First date went too far... How can I redeem myself?

[Anonymous]

so a friend of mine set me up with a friend of his. He called me a couple of times and we finally decided to go out on a date. During the week before the date, he either called or texted me every day. We figured out that we share a lot of interests and by the time we actually went out, it was like we had known each other for a while. The date was really great. He made me laugh a lot, told me embarrassing stories about himself, kept telling me I was beautiful and hot, and said he was going to thank his friend big time for setting us up together. At the end of the night he unexpectedly leaned in for a kiss and things got pretty hot and heavy from there. I ended up going down on him (twice). Although I have never done that before I'm not going to pretend like I didn't enjoy myself or I didn't know what I was doing. I just got caught up in the moment... He texted me 2 days later and asked me what I had been up to. We texted back and forth a bit but then the texts just ended sort of abruptly. I haven't heard from him since then (it's been a week since the date and 5 days since the text). I'm confused and angry because I actually liked him and felt a chemistry. Even if he lost all respect for me because of what happened, don't I deserve to be treated with a little more decency? I wasn't the only person that night who got carried away. So I need advice, especially from the guys...is this fixable?

[KERMlT]

It really depends on the guy. I'm not like most guys so my answer may not be exactly what you are looking for.

I believe in wiping the slate clean. This one girl I was interested in got off on the wrong foot and I offered to start over. All previous issues or potential issues were pushed away.

I don't expect anything. I was watching a movie with a friend and we ended up kissing. The next day we went somewhere and she planted a kiss on me. I was surprised even though we kissed the previous day I certainly didn't expect anything from it. Some women are fickle and what happens one day doesn't mean the next will be the same.

She said because I was surprised and didn't try to grope her while I gave her a massage another time that I was good enough to date.

[jhova23]

I agree with Dorina, not much to say. Move on and don't lose control next time.

[Dorina]

I'm sorry I can't give you any advice. But a very very similar thing happened to me quite recently as well. I felt really used becuase after what happened, we never contacted each other again, like a summer thing. And I would love to help you, but I can't. Just wanted to let you know that there are other people that feel the way you do too.

And yes, you deserve so much more than that.