What makes a man sexy?

[Anonymous]

So, I thought to myself today, I know what is sexy in a woman (all too well lol) but have I ever been sexy? I wasn't sure. I'd been called sexy on a couple of occasions but never anything conscious. Made me think that to be very sexy it takes effort of some sort, but what? So, girls, what makes for a sexy guy? What does your guy do that drives you wild? Tell me about any experiences of a sexy guy and why he was sexy. Tell me what you wish your guy would do to be more sexy. Looking forward to understanding this mystery and giving a little back to the world.

[Taken-lady]

I notice guys occasionally that I think are "cute" but to really be deemed "sexy" I have to know more of his personality.

sexy = making me feel safe and beautiful.

I feel safe when I know you'll be home every night and I don't have to worry about you cheating.

When I've no concern about you spending too much money and I know that you care about our future enough to work towards a common goal with me. This means we'll need to be able to communicate well. A confident attitude with some humor will be a huge help and the ability to laugh at yourself and admit it when your wrong is a huge turn on.

I feel beautiful when you look at me with that spark in your eyes and smile. I love it when you put your hand on my back and open doors for me. Just generally treat me like a lady in public and private. I'll return the favor by being loyal, hardworking and fun outdoors and in. ;-)

The being clean and dressing neatly are givens. I also happen to like a fair amount of muscle and a heavier build on guys. (Not fat...but not like they live in a gym either. LOL) An updated haircut is a must. I don't like long hair on any guy and am also not fond of the "just got out of bed and didn't do anything to my hair" look either.

[Asker]

Now that IS sexy :). A girl describing what makes a sexy man and it being both something I am and something I seek to be. Thanks *hug* =D

[JustOneChance]

Well I guess it depends on individual taste ...

Personally, I think guys who are fairly athletic are sexy, you don't have to have a six-pack and all, just a bit of lean muscle (well-developed deltoids / trapezius muscles are far more sexy than washboard abs). And when you can see the muscles in his forearms, that's unbelievably hot :D I'm attracted to guys with short military-style haircuts because I think it makes them look masculine and strong, but lots of girls like guys with longer hair ... as long as it's clean and not too long it's OK, I guess. And good hygiene is always the basis of sexiness lol, like short nails and smelling clean and nice (some nice aftershave that's not too overpowering is very, very sexy ...). Personality-wise, guys who aren't afraid to laugh at themselves come across as more confident, which is sexy. Smoking / big tattoos / lots of piercings are massive turn-offs.

Hope that helps :P

[Asker]

Lol thanks. So I am just basicly naturally sexy by the sounds of things! hehe. cool.

[JustOneChance]

Hehe mmmm :D

[waifdoll]

I can only speak for myself, but what's sexy to me is when a guy really knows who he is. He isn't going out of his way to impress you, he doesn't change the way he acts or the things he says for anyone, he's just HIMSELF, unapologetically. It shows that he's confident in himself. I also like a guy who is more dominant. That is wildly sexy. If there's a problem, he solves it. If he wants something, he gets it. It's sexy if a man works hard to get what he wants and protect what he has.

Sexy is almost all in the personality for me, but as far as physicality goes, I don't like a guy to try too hard. I like a man to be clean, and smell nice, but he shouldn't preen. A man's not any sexier if he shaves his body hair, or uses lots of hair styling products, or spends an hour coordinating his outfit in the morning.

[Hades]

That confidence/dominance part makes sense. The question every girl asks herself when she sees a man is, "What can you do for me?"

[Asker]

It seems does seem that way I guess TheMainInBlack, but I guess I also hope its a bit more complicated lol. Kinda want to be loved for me as a whole not just for my efforts. Though, I do put in a lot of effort for someone special in my life, so I guess that's a big part of me too.

[Anonymous]

Pick up a magazine with pictures of guy clothing models in there and take a look - whatever is in there is going to be the widely accepted "sexy". After that, you have whatever that particular girl likes. Science has proven that girls like "bad boys" but they also like "funny guys". So I guess it is both looks and personality.

[Asker]

Thanks :), but your not exactly the target audience for the question. Its not clothes that make a guy sexy, its something else. Though possibly clothes might be important in that to be sexy one must look smart. Re: Magazines, its called "marketing" and it makes use of perception to sell clothes by association, however it is not the clothes themselves that are key (thats just the marketing).

[Opinion Owner]

You think they take expensive clothes and put them on ugly guys? Think about it for a second... THOSE are the images girls are shown of what is "handsome" etc. If you're still in doubt pick up one of those "For Men" rag magazines and read it you'll get lots of insight into what the pop-culture "hot" guy look, cologne, clothing brand is.

[waifdoll]

Just from a girl's perspective, I don't like the whole pretty boy, unbuttoned collared shirt, no chest hair, peering off into the distance thoughtfully male model look.

[Opinion Owner]

Of course, everyone is different, But the thing is you can better the odds by wearing clothes that are "in style" grooming yourself and whatnot. That's my point.

[Taken-lady]

Clothes are somewhat important but not like you imagine. I shy away from folks that have to wear the latest fashions. Many times they don't even look good in them. On the flip side, one who always wears ratty T shirts and jeans & never dresses up isn't too inspiring either. Neither is the dude that seems to be stuck in a style from 20 years ago. Dressing for the occasion & having several different looks is good. One final comment, I think most models look gay. Hairless and oily doesn't cut it.

[katiesmuff]

A guy who is confident of who he is and not artificial

[Asker]

I like this answer lol.

[BiggD]

Just keep it freshh and be confident in what you do and you could probably hav any girl