Guys , would it turn you off if you found a box of condoms in the nightstand of a girl your dating?

[Anonymous]

ok , I have been watching all these advertisements for stds and such.and how it only takes one slip up for something horrible to happen. so I have been thinking of buying a box of condoms and stashing it in my house. just to be safe. I'd rather have them and never have to use them , then have one hot and heavy moment and not have any around. Then end up making a mistake. I have even been in relationships where my boyfriend came over, and we got all hot and heavy, and he didn't have any. it completely ruined the moment. And I admit one time I did say "what they hell " did it one time with my bf. Now I think back to that moment and realize make be I should take safety precautions and protect MYSELF. not make it the guys responsibility to always be prepared but take matters into my own hands. I feel that just have some spare condoms around, would be me caring about myself. How do you guys feel about this? please, no hate from the virgins out there.cause lets face it the majority of the human population isn't waiting til marriage.

[skurge65]

What you are really telling me, a guy, here in writing and with the readily available condoms is that sex is casual for you. How casual I'm not sure but the more casual something is for anyone the harder it is to take seriously. If sex is as casual as a shared cup of coffee for you then put those Trojans in a dish next to the cinnamon swirl coffee cake. So, dudes coming over for a some piping hot coffee will subconsciously understand that they should invest their emotion only equally as casually. I mean, if you get to keep a guest book next to the bed then so do they right. It's only fair. Ok, if it's a first night and he doesn't have any protection then he wasn't expecting you to do the deed that night or is a hating virgin. You showing your readiness at that point will make a statement for the rest of your relationship. Like, I remember seeing the episode of Sex in the City where Carrie meets Big and drops condoms all over the street at the same time. Well, he ends up not taking her too seriously for most of the rest of the series. So much for her first impression. Like you said though, if it's a boyfriend situation just make sure to tell him that you are buying them after originally meeting him so that you can be ready for just him.

Maybe I should just sum it up by saying wait for the 3rd date to show him you have condoms?

[Newport100]

Well I could see if you had one or two in your purse, would be a compliment for the guy. It would show that you are highly interested in him and you expected good things to happen between you two.

But if you had a box in your nightstand, especially if it where like say, a half empty box I would have my doubts about the girl. Sure I would still have sex with her but abandon all thoughts of taking her seriously as a potential keeper.

Same thing would apply for a female visiting a male companion and seeing a half empty box of condoms in his nightstand, you might just go for it but you'll know he will finish that box off on some other ladies. You are not going to want to keep him for long.

[Newport100]

There is a work around, I understand you are just being safe. So here is the plan: Buy the box of condoms and place it somewhere NOT in your room. When things get ho and heavy say "Hey, my parents have condoms and I know where they hide them, I will be right back" Get the idea?

[Asker]

Parents? lol I live alone .....who lives with their parents at my age?

[Newport100]

Then say hey my roomate left some condoms in her room.

[Anonymous]

girl, you have to watch out for yourself and a lot of guys forget to get them, don't have them with them, or they have had them in their wallets, car or where ever and probably dry rotted. I would not be a bad idea to keep them in you home or in your purse just in case. You never know you may end up in that situation where you and your partner are really hot and ready . and oh no neither one of you have one. now what? ok now you either have to turn off that heat within seconds or you end up saying the heck with it and try other methods. PULLING OUT is not safe at all. you can get pregnant and stds still. I would not really care what the guys think. You need to just know you have plan and your being safe. I would think that guys would see that at least you are being safe and not just so carefree I would think it would make them feel safer too that you are being safe when you do have sex.

[Jarett]

Yes it would be a turnoff.

[bigascanb]

i don't think it would be a turn off. I think it will be a relief just in case he didn't have none and you did.

[gravygirl]

Thank you, and thankfully there are other men like you. I get so sick of the crap where women aren't supposed to want to have sex.

[Anonymous]

a BOX!?!?! I would be turned off for sure, the GUY should be the one with the condom.again it goes to the double standard of women being whores and men being studs for the same thing. I cannot explain THAT phenomenon, but I would definitely be turned off if a woman had a box of condoms unless it was all about JUST sex, and that's it. it is smart to have a couple with you at all times for just in case, but that means you haven't set out to ONLY sleep with a BOYFRIEND but rather any lucky guy that you want to

[gravygirl]

What's your problem you uptight weirdo? You're horrified because a woman seems prepared for sex. Oh no! It should always be a complete surprise to her!

[Asker]

Thats BS, I don't agree with double standards. They are stupid. The only reason double standards about women having sex exist are because MEN can't deal with women being sexually open ( in touch with their sexuality). Fathers teach their daughters to be virgin til they are 35, but give their sons a box of condoms and say" do with it what you will". It s all BS. i agree with the women who have answered, its not about being a whore, its about taking matters into your own hands

[Opinion Owner]

Wow.....maybe you both didn't actually READ what I wrote....OR I didn't communicate accurately. MOST guys will have a pre conveived notion of a woman who has a BOX of condoms, it is what it is. I don't make the rulses about the doube standard, get used to it. uptight? hardly

[flgurl75]

Just because someone has a box doesn't make them a whore or meant the have slept around at all. they are pretty much sold in boxes. they also could have had them in their night stand because they could have been in a long term relationship and had been practicing safe sex and had them in there designated for that person when they bought them. I guess they should throw them out and buy an individual condom just incase she ever meets a new guy and gets a little more serious with him later? geesh