Is it normal that guys masturbate although they have a girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

is it normal, I'm with my boyfriend for a year and I always tho he is kind of a sex obsessed but we have less and less sex now . but sometimes he ends up wanging himself when I'm sleeping in other room and watches pornos. he didn't use to do it especially he told me he only does it when I am away (its long distance relationship) and now he does more & more and he doesn't wanna admit it although I know. he said he did it once because he really felt like it and I make a big deal out of it and now it keeps on repeating. what do you think about it?

[Limey]

Sorry, I was in a rush when I did the first post (sorry for the bad English.)

A couple of other points.

Men who wank regularly, particularly during their twenties are far less likely to have prostrate problems later in life. So expecting your guy not to wank can be harmful to his long term health.

Regarding the wanking at night thing. Morning wood or morning glory, when you wake up with an erection, full name Nocturnal penile tumescence. "Every man without erectile dysfunction experience this phenomenon, usually several times during the night." wikipedia

i.e. your boyfriend could be waking up with a boner.

Speaking as a man, if you wake up with an erection (and sometimes it can be painfully hard) and can't get back to sleep, the easiest thing to do, is have a wank. It gets ride of the erection and after a man orgasms there is some hormone released that makes to you sleepy. This is why all men fall asleep straight after sex. The fact that he is going to watch porn though is a bit alarming.

Despite the negative feed back I agree with kazine comment to tell him to stop "watching porn when your around." If you don't like it, then you don't like it. He doesn't need to stop, he just needs to be more discrete.

Just as a little bit of feed back, about once a year my girl friend discovers by chance were I hide my porn on the computer. ( I just like very soft porn, sexy women in bikinis stuff like that). There then follows an embarrassing ten minutes when she takes great delight absolutely humiliating me, going through the porn asking me awkward questions like which girl is my favourite? etc

If you want humiliate your boy friend in the same manner, you could challenge him the describe the plot of one of his porn tapes. I guarantee you'll laugh your tits off.

Your having a long distance relationship and your boy friend seems to be having difficulty adjusting his behaviour when your around.

[Subotai]

Well its normal and not a bad thing. Fantasies and even porn are really not cheating they are not a sign of being interested in cheating in real life. If anything they are a sign of not cheating. Often guys do it because it is relaxing, some quiet alone time and it deals with our sexual urges which can totally preoccupy and make it hard to focus on anything else if we don't temporarily give ourselves a hand. I If he wants sex more than you it could be a way not to bother or pressure you. But if you are being turned down for sex and he's masturbating I would talk to him about your relationship.

[Anonymous]

Yes guys do this some just don't discuss it and some would probably would think they never do because they keep that private than there are many who are just really open about that. It goes the same for ladies. Many female do as well rather they are in a relationship or not. Sometimes doing it alone because they just are feeling in the mood to do so. Like the limey guy said below. if he is not wanting to have sex with you at all and only wanting to take care of himself and the porn thing is all he is interested then he may have a problem. I don't think tell him he can't at all is really up to anyone but him. I find it hard to believe any guy that doesn't do it at all. But I guess there could be a slim chance. It is normal from young boy till much older men to do this. As well not being just men, there just are more females who do not what so ever. Some couples enjoy watching their partner do this as well. If you are really against this behavior. I think it is going to be pretty hard to find one who does not at least masturbate even if there is no porn. Just tell you don't want to know rather they do or not & not to share it with you if it bothers you that much. Just like some guys don't like to hear about ladies stuff they pretend it doesn't happen lol.

[Limey]

Just to clarify, just as all men wank, all men also look at porn. If you find a man who doesn't look at porn then what you've really found is a man whos very good at hiddng his porn.

[Asker]

And he told me once that he never jerks off when I'm here with him and it looks as it was 2 long because we are already 2nd month together and usually saw each other 2 times a month for only few days so now it is different. any time I leave home for couple of hours he does it and some other times as well, let him do this but when I find out the other time ill share my disappointment of hiding it and that he doesn't care about pleasing me ;) xxxxxxx

[cuteflirtygirl]

Well my boyfriend and I have only been in a relationship for shortly over 6 months and I just turned 16 so we're not into having sex yet. Actually, as far as we've gone is his going down on me and he's learned how to do fantastic oral and bring me to awesome orgasms every time. Since we are not into hand-jobs or blow jobs yet and probably won't be for awhile because I'm just not ready yet, he does wank himself off because he told me he does and that's just fine with me. I know whenever he's finished eating me out he's very horny and he'd be blue balled every time if he didn't go home and wank off. Sometimes he can't because he shares a bedroom with his younger sister and there's only a portable partition in-between their private bedroom spaces. But he's still happy with everything and is certainly not complaining. He always tells me when he'd gotten a chance to wank off after he'd done oral on me and I just know that it's not every time. But I'd say it's very, very normal! One of my close girl friends has told me before that her boyfriend wanks off because once she even watched him do it once.

[ilovelegs]

In your situation it'd be very normal. It'd be hard for a guy to not get really turned on giving his girlfriend fantistic oral to orgasm. He would be blue balled every time unless he took care of himself at home whenever he could. In your case why don't you let him use the bathroom sometimes since he doesn't get much privacy at home? Maybe you could ask him to just hurry and do it so you can wach him and you might get a kick out of that. lol!

[Limey]

You should really think about giving your boy friends some more attention. If you are letting your boy friend give you oral but your not prepared to return oral or not even give him a hand job then you are being selfish. You said your only 16. I'm sorry, if you think your old enough to recieve sexual stimulation and oral sex, then you ARE old enough to give. He will put up with this situation for only laimited time before feeling your taking advantage. Plus its just as much fun to give as take.

[cuteflirtygirl]

Thanks for your comment. Maybe I am a bit selfish but he doesn't seem to mind because he feels he's pretty lucky to be even able to do that. I think that if I start doing like you said it won't be long before we'll want more and we just aren't ready for that for awhile. Besides, I don't like the thought of sucking his di*k or giving him a hand-job. We have talked about his using my bathroom to masturbate after giving me oral but he'll have to hurry but that's ok with him so that'll help.

[tt840537]

I agree with Limey. Man your boyfriend needs to grow some balls. I mean its good to satisfy your girlfriend but damn, you not helping him out in return, the boy is whipped (which I guess is good for you)

[luvstaci3]

i don't think that's normal because the guys I know just do it when there girlfriends are not around. I don't know though he probably likes the way it feels or something. maybe because you not giving him enough sex or you are not doing it the right way.

[Anonymous]

My best friend's boyfriend and her have sex all the time, yet, he still masturbates 3 times a day! It's totally normal for guys to do this, don't worry :)

[Limey]

Yes, it normal for a man the still wank even when I a relationship and even when he is have regular sex. And she its normal for a man to look at porn and yes its normal to look at porn while he wanking. Cheating in a relationship is when you have sex with someone else, NOT thinking about having sex with someone else.

The fact that he isn't open to you about when he is having a wank is also normal as most women accept men still wank but don't want to hear, "honey just off to the spare room to watch porn and shake the one eyed snake."

If want a man who does not do the above, then good luck. Tell the rest of female population where you find him.

WARNING, you have to be careful how much he does this. If he stops having sex with you and instead spend all his time looking at porn and wanking he can have a problem. In the same way that its okay to drink a glass of wine ever day, but its a problem to drink a bottle of wine every day.

[Novemberboy]

Yes it is normal for a guy to masterbait even though he has a girlfriend. I masterbait sometimes while I'm in the bed with my girlfriend if she's asleep and I'm horny. If she doesn't feel like having sex guys still have to get rid of that horny feeling or it will bother them all night.

[p-guy]

Yes, we do it all the time.

[attractiveontarioguy]

ABSOLUTELY it is normal for a guy to jerk off, it is in our wiring. 98% of guys masturbate, the other 2% lie. However, if it is all the time it may be due to:not being sexually satisfied (not frequent enough with you), the relationship isn't where it should be, or he may be a sex addict. masturbating for guys is just about getting off, with a woman it SHOULD be about making love

[Eamzy]

When I have a girlfriend I find I don't fully stop masturbating but I do massively reduce the amount of times I masturbate.

[kazine]

I think you should tell him he needs to stop it because it's upsetting you.

[kazine]

By the way, to all of those people who disagreed with me, I didn't mean tell him to stop wanking. I meant tell him to stop watching porn in the other room while she is there.

[cuteflirtygirl]

I think what you said was just fine. You didn't need to apologize.

[Asker]

Okey once again :)thank you for responses I do understand that guys do jerk off and I will never stop him from doing it and do it always and it is totally normal and pornos is as well normal, I just got upset when I found out he left room where he usually spends time 2 wank himself and chose it before having sex with me, it is how it is after time there is less sex & its normal . and I wanted it and I though I wanted it more than him 2 have sex how it used 2b but now he choses pornos, and he told me

[Tlambo]

Guys will always masturbate, it doesn"t matter if they are in a relationship or not, its just easier sometimes then it is trying to get their girl in the mood, the average guy regardless of a relationship will masturbate 4 to 10 times a week. Its not that he's bored of you or your sex life, its just easier. I would leave him alone about it and except it or you might push him away. If you think its affecting your sex life with him then you should definitely let him know that. If that's the case just talk to him and let him know that it is affecting your sex life, but that you understand that he is going to keep masturbating. Let him know that you don't mind him doing it as long as its not affecting your sex life with him. If it bothers you that he's watching porn, make him a video of you pleasuring yourself, or give him some sexual pics of yourself, that will probably please him more then porn will.