even would walk my back to my place once a week, because our shifts would end at the same time. I almost thought that he was going to ask me out on a date. There was another guy that worked with us, let's call him Joe. Mike and Joe were friends. Joe was into me and asked me out on a date. I wasn't really into Joe, and liked Mike so I didn't go. Joe would invite me to parties and to his place sometimes, but again I never went. During the summer, Mike and Joe lived together. Mike had just graduated and needed a place to live. I was walking on campus and bumped into Joe. He invited me to get drinks with him and Mike. I wasn't sure if I should go, but wanted to because Mike was going to be there. Both of them where being cute and text me and called me to go to the bar. Things are a little hazy, but we all got pretty drunk. Joe asked if I'd like to go over and hangout or watch TV with both of them. Mike and I had made out once before after a party that we were drinking. I started to make out with Mike again in front of Joe. Again things are kinda hazy and I'm not completely sure how it happened, but I think that Joe just jumped in. Clothes came off and Joe came down on me while I made out with Mike.Then I gave Mike head, Joe came up and Mike went down on me and I did the same thing with Joe. Joe tried to put it inside me but I said NO, I still haven't done that before (and that is the truth) Joe stopped and then went to his room to go to bed. Mike was there and we started to make out again and I went down on him again. They both walked me back the next day and we had to face each other all summer.I still had to figure out what just happened. I felt pretty slutty afterward. The ironic thing is I'm still technically a virgin. I only have done oral twice before that. We hardly talked at first (only at work) Mike texted me and started to talk to me again. I stupidly agreed to hang out with him again. I was gonna try to tell him that I actually like him. We talked a little bit about what happened. He seemed a little ashamed too.He just tried to make out with me. I didn't let things go any further. I decided to invite him out to pizza, because obviously I couldn't be left alone with him. He never responded. I defriended him on facebook, I needed to just let him go.I let him know I was going, but that didn't seem to affect him at all. What just happened? How am I going to deal with Joe now? How do I make it so this NEVER happens again? Would guys consider me kinda slutty now? Should I ever tell a future boyfriend?

[oasis]

no your not slutty alright. things happens. and you move on from it. it happen to my ex too. she went to a party, met a guy she like. and pretty much when they hung out again. she got drunk and the same thing happen the room mate like her but she didn't like him. they had a three way. she just move on. and realize she well never drink like that again or jump into something.

it not her fault and same for her. she and you just got turn on easily.and shots also change your judge ment. it happens don't call your self slutty.

from what your saying. you feel like you pretty learn that its something you didn't enjoy maybe that the moment hornyess toke over but you relaize that's not u. so just move on

my ex move on from it. yeah at first she like it so she did it another time but then it hit her..this wasn't for her

now I have another friend she did the same thing and she liek it so. she turn more into party girl.

but again you chooese what you want to do

[l-hedoniste]

You have a threesome with a boy you like, and he liked you, before and after, but you cut him off because...?

What happened? You had a threesome.

How do you deal with Joe? Normally; normal people have threesomes, as you have just discovered.

Would guys consider you slutty? An idiot would. Don't date idiots.

Should you ever tell a future boyfriend? Use your judgement. If the topic of threesomes come up, and if you want to explore it, this would be a tale to tell.

An observation: you are investing a lot of shame into this threesome that it doesn't need to have. All that happened is what everyone in the room *wanted* to happen. It was possible for everyone to walk away from the experience well from it, if not happy. It still is.

[Asker]

That's the thing I don't think he really liked me (just wanted me to do things to him) none of us really had sex it was just oral.I cut him off because out side of work he ignored me (I sent him a couple of texts) When I asked him if he got them he said yeah and just shrugged. So he was clearly ignoring me. I liked him but felt like after that I just needed to keep my distance. I'm still tecnicqually a vigin. so would you really consider that a threesome?

[l-hedoniste]

I don't want to beat up on you, but you need a reality check: you're a oral fan asking about her first threesome; what, exactly, are you asking about your virginity for? I don't know what "technically a virgin" means--virginity is a useless, busted notion that's on its way out. I guess you mean that you haven't had vaginal intercourse with a penis. If so, a. you should say so and drop the virginity babble and b. so what? P.S.: Three people doing each other is a threesome. Why would it not be?

[the_cheshire_cat]

i just face palmed.

You young people act like idiots get drunk, and then when things happen because you werent in control you get all sobby.

Here's the thing. You put that booze to your lips means you are accepting whatever foolishness comes as a result of it. You don't want this to happen again? WATCH HOW MUCH YOU DRINK. Or don't drink at all. A good time does not exist at the bottom of a bottle.

So then you got the guy you liked, decided then you didn't like him...oi what a mess.

Just tell Joe you were drunk and stupid, and you'd like to pretend like it never happened.

i don't see a need to tell a future boyfriend what happened. it was your mistake, hopefully you'll learn from it.

[oasis]

so over all your not slutty alright^_^ just move on.and as future people you date. its up to you talk to them about it if the subjet comes up

[arashmenalagha]

WOAH confused girl!

[Asker]

so was that a yes or a no on my question lol

[arashmenalagha]

If you're physically touching all each other yes it's a three some otherwise it would be a watching third wheel.

[jjj26]

No, you are not a slut.

You just went a little crazy, that's all.

And, with future boyfriends, if you want to tell them that story, tell it in the beginning. More time you wait, more angry will he be...

[creative3]

Dont be woried every person hase done somthing crazy and NO you ar NOT slutty

Alchool makes people do crazy stuff .

I don't really know if that was a treesome becouse you dident had sex.

Treesome = having sex in 3 => like giving head to a guy and the other one having sex with you at the same time or 1 guy and 2 girls same story.

And with joe just try to not be ''best'' friends just make the conversations short but don't be to harsh :).

hope this helped you :)

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you had a party, if it feels good do it, if you don't tell anyone no one will know...