Why does my husband jack off when I'm home?

Instead of him jerking off to some pic of some hot chick/porn, he could be having sex with me. He knows I hate it, and when I hear him jerking off he denies it. Am I not good enough anymore? please help.

 

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    That means it's time for some changes. Way not try bj? Try this guide:


    1. First you need to get him turned on - be more aggressive, grab his stuff, slowly massage his balls through his pants, it's important that you act as seductive as possible - the more you're turned on - the more he'll be turned on. Pull his pants down slowly and act as naughty as possible - this is a great turn on.


    2. Grab his hand and lick on his fingers slowly before you give him head - just put his middle finger slowly into your mouth and suck on it, up and down, slide it slowly and moan - you have to moan a lot so he feels like a king.


    3. As you're licking one finger, slowly start stroking his shaft (penis) with your other hand, you have to be on your knees and he should be standing, look him in the eyes - this way you can see his reactions. You need to love giving him head if you want him to really enjoy it.


    4. Most girls make the mistake of being too soft - don't do that, grab his penis tightly and stroke it hard, as you're twisting his shaft with one hand slowly start sucking on the head (the tip) of his penis, curl your tongue around it, twist it in circles, then point it upwards and slowly lick it while you're watching him.


    5. Say something like "mmmmm I love it" then smile, smiling is very important - it conveys that you love it. Keep on stroking and sucking harder.


    6. Start talking dirty to him, put your hands around his balls and tickle them gently - make sure you are gentle 'cause his balls are very sensitive, as you're tickling, keep on stroking and sucking.


    7. Once you see that he's getting closer start stroking harder - and don't even think about slowing down. Scream at him, tell him you want it - tell him where you want it (swallowing will make him go crazy just as you want it) - then as he starts to come, you have 2 options - you can hold his penis or he can hold it - I suggest you let him hold it and squeeze it out.


    8. Then hold his penis and stroke it slowly, just as if you were trying to squeeze every last drop out of him into your mouth, give it a few more finishing licks.


    9. Then smile at him, open your mouth and show him what you've got in your mouth, smile, then swallow all of it - then look up at him again and open your mouth to show him it's gone. If you REALLY want to learn how to give a blow job then you have to read Jack's Blowjob Lessons ----> link


    10. Smile again, believe me he'll love you for it.


    Good luck

  • How long have you been married? and together?


    Anyhow, what you need to do is spice up your sex life by wearing something hot and sexy for him and seduce him and try new things with him.


    If he really likes jerking off then ask to watch him do that... or you could wait untill he comes home and see you masturbate and ask him to join... jerking off is not a bad thing as long as he doesn't ignore your needs and you don't ignore his.


    what you need to do is sit with him and talk about sex and tell him what you like and dislike. ask him about his fantasies and what he'd like you to do or what truns him on etc etc etc


    be open honest and do something about it, you two are young you should be enjoying life.

  • wow, well I think you were young when marrying this guy in the first place. obviously if he isn't wanting to have sex with you and is jerking off to a picture of some hot chick, you have problems. try talking to a male friend about it. my thoughts are that he doesn't want to have sex with you by choice. if I was in your shoes, id buy something super sexy to wear to bed and wear it to get something out of the kitchen, or when he comes into bed be laying on the bed in it, if he still isn't responding, then you might want to see a marriage counselor, seeing how he is denying something he in plain sight is doing. I am sorry for what is going on with you, men are jerks most of the time. if he ain't wanting to have sex with you, he could be havin issues with himself. has he shown in any way that he is no longer attracted to you?

    • Ok, do the sexy night gown thing, if not, then go get some help, or you can tell him if he doesn't have sex with you that you will go find it elsewhere, not saying to actually do it, but make him think you might.

    • Also, he said a couple days ago, all he needed was me, and looked into my eyes and said he didn't do it then either. and told me to trust him and believe him. right there, he lied to my face. and he always says I'm beautiful.

    • Well I've been pregnant 2 times out of the 2 years with him, this is the longest I've not been pregnant, I've actually lost 60 pounds. So, I don't know why I wouldn't be even more attractive now then I was when was we first got together. I'm always awake and wanting it. and when he goes off and locks the door and uses then restroom then I hear him its disgusting. maybe I should then lock myself in bedroom and do the same and make sure he hears me? or fake it. I don't know.

  • my suggestion is that you think of his masturbation not as the problem, but as a symptom. for the moment, snap out of thinking that this has something to do with you. look at it like a doctor trying to find the cause of his symptom.


    why, then, might he be masturbating rather than coming to you for sex?


    you say you've lost weight ... what if he's worried that you'll leave him for another guy now that you're slimmer?


    when did this jerk-off problem begin? what was happening during that time of the relationship? for example, if this started when you were pregnant and intercourse was difficult, he might've felt rejected or hurt that you didn't have sex with him.


    of course, these are only speculation from me. but I hope I've offered a different way to think about it...

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