Boys hugging boys, what do you think?

[selfishstars]

My boyfriend confided in me recently about something that happened to him and mutual friend of ours. They had hung out one evening and my boyfriend decided to walk the friend halfway home. When they were going to part ways, they stopped on the sidewalk and gave each other a hug. We hang out in a group of people where hugging is the norm---everyone hugs, regardless of their sex or sexual orientation. Anyway, a group of "frat boy"-types were walking by and made some "get a room" type comments, and then stared my boyfriend down in one of those "Go ahead and say something back---give us any excuse to beat up some fags." My boyfriend was really upset by this. Not because he's insecure about his sexuality and doesn't want people to think he's gay (he really doesn't care about that), but just because of how sad it is that people are can be so bigoted. My question for the guys: How comfortable do you feel about hugging your male friends? Are you comfortable hugging them wherever you are, or only in private places? Or is it something that you think "guys just don't do"? If you are open to hugging your male friends, have you ever had people who have seen react negatively toward you as a result? For everyone: What do you think about guys who hug? Do you automatically assume that it means they are gay?

[TheMasculinist]

LOL. Its not gay to hug a friend. Girls do it all the time. Guys do too. Its not gay to HUG a person. I hug my DAD...IS THAT GAY? LOL! I hug my brothers and guys I love like a brother, its a sign of trust and respect. Then again I'm Italian and I kiss peoples checks and sh*t. Hugs are about respect and love...not sex. I hug my cat and my dogs...but I ain't down to phuk em! lol! Shoot I've even puckered up and kissed my dogs---hell I gave puppies CPR once...that don't mean I'm into beastiality...it means I love my animals. lol! People, I swear, read into touch TOO much. Its sexist to think that a woman can hug a woman and hold hands and sheet, and a man can't even hug another man or he's friggin gay. lol! Great men who are strong enough not to question their sexuality and man enough not to be pussee-whipped by random college fraggots...sheet...they try that with me Id have walked around whoopin all their asses. But then again, that's how a soldier roles. I hug my fellow soldiers when they get home, just like I was by my friends when Id get home, that's just how it is. Someone calls me gay though...they better be a better phuckin fighter than me.

[xBurningSilence]

I hug my friends all the time whether we're hanging out at a house or out at the lake. Yes I get bad comments and people legitamately think I'm gay or bi but I could care less. I'm very comfortable with my sexuality and I know who I am and what I want their opinion means nothing to me, I'm not gay or bi so I don't need those guys to like me in the first place lol. If I see two guys hugging I think they're friends. Last time I was at the lake me and my buddies were swimming and a friend had to leave so we all hugged him goodbye and the local jocks made some rude comments so we all pretended to dry hump each other in a 5 man orgy. They shut up and left and we laughed it off lol. Anyways no I don't care what people say about me but I'm pretty used to it just because of the music I listen to and the way I look. I think guys that make fun of others like that have emotional problems which cause them to be a jerk to everyone, or they are in the closet and haven't accepted themselves yet. Other guys are just d***s with their friends and think its fun to be mean.

[snowangle]

I am also part of a social circle where hugging is the norm. No, not even that, hugging is EXPECTED. You are crazy and weird if you don't hug in this group. All my guy friends are super affectionate with each other and I like it that way. I love watching guys hug. It's like, "aww, that's great they're above being 'manly' and stuff."

Those frat boys are stupid. Don't listen to them.

[Thiezz]

What kind of social circle is that? :/

[snowangle]

Drama kids. =) Can you act?

[Anonymous]

I honestly think a man that can hug another man is intelligent and comfortable with himself, willing to have strong relationships with other men. Those frat boy guys were probably jealous of how close other boys friendships can be, that there is trust and no judgement or call out of "are you a f**?"

[toulouse]

I like it, it makes m think of how not all guys are afraid of themselves or other people- makes me feel like maybe we won't have world war 3 in a decade :)

[ihatework]

Or sooner

[toulouse]

Yes. or sooner :)

[rdr005]

I hug my guy friends on the rare occasion, but its more of that "man hug" type thing. I can't think of a time that it was an "intimate male -male" hug. I have hugged a few guys who were gay and thought nothing of it. Then again, being in a music department of mostly gay guys, I suppose people just think its natural, so it doesn't bother me, even if I'm straight... but even then, those hugs are usually like "hey! its good to see you" such as returning to school after summer break and such. I suppose the way the hug is performed may cause me to get ahead of myself and mentally blurt "gay."

As for the frat boys... just tell them to f-off and quit being so insecure about themselves. Lord knows they're all gonna end up in front of the computer screen at the end of the night jackin' off because no woman with dignity will let them touch them.

[brekehan]

I hug most of my better male friends. Especially after drinking. There is nothing gay about it.

It would be aweful high school to view it as so.

I hug my best friend at the club almost every time I see him and he is the club promoter! Trust me, both of us are quite sure we like vaginas and have both had our share.

Now mind you, a friend hug is one that goes around the shoulders. If arms are around the hips, I might raise an eyebrow.

[drummerdude27]

there are bro hugs and the hugs you give to a girl. bro hugs are one hand shaking and then like a quick chest bump while you tap their back. an affectionate hug with another guy I don't really do but I don't care if other people do. it's just something I don't do within my group of friends

[TC123]

Nothing wrong with a quick man-hug.

[ReeceforChrist]

I'm perfectly straight, but I prefer a hand-shake immediately followed by a hug with most of my bros, and I don't care where I am, because since when does hugging mean that you are in a personal relational love with them?

[Silas92]

I hug my friends Jake and Thor all the time! Course we do get called f*** for it, but honsetly who cares? I know it's not true, my friends know it's not true, what do we care what they think?

[arashmenalagha]

i feel completely comfortable about hugging another man, and I agree with your boy friend.

[thoronmegil]

I'm totally and completely comfortable hugging my guy friends, but I've had similar experiences. Some people just manage to say simple things that hurt REALLY badly. It's always that douchey fratboys too.

[mike5150]

I don't go up and hug my friends but we have done it before on a couple occasions. Nothing gay about a hug.

[RockyHorror]

theres nothing wrong with that. It's called bro-love, it's awesome!

[doctorwhofan23]

I think all guys hug each other sometimes. It is not gay

[Desires]

I don't automatically assume guys are gay if they hug. There's nothing wrong with it really.

I don't hug any of my male friends though... I'm not really.. seeing why I would ever want to. It would be weird.

[Daniel479]

Bromance.

That is all.

[sand_boy29]

boys think that his friend or the most dear one for him.. so they hug to other boy easily..

[Anonymous]

It a guy thing it dose not mean that you are gay if you hug one of you guy friends it like going up and shaking hand with them that all it is it dose not have to be about a sexuality or even what ever it just like win girls see one of they girlfriends and hug them that dose not mean that they are lesbians so it not that big a deal if guys do it or girls do it just a way to say hi to some one that all it is.