Liking rough rough sex?

[Anonymous]

so I watched desperate housewives 1 season and brea's husband likes it (sex) rough, like her tying him up and hitting him hard with something. My husband told me that his ex girlfriend whom he lived with does "force" sex on him, and pretty much "rapes" him all the time. I want to try it on him but he won't let me. why not? and how do I get him to try it without force? and do guys or girls really like this stuff (rough sex, tying hands, blind folding, whips, hand cuffs) and hitting, or slapping the face or but really really hard. he says that his ex would scratch his back really really hard and blood would be every where, but he won't let me do it. why is that? and I don't bite or anything during sex, so when I do or what not (or lightly scratch his back) he gets mad... and points it out. What am I doing wrong? thanks for answering!

[amairiah]

If he’s telling you that he doesn't want it then just accept it and dont force him because thats rape. He probably has trauma from how extreme his ex girlfriend would go during rough sex and you also said that he told you that she raped and forced him so you probably bring back his trauma everytime you try rough sex when he tells you not to. If he says not to scratch his back then just don’t scratch his back doesn't matter if you do it lightly he is not okay with it. The thing that you are doing
wrong is that you are forcing him out of his comfort zone and you probably think that it is okay because you guys are dating but its not okay because if someone tells you not to do something then you dont especially during sex. you said that you are sexually fustrated in one of the replies so maybe find someone else unless sex does not top your love for him. In that case you should probably let go of the rough sex fantasy that he does not want to do because it is not happening clearly.

[katiesmuff]

Sounds like things got pretty extream between him and his ex which I am quite sure not everyone would enjoy all of that. Roll play with the handcuffs, tying up etc is something that is quite intreging to many and is a lot of fun.

[ManAmongBoys]

We like it rough. But my wife is very sub and I'm very dom, so I am always the "aggressor". We enjoy tying her up, deep throat oral, hard anal and anallingus, she loves it when I fist her - I've even f*cked her with beer bottles (not the skinny end). I don't slap or choke her, but hair pulling and very deep thrusting (I hit her cervix a lot) are right up her ally. And she prefers no lube - she says it reminds her of losing her virginity. I bite her frequently, and she enjoys having her nipples abused.

As for why he doesn't want you to do some of this stuff... I don't know. Maybe he doesn't feel comfortable with you having that animal side?

[Anonymous]

I think most guys are into bondage but not pain, although there is a big spectrum of pleasure before you get to too much pain.

I'd try going a little farther with the bondage and/or the pain with each session and see how he reacts. He'll let you know if it is too much.

[l-hedoniste]

I hope you realize that your boyfriend picked you for your top energy. So yes--boys like this.

As for your man, make him explain himself: "I like it. You want it. Why aren't we doing it?" This is bizarre on it's face, so it's his job to make sense of it.

[mahalic007]

its just a changing process and as you get older you start to calm down and if you don't there's something wrong with that person

[Asker]

We are not that old. we're both just turned 25

[mahalic007]

I know and things are gonna change trust me

[Asker]

Change to more rough sex? because brea and her husband are like 45 years old in desperate house wives. and have you ever seen sex in the city. those girls are like 35-45 years old as the episodes continue. they have hard core sex at old age too, so I don't think age is the problem really.

[mahalic007]

i like rough but not like tied up if he really wants to he'll let you do it

and maybe something happen to him that's why he doesn't want to let you do it

[Asker]

Like what happened to him? She did rough sex with him and he stayed with her until she cheated on him (for 3 years). So... what would change a guy's sexual preference if he liked it with one girl why not the next one also. This is strange. If I scratch his back or whatever he goes off the hook about it.

[Anonymous]

Your not doing anything wrong he just doenst like it maybe find someone else who does.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he doesn't want you abusing him?

[Asker]

Why would he let his ex do it to him for 3 years and not me his Wife? that's unfair and I feel like they got to try it and share that experience but not me. Like sort of jealous of that type of experience he did with her and not me. I want to force him but he won't let me. I'm sexually frustrated because of this.