My girlfriend's boyfriend is obsessed with BJ's!!! HELP!

[Anonymous]

i have a girlfriend who's boyfriend is obsessed with bjs! Well I guess she gave him one and he kept telling her she wasn't doing it right...well she hates doing it and he wants it every time before sex. Well she hasn't given him a bj in 2 weeks...and he won't have sex with her! She told me that he watches p*rn all the time with girls giving bjs...she said it really hurts her and freaks her out... Is this normal? I know that if my boyfriend wouldn't have sex with me because I didn't give him a bj before sex...well lets just say he wouldn't be my f***ing bf! What advice should I give her?

[selfishstars]

Well, I can sympathize with her boyfriend in the sense that I think it would really suck if my parter hated doing something I really enjoyed.

But he's going about it all wrong.. you're not going to get someone to enjoy doing something by putting down the way they do it or by withholding sex in order to get you to do it. Instead, that just makes a person resentful and hate it even more.

If I were your friend, I'd probably try to have a serious conversation with him about it. Let him know that I don't enjoy it. Putting me down for how I do it makes me hate it even more, because it makes me feel like I'm not good enough. Withholding sex unless I do it makes me feel like you're trying to exert power over me and in turn, force me to do it. The way you're acting is making this an even more negative thing for me. You need to respect the way I feel about this. I'm not saying I would never give you a blowjob, but I'm certainly not going to go down on you or try to be more open-minded about going down on you if this is the way you're going to treat me.

It's hard to say if mature conversation about the matter will have much effect with a guy like this though, he sounds pretty immature.

[Anonymous]

play the game! ha ha if she really likes him she should stay but don't give any bjs and see how long he can last with no sex

he can jerk off and she can finger herself in the meanwhile

tell her to chill with a whole bunch of guys to make him jealous or wear something he likes and be like you ain't getting none of this ha ha if he breaks up with her oh well it wasn't working anyways

[hesaysim2sexy]

wow a boy in a man's body. just because he can't get what he wants, he refuses to give in and whine about it. pathetic douchebag. my advice for your friend: BREAK THE HELL UP with this loser and get a new one. damn boy you're sabotaging your girl over your d***?! lol patheeeetiicccc

[cutekid]

The situation iz complicated,..am sure nobody will force you 2 do what you dnt like 2 do so if he wouldn't do it with her because of d bj of a thing,.ur girlfriend should let her boyfriend go find it else where and probably end d relationship..and dnt try to implicate yourself with such matters...

[mahalic007]

lolz sounds like people are being stupid break up sounds like a d*** I don't reject my girlfriend cause she doesn't want to do something for me he sounds like the majority of boys that cheat on there girlfriend SO BREAK