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How do you know if a girl want to have sex?

I've wanted to have sex for a while the problem is I don't want to come on to a girl with out making it seem like I'm just in it for the sex. I just wouldn't mind. Don't get me wrong, I got girls and my boys tell me that she wants me to feel her up. I just can't tell what's appropriate and what's not. My question is how do you know if a girl wants to have sex? Do girls prefer we ask or just assume that we both want to have sex and just get to that point no questions asked?
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just remembered I had this...update: I ended up having a girlfriend then I just asked her...we ended up doing EVERYTHING together...then we broke up and now I've f*ked 12 more girls within a year and a half..anwyas thx for the advice
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  • Oh man.....been there done that, and let me tell you, asking a girl if she just wants sex---unless you're Brad Pitt or George Clooney like---don't do it! :)

    Rule number one----never ever ask a girl if she wants to have sex. If she wants to have sex and you ask the question, your chances are gone right there. I did that before and later came to learn that was a mistake! :)

    Rule number two---you need to start paying attention to body language. Do a Google search on that, and start learning about body languages. This is a bit hard at first, but you need to get that down cause it comes in handy......

    Rule number three---if you want sex, you need to take the initiative about it. In my early stages of sex, what would happen is that a girl would be with me alone in a room, and we would be talking and somehow the girl would come close to me, but I never did a thing! Finally one girl asked me if I was gay, and I said, why, and she said, because I want to f%@! and you're just sitting there not paying attention. Honestly, cause I was so clueless about girls and their behaviors, I didn't do anything. This girl was giving me a head massage and saying stuff like, does that feel good, do you like it, etc....from her point of view, that was her hint to letting me know, that she wanted me to do the same to her....I was just too dumb then to realize what was going on...

    I think is possible to know if a girl wants to have sex, but there are no clear rules. If a guy wants sex you can obviously see a bulge in his pants. No such luck with women. I think this 'knowing', unfortunately, comes with experience.

    As for your case---dude, you have it easy. You already know the girl wants to be 'felt' up, so then, get yourself in a situation where you will be alone with the girl. Not sure about your situation, but once you're alone with her, then the most innocent way of getting physical would be to say something like...'let me see your palms' then do some palm reading. Hell yea dude, you need to pick up a palmistry book and learn some basics. You'll see how the girl will be all interested in that. If palmistry is not your thing, then do a hand massage. Once you got her palms, then you say stuff like, 'wow, you have nice hands, soft hands, whatever....' From there you can say, let me give you a hand massage...Hell yea, dude, learn how to do those. Very easy. Get a book, practice on your mom or whoever. From there, you move up to her arms, upper arms, and u can say stuff like...well, this would work better if you took off your shirt... Here is the deal---if the girl let you do the massage on hands, then arms and upper arms, then she won't be thinking you're a perv. However, if she stops you dead on your tracks, then she might not want anything physical...anyway man, if you want a safe way to get physical with a girl, then maybe follow those steps.

    Learning massages are very essential to success with women later on.

    • If you do the whole dating thing they way you're supposed to, you would know the other person well enough to be able to tell what they want, or at least enough to turn them on to the point of you KNOW what they want.

  • As much as I would like to tell you to just go and ask some girls if they want to have sex with you (and then get back to us about the results) I don't think that would be the best advice.

    Yes sexual tension sucks, and what is worse, it actually makes it harder to get sex (because you are thinking about it and wanting it, girls pick up on that, and won't give it to you).

    There is really no way to tell (without asking) if a girl wants to have sex, but what I have found out is about 99% of them do,... that doesn't mean that they want to have sex you though.

    The best advice that I can give is that you need to not want it to get it (very Zen, and hard to do I know). I do want to say though, that at your age, be very careful about what you choose to do since society is so hard about the statutory rape thing (and you can get nailed with any girl that you sleep with that is under 18, even if she wanted to also).

    Best of luck,.... but if you do start going up to girls and asking for the sex, please let us know how that goes.

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  • Just make a minor move on her (like get closer, kiss her, but don't like stick your hand down her pants). then see where she takes it from there. if she doesn't keep going or take your hand off, then she probably wants to have sex. when I don't wanna have sex I tell the guy to leave me alone, so if she doesn't then that means she wants to F!

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  • Oh man... been there done that, and let me tell you, asking a girl if she just wants sex---unless you're Brad Pitt or George Clooney like---don't do it! :)

    Rule number one----never ever ask a girl if she wants to have sex. If she wants to have sex and you ask the question, your chances are gone right there. I did that before and later came to learn that was a mistake! :)

    Rule number two---you need to start paying attention to body language. Do a Google search on that, and start learning about body languages. This is a bit hard at first, but you need to get that down cause it comes in handy...

    Rule number three---if you want sex, you need to take the initiative about it. In my early stages of sex, what would happen is that a girl would be with me alone in a room, and we would be talking and somehow the girl would come close to me, but I never did a thing! Finally one girl asked me if I was gay, and I said, why, and she said, because I want to f%@! and you're just sitting there not paying attention. Honestly, cause I was so clueless about girls and their behaviors, I didn't do anything. This girl was giving me a head massage and saying stuff like, does that feel good, do you like it, etc... from her point of view, that was her hint to letting me know, that she wanted me to do the same to her... I was just too dumb then to realize what was going on...

    I think is possible to know if a girl wants to have sex, but there are no clear rules. If a guy wants sex you can obviously see a bulge in his pants. No such luck with women. I think this 'knowing', unfortunately, comes with experience.

    As for your case---dude, you have it easy. You already know the girl wants to be 'felt' up, so then, get yourself in a situation where you will be alone with the girl. Not sure about your situation, but once you're alone with her, then the most innocent way of getting physical would be to say something like...'let me see your palms' then do some palm reading. Hell yea dude, you need to pick up a palmistry book and learn some basics. You'll see how the girl will be all interested in that. If palmistry is not your thing, then do a hand massage. Once you got her palms, then you say stuff like, 'wow, you have nice hands, soft hands, whatever...' From there you can say, let me give you a hand massage... Hell yea, dude, learn how to do those. Very easy. Get a book, practice on your mom or whoever. From there, you move up to her arms, upper arms, and u can say stuff like... well, this would work better if you took off your shirt... Here is the deal---if the girl let you do the massage on hands, then arms and upper arms, then she won't be thinking you're a perv. However, if she stops you dead on your tracks, then she might not want anything physical... anyway man, if you want a safe way to get physical with a girl, then maybe follow those steps.

    Learning massages are very essential to success with women later on.

  • You could just ask...

  • Sometimes they assume, but sometimes they don't assume.

    If you've been with her for some time, you can gently tell her one day that you are comfortable going further if she ever wants to. But also tell her that you won't bring it up again, you just wanted to let her know for the future, so that she can be the one to bring it up.

    She should be fine with you saying that, and she won't feel pressure.

  • Play a Q & A game...then after a while start asking sexual thing...like "would you like it if A GUY did such and such"...

    • And then at a random point in time replace "a guy" with "I"

  • I think we she look at you with intimate. hehe

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